Guys...are you..nice?
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diesel
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well as long as i dont actually tell a lie to me its not as bad , the girl im with know probably is the solid relationship type but im soooo not ha . she will find out soon enough but only when i have something else to move onto , thats probably the worst part of it really .
KiaKaha
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And I thought I was the only one...
mrb
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mrb
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userremoved
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Well you can lie with more than words. If your actions are deceptive then it's the same thing in my opinion. However it sounds like they don't want the truth anyways, they're in their own little world or fairy tales and fantasies.
I would think I am.
I've never gone out of my way to hurt someone's feelings.
Although my pessimistic/snark attitude occasionally rubs folks the wrong way, If I bother you then you need to realize that it's just YOUR fault and I love you.
you are all my children and I love you long time
I've never gone out of my way to hurt someone's feelings.
Although my pessimistic/snark attitude occasionally rubs folks the wrong way, If I bother you then you need to realize that it's just YOUR fault and I love you.
you are all my children and I love you long time
mrb
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PisceanWisdom
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Exactly. Which makes you seem like liars. It takes respect, and intimacy for a person to tell someone the truth.
Come on, this is a social anxiety board. It's like, they act polite to you, but who knows what the hell they're thinking.
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It looks like a lot of people read the title, but not the original post.
Declaring whether or not you're nice is pointless. Even if the answer is honest, a lot of truly monstrous people seriously believe themselves to be nice. It's more to do with your self-image than actual niceness.
Am I nice? Those we have had dealings with for a long time are best qualified to answer such a question, not ourselves.
Declaring whether or not you're nice is pointless. Even if the answer is honest, a lot of truly monstrous people seriously believe themselves to be nice. It's more to do with your self-image than actual niceness.
Am I nice? Those we have had dealings with for a long time are best qualified to answer such a question, not ourselves.
JustinDaniel
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I'm 6'5, 300 lbs. I was a maximum security corrections officer. I have been trained to deal with things most of you can't even concive of. I've dressed out in full riot armor, and "thrown down" with murderers, rapists, and armerd robbers. but in my heart i'm a nice guy, i want love, i want to express tenderness and comfort. I'm just afraid to, iv'e always been.
Wow. Who ever thought this thread would wake up?
Anyway, to answer Kiwi's question for women; yes I can usually tell when a guy is clingy...all that other stuff you said. As for what I think of nice guys, well, I'm not too interested in the niceness itself. I'm interested in where the niceness comes from. Does it come from a genuine intention to be a good person? Is it a way to blindly follow a social construct? (this is an easy one to spot because the "nice" behaviour is usually coupled with verbal affirmations that niceness is "not getting me the things I want. I should become an A-hole so chicks will dig me."). I myself am a cynical little so-and-so. I assume that no guy would ever be nice to me unless he was trying to get laid, so I tend to keep guys who are too nice to me at arm's length. At least if a guy is a bit of a (insert expletive), I take it to mean that I don't matter at all to him, which puts me into a sick sort of comfort zone.
Sad, huh?
Anyway, to answer Kiwi's question for women; yes I can usually tell when a guy is clingy...all that other stuff you said. As for what I think of nice guys, well, I'm not too interested in the niceness itself. I'm interested in where the niceness comes from. Does it come from a genuine intention to be a good person? Is it a way to blindly follow a social construct? (this is an easy one to spot because the "nice" behaviour is usually coupled with verbal affirmations that niceness is "not getting me the things I want. I should become an A-hole so chicks will dig me."). I myself am a cynical little so-and-so. I assume that no guy would ever be nice to me unless he was trying to get laid, so I tend to keep guys who are too nice to me at arm's length. At least if a guy is a bit of a (insert expletive), I take it to mean that I don't matter at all to him, which puts me into a sick sort of comfort zone.
Sad, huh?
emre43
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That makes me feel a little bit sad. I like to think that I'm a nice guy and have no intention to hurt other people's feelings. However, it has nothing to do with getting laid I am equally as nice to males as I am females it is just my personality; I'm probably too nice for my own good.
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Yes, I can tell this about men. I believe I have a strong sense for human nature in general, whether we be talking about a female or a male.
But sometimes "nice guys who aren't nice" can change when they build confidence. My boyfriend was on the border to being this when we first starting developing a relationship. Not in all aspects, but in some. I was his first real girlfriend. Over time, he became more mature and gained some confidence and shed some of his "nice guy who isn't nice" characteristics.
In my experience, actions clearly motivated by self-interest are the most trustworthy and dependable. Anyone laying claim to altruistic motives makes me -->
That said, sometimes it just feels nice to be nice. Feeling nice can be self-serving enough.
nice
adjective, nic·er, nic·est.
1. pleasing; agreeable; delightful: a nice visit.
2. amiably pleasant; kind: They are always nice to strangers.
3. characterized by, showing, or requiring great accuracy, precision, skill, tact, care, or delicacy: nice workmanship; a nice shot; a nice handling of a crisis.
So, is the problem that you're too pleasant, too amiable, or too tactful?
In my experience, actions clearly motivated by self-interest are the most trustworthy and dependable. Anyone laying claim to altruistic motives makes me -->
That said, sometimes it just feels nice to be nice. Feeling nice can be self-serving enough.
My feelings exactly. I do things because they make me feel a certain way. Not for the sake of doing them. If giving money to the homeless made me bleed internally, I wouldn't do it no matter how "nice" a thing it is to do.
On a different note, (I've just had a very annoying phone conversation) I find it very amusing when a guy goes on and on beaching and moaning about how horrible and unfair life is and goes through his own personal shopping list of what is wrong with his life and then ends it off by saying "women will never want me because I am so nice." I had to have my own private little chuckle when I got off the phone. If women were really as thick as he (my cousin) seems to think we are then why on earth would he want one?
Aletheia
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I grew out of my bad boy phase at 13.
My most recent boyfriend was clingy and insecure (if not self-abasing), but that didn't mean he wasn't nice; it wasn't why I left him.