Funerals

[lilmutegirl]

So many people around me talk about funerals as being a celebration of someone's life. Lately, I've been thinking, what about my life would there be to celebrate? Other than my son, I can't think of much. I haven't done anything worth noting with my life. Do any of you have thoughts on this subject?

 

[DeadmanWalking]

I don't know a lot about your life or life in general, but I'm pretty sure that you've had more accomplishments than just your son (which is a big accomplishment in itself). I guess (and I'm simply quoting this from somewhere else) life and its accomplishments are something we make yet don't see ourselves. Others should be able to tell you what you have accomplished. Of course, I'm not old enough to be making commentary on life, so you can disregard what I said if you want.

 

[BlueDays]

I have often wondered about the same thing lilmutegirl.

Don't worry, if you feel you have not done anything significant other then produce and raise your son (Which is an honorable achievement in itself!, as Deadman said) you still have plenty of lifetime left to do things you have not yet had the opportunity to do.

I am glad that I will be dead and not around to feel the embarrassment of only having 4 people at my funeral!::

 

[Iluv]

Well ,what they may celebrate (I find that word weird for a funeral, mourn I guess) is for you to decide. Your son is an accomplishment, being able to raise and love him is a great accomplishment and he will appreciate that one day! As well as different marks throughout your life sometimes we just have to squint our eyes to see them. I'm sure you have tons of accomplishments!

 

[Kinetik]

If the aim of life is to love (which I do feel it is) then raising your son is more than enough to give your life meaning. Perhaps you feel unfulfilled with how little you've done outside of that, but you can always make a start - and right now if you really want to. Take a trip, learn a new language, go back to school. There are so many little things you can do to give yourself a boost. And who knows what might come out of any of those activities. You might meet someone new, or find people who turn out to be great friends. It's just a case of making the initial effort, however small, in order to get to the next chapters in your life. Sometimes the catalyst for major life changes is something ridiculously minor.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Good memories-- sad memories; memories in general tend to be the focus of the funerals in my family.
People take turns telling stories whether they be funny or serious, share their experiences and memories; share photographs or videos and just remember how you were when you were alive.

Doesn't seem to matter if you've really 'done' anything with your life-- there will always be funny stories about how you were as a kid; or 'this one time in college' or, 'once at Christmas'...

 

[MikeyC]

I don't know if my life is worth celebrating, even if my "achievements" are worth mentioning. I suspect it might be a short funeral.

I would rather everyone who would go to my funeral just dump my body in the garbage, order pizza and booze, and have a big party.

lilmutegirl: having a son and raising him is a big deal.

 

[Island_chic]

I kinda feel like no one would be at my funeral. When I think about it I get depressed. I'd rather just not have a funeral but go ahead and be buried.

 

[Hoppy]

I'm written up as an organ donor, and after they have harvested everything they can use the rest will be cremated. I'm still considering donation for medical research, but I don't like being touched.

"If they don't want to bury me out of love they will have to do it because of the stink."

 

[Kiwong]

I'm not sure many people would attend.

I have done some OK things in my life, like raise money for charity, discovered new plant species, contributed to nature conservation causes. I have wasted a lot of year too.

 

[MrJones]

Nothing to celebrate about my life, never done a single worthwhile thing. I guess it would be a sad day because I'm only 21 :/

 

[lonely_drummer]

I haven't really thought abut this that much since I don't do well with funerals in the first place. I've only been to three and only one of them really felt like a celebration of their life, that was my grandmother because she died of natural causes at age 87. The other two were the most difficult things I had ever been through since they were both suicides of my aunt and the other my best friend in highschool(it's so hard not to tear up from that one still). I honestly think there would be a lot of people at my funeral. I may be a loner but I have had a lot of people around me throughout my life and I'm sure all you have too but just don't see it plus it's not about quantity but quality of these relationships you've had with these people.

But to really tell you the truth, I don't give two ****s how many people show up, or who it is or if its a celebration or not because at that point you're dead, it doesn't matter at that point. So why should i fret over if anyone's gonna come look at my dead body and why should all of you? Plus within 100 years every single one of us will be forgotten with the dead of the dead.