Do never tell, or let other people tell vague acquaintances that you suffer from social anxiety...
Some time ago i told my mom she could tell people when they ask about about me that i have SA. I did this because my mom once told me she had a hard time talking about me when people were asking her about me (eventhough i didnt really want it...).
The result of this is that those people (usually friends/acquaintances of my parents) act completely different around me. They really dont treat me as an equal. They act like they are so sorry for me. And not in a way that they really care, but in a way that they try to be very nice and supporting so that they don't hurt me or something. I HATE THIS!
This week im watching the house of my parents because they are on vacation and i have to answer the phone and open the door for these people. Just a moment ago a neighbour came by to ask me if i want to join them for dinner tonight. She said she felt sorry for me i was alone and i have to cook my own dinner every night (something i do every night for almost 5 years but ok...). She didnt asked this in a way that they liked me to come but in a way to "save" me or something. Ofcourse its a nice gesture but i rather have dinner with people who want to have dinner with me and not because they feel sorry for me. I wish i could blow this of saying i have other plans, but that isn't very believable
This makes me feel even smaller than small and makes me never want to come back here again...
Some time ago i told my mom she could tell people when they ask about about me that i have SA. I did this because my mom once told me she had a hard time talking about me when people were asking her about me (eventhough i didnt really want it...).
The result of this is that those people (usually friends/acquaintances of my parents) act completely different around me. They really dont treat me as an equal. They act like they are so sorry for me. And not in a way that they really care, but in a way that they try to be very nice and supporting so that they don't hurt me or something. I HATE THIS!
This week im watching the house of my parents because they are on vacation and i have to answer the phone and open the door for these people. Just a moment ago a neighbour came by to ask me if i want to join them for dinner tonight. She said she felt sorry for me i was alone and i have to cook my own dinner every night (something i do every night for almost 5 years but ok...). She didnt asked this in a way that they liked me to come but in a way to "save" me or something. Ofcourse its a nice gesture but i rather have dinner with people who want to have dinner with me and not because they feel sorry for me. I wish i could blow this of saying i have other plans, but that isn't very believable
This makes me feel even smaller than small and makes me never want to come back here again...
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