Hate having friends

[kissleo234]

Hey everyone I'm new here and I wanted to start a thread on do you sometimes or all the time wish you didn't have any friends and wish people would just leave you be and not talk to you. Cause for me friends are starting to annoy me all the time and i wish they could just disappear and that i will finally be left alone to my happy solitude. I really like having no one to talk to in the real world out of this computer of me.::

 

[Remus]

I've had waves of feeling this way at times, I think it's part of my schizotypal make up.

 

[Foxface]

Hey everyone I'm new here and I wanted to start a thread on do you sometimes or all the time wish you didn't have any friends and wish people would just leave you be and not talk to you. Cause for me friends are starting to annoy me all the time and i wish they could just disappear and that i will finally be left alone to my happy solitude. I really like having no one to talk to in the real world out of this computer of me.::

Than they aren't you friends. True friends stay, when the others walk out. True friends are always there for you, that's a friend.

If they don't care, they ain't your friend.

 

[Section_31]

I do quite a bit.

Im very particular about who i call a friend. There are plain people i know, and then there are friends. Id have to say if i counted i have only 2 real, true friends. And both of them are also family. Ive just never let anyone else in, save for people on here.

For some reason it doesnt bother me. I prefer to be left alone to do my own thing. In highschool it would drive me absolutely banana's if "friends" would drop by without calling me first. I have no idea why but it was a huge huge thing, i hated it.

So glad almost everybody i knew has moved on now.

 

[Bubo]

I often have the same feelings. People are so difficult to deal with and annoying, I'd much rather stay alone than deal with them. I feel awful for thinking that way about my friends. But that's even more reason for me not to have friends. It keeps me from getting hurt and hurting others.

 

[Waybuloo]

I can't not have face to face contact or else I would go quite mad ehahe ehaha. I do however find people annoying and certain traits can grate on me over time. I understand that this is normal and that most people can let things go. I act very generous and accommodating but get pissed off behind their back. Not having friends is much easier to live with, literally. They don't make a big dent on your wallet due to all those obligatory present giving and outings. I do like to go out and receive presents though. eh can't win.

 

[Hellhound]

I can't live without my friends. I'd give anything to live closer to them. I guess I don't share the same feeling ::

 

[chibiXphantom]

i dont really have the need to have friends. i quit hanging out with people cause people annoy me. when i used to have friends over, it would be a relief when they'd finally leave and i could just relax without anyone around. i cant even stand when a lot of people text me. i prefer just one person to talk to

i dont like people very much. only a select few people i do like.

 

[Meggy0001]

No way, then I would really be sad! I like having someone to laugh, talk, cry, smile et cetera with, when I am by melf I seem to think too much about how bad things are and when I a with friends I am just happy and don't think about those sort of things for ages.

I used to have no one to talk to you and it sucked! seing everyone laugh and talk and me having so much to say but no one to say to

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

Be careful what you wish for they say and it is true. I don't have any friends. I often go crazy 'cause I want to go out but there is no one to go out with. But that is just me of course.

 

[Valhalla]

I don't have any actual friends. I'm rather the person who's being hated.

 

[OceanMist]

I've found that both having friends and not having friends have their downfalls. I currently don't hang out with friends. I feel lonely often but I am also less anxious and am avoiding the insane boredom and disappointment from not being able to connect with others. Having friends became a constant struggle and I started to hate being around them.

I tried the friend thing for years and it just wasn't working out. They eventually just started shutting me out in a condescending kind of manner, and my reaction to that action was to shut them out completely and stop hanging around them.

People tell me I had bad friends, well not all of them are bad per se, but I also think that people are people and if I can't connect with that many people, then I probably will struggle to connect with others. I've always struggled with getting people to understand me, even my best of friends never got me.

Desire seems to be the biggest issue. I don't have the desire to talk to people in many cases, and I don't have much of a desire to be around people. When that desire isn't there, the sacrifice of going out and being the bored outcast that constantly struggles to connect with others just isn't very appealing.

 

[cowboyup]

I have a couple people I can converse with, without getting too annoyed. My problem (for lack of better word) seems to mirror a lot of others here - annoyance with others. Plus I've always done things on my own, so I am used to being alone.

I read something the other day that summed it up: "There are about 7 billion people on this planet and I can only stand about 5 people"

 

[Silentknight]

In my case the subject of personal relationships is a very sharp double edged blade. I would love nothing more then to have a good circle of friends. A group of people to discuss topics of mutual interest with, the idea of going out with four or five friends and talking about music, politics, or just general meandering about the world makes me smile. But unfortunately I myself sabotage that from ever happening, I've made it a habit to allow people to grow close to me and then quietly and without warning push them away. Nothing dramatic, no arguments or conflicts, I just slowly lessen my contact with the person until I feel they would no longer notice that I'm gone and then I break contact completely. I've done this many times, in fact I'm right now in the process of doing it again with someone who has probably been closer to me then anyone has ever gotten. I don't know why I do it but I'm sure there is some subconscious reason for it.