Does anyone have social anxiety due to the fact that they think they are ugly

[GhoulsNightOut]

Yes...when I was a teenager my mom would comment on my appearance nearly everyday...it'd be about my acne, weight gain, hair, or my feet even (they're kinda wide at the top). That and she would crush any ounce of self-esteem I exhibited. She was a ****ing monster all I could do was avoid her.

I began eating healthy just last year so my skin has cleared up and I don't look bloated anymore. I feel a bit better now but still bitter about it all. And when someone compliments me, I can't help but think they're just saying that to make me feel better because they can see how self-conscious I am.

 

[Hellhound]

No, it doesn't affect me in that way. It just makes me want to drop more weight. It affects my eating habits.

 

[crazydragon]

That definitely has a lot to do with mine.

 

[Nikos23]

i Feel ok when i m looking at me to the Mirror but when i m Shy i feel that i m the most ugly person ever

 

[*Amy*]

Well, it isn't the main reason, but it contributes to my social anixety, yes. But actually I think that the most important cause is my low self-esteem and my inferiority complex. If I were beautiful I would still have to deal with those. So... I guess it's more about how you feel than about what you look like.

 

[wariomona]

I am very underweight, have a hump in my back, am never clean shaven, have extremely frizzy hair that I can't cut/style right, and I have rosacea. When I look in the mirror as I'm about to go out, all I want to do is go back to bed.

But when actually talking to people, I panic so much that I don't have time to worry about my appearance. Maybe it's just me, but unless you use a mirror you can't see yourself, so don't people just forget what they look like after a bit?

 

[thatonedude]

Yeah, its something that affects me, probably the main reason I have been single for quite some time is my low self esteem because of it. I'm really underweight and I sometimes can't stand the sight of myself in the mirror, even less in pictures taken of me. May have been called ugly once which really struck me but maybe its just me since no one else besides that person ever comments on how i look most of the time.

 

[Luka]

It adds to it I think. When I get dressed up nicely or have make-up on I definitely feel more confident.

 

[words-escape-me]

yes EXACT reason

 

[Foxface]

My social anxiety is mostly becuase I'm a loner and don't fit in. Girls is a bit contribute to it too, becuase I'm lonely and do not fit in. Being lonely makes me desperate for a friend. I want a girl, but can't get one, becuase they judge me at first look.

 

[RoomBound]

Yep, that's the main reason. I don't look too bad straight on, except for a slight "lazy eye." The side profile is rough, though. I've had strangers graciously provide me with unsolicited negative commentary on my looks multiple times, and that affected my self-esteem. People give you an easier, even a positive, time if you're talkative and friendly, but I'm not naturally those things either.

 

[planemo]

Yeah, it's the main reason I'm pretty much agoraphobic. I get so many weird looks from people, that I feel better staying at home. It's a huge source of shame for me. Now, I have to make due with a solitary life, since I'm convinced no female will ever look past my looks (or should i say, lack thereof)

 

[Foxface]

Yeah, it's the main reason I'm pretty much agoraphobic. I get so many weird looks from people, that I feel better staying at home. It's a huge source of shame for me. Now, I have to make due with a solitary life, since I'm convinced no female will ever look past my looks (or should i say, lack thereof)

Same here. Also, becuase I'm ugly, and I have a curse, which is the source to almost all of my problems.

 

[planemo]

Same here. Also, becuase I'm ugly, and I have a curse, which is the source to almost all of my problems.

autism/aspergers? (sorry if i'm being too forward) ::

 

[Foxface]

autism/aspergers? (sorry if i'm being too forward) ::

That is just of many. That is one of my main one, which is the cuase many of my problems.

 

[planemo]

That is just of many. That is one of my main one, which is the cuase many of my problems.

I'm really sorry to hear that. I have a seemingly endless list of struggles too. I hope things get better for all of us.

 

[Nightmare Kitten]

It's one of the biggest things. I have been bullied my whole life for my looks and it doesn't help that people sometimes mistake me for a boy.

 

[OceanMist]

I think this is really a case of a double-edged sword for people with SA. If someone with SA is unattractive (not saying anyone here is) then that person will find that it's that much harder to be accepted by society and also harder to attain personal relationships because it can be harder to get your foot in the door if people think you don't talk and you aren't "hot." (Not my view, just a lot of society's view)

As for the good-looking SAers, they may find themselves in even more of a disability because the world expects them to succeed socially yet they often will have problems because of their shyness which in turn makes them feel possibly worse than an unattractive SAer because they see that if they had better social abilities, then they would be able to use their looks, but since they struggle socially, their looks are often wasted and society can view them as more of a disappointment and a waste.

It's a case of "I could have friends" or "I should have a g/f but I don't" versus "Well, it's not like I'm that good looking anyway, at least I don't have much to live up to."

Then there is also the post-judgement, which from experience is the worst of all, where a woman will see you and think you are decent looking at first look, and then she finds out you are shy and suddenly loses all respect for you. It's kind of like being built up, only to be pounded back to the ground with severe force.

The point is that I think the being good-looking can be a bigger problem than not being good-looking if a guy has SA.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

Actually, I have SA because I know people are shallow and judgemental. I'm not really ugly, but people/society does a good job of making me feel like I am.

 

[MikeyC]

Actually, I have SA because I know people are shallow and judgemental. I'm not really ugly, but people/society does a good job of making me feel like I am.

It does if you listen to the media too much.

I have some muscles, but because I'm not a ripping six-pack surfer guy, that's not ideal. I would feel extremely ugly if I listened to that too much.