alex7
Well-known member
Everyday it's a battle of action and reaction. People claim that if you socialize more then u will overcome your fear of socializing. I have socialized thousands of times and im still just as scared now as i was 10 years ago.
Why? Because when i socialize i become anxious. When i become anxious it feels like my brain leaked through my ears and i cant think of proper responses to questions or conversation. When this occurs, i become very self-conscious, which only increases the anxiety.
At the end of the interaction, my attempt to make simple conversation has failed, and the next time i attempt to make conversation with someone, the fear will be greater than before because of how terrible my last attempt was.
How does someone overcome something unless they become progressively more successful at it? I find that SA makes it impossible to be good at socializing because we get so damn nervous, and those awkward attempts to make good conversation only further ingrains in our mind how much we suck at it.
Why? Because when i socialize i become anxious. When i become anxious it feels like my brain leaked through my ears and i cant think of proper responses to questions or conversation. When this occurs, i become very self-conscious, which only increases the anxiety.
At the end of the interaction, my attempt to make simple conversation has failed, and the next time i attempt to make conversation with someone, the fear will be greater than before because of how terrible my last attempt was.
How does someone overcome something unless they become progressively more successful at it? I find that SA makes it impossible to be good at socializing because we get so damn nervous, and those awkward attempts to make good conversation only further ingrains in our mind how much we suck at it.