Do you think you're ugly?
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DaaaBulls
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Isn't it weird to think that it is basicly just the luck of the draw with looks? I mean some people get lucky and are great looking and then others get those sperm and egg together that just happen to not be great looking. It isn't like anyone worked harder or wanted it more, we all are born and it is just a crap shoot for looks.
Yeah I agree, it seems quite unfair.
Reiji Moritsugu
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My thoughts exactly. Things are like this: the world is divided
in three obvious groups, which are those who got the best looks,
those who got average ones and those who were pretty much
screwed by nature.
Me? I´m in the last group of course, as I´ve always thought I´m ugly
enough to make ugliness the new eight deadly sin...hate pretty much
everything about myself: my hair, face, eyes and the list just goes on.
The fact that I have a brother who is good - looking enough to actually
have girls actively go after him, while girls´ interest in me has pretty much
been close to negative percentages doesn´t help much...then again, I´m
slowly coming to accept the fact that with no social skills, intelligence
or a decent appearance I´m pretty much set for life, yay for me
because as everybody says in this kind of situation life just isn´t
fair at all, so those who got the defective genetic combinations...
*crickets chirping*
I just hate those people who say they´re ugly but have lots of men/women telling them how beautiful they are, for they don´t know what it feels to actually look...not that good.
meatcake
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It is kind of weird how some people are actually really attractive but think they're ugly. Like when Nirvana Nevermind came out and the song "I'm so ugly, that's okay, I found my friends are in my head", and the inside picture of the band was all blurry, so I thought this guy must be really ugly. Um, wrong - he was only like ridiculously good looking...
And Juliana Hatfield (am I dating myself here?) had this song called Ugly - "I don't look at faces, I look at my feet, I'm all alone as I walk down the street. Cause I'm ugly, with a capital U, and I need nobody to tell me the truth...". But again, she's better looking than a lot of models.
Just throwing that out there.
And Juliana Hatfield (am I dating myself here?) had this song called Ugly - "I don't look at faces, I look at my feet, I'm all alone as I walk down the street. Cause I'm ugly, with a capital U, and I need nobody to tell me the truth...". But again, she's better looking than a lot of models.
Just throwing that out there.
Richey
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its because they are so used to the way they look that they start to match their physical presence with their emotional state, or they have an image of a good looking person in their minds and they dont match up even though they have great thick hair, a nice solid build and body shape, and are in fact very good looking and its more then likely they have a great personality but they've simply twisted their self perception. they arn't really analysing their physical self for what it is, like you can't tell me Kurt Cobain wouldn't admit to himself looking in the mirror and thinking "i have great hair" and a distinctive look to be proud of. same with a jonny depp or a kirsten dunst, it seems like looks and the phyical attractiveness goes hand in hand with confidence and having an advantage in society that is partly why they were able to push and push their abilities, i'm not saying ordinary looking people can't go far because of course they can if they really work at it but had that ordinary looking person looked like Jonny Depp then what sort of opportunities and adnvantages would have popped up instead?
Being good looking physically can also change your physiology and self worth to sky high levels which can lead to being more fearless and taking more action you also feel sexy, if you are ordinary looking then you are more likely to hide from the world.
so its unfortunate trate that mother nature has to lower standards for some people while others are more blessed and lucky
same thing goes for brains and intelligence, often people are born with a gift or are brought up in an environment that leads to a better education then other people ....
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Argamemnon
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Very sad quote:
“Ugliness is in a way superior to beauty because it lasts.”
So true ::
“Ugliness is in a way superior to beauty because it lasts.”
So true :
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Argamemnon
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“I'm so ugly - I worked in a pet shop, and people kept asking how big I'd get”
theslowesthand
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Far out .. some rudeness is at a level that i just can't comprehned
Anubis
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From a materialistic perspective, I'm average looking (sub-average if you hate slightly big noses). When I'm nervous and anxious, the rating gets downgraded to pathetic and unattractive.
But when I'm lively and confident I believe I can appear attractive. In fact, when I look at myself in the mirror with a confident smile, I often believe I'd be attracted to me if I was a girl. The trick for me is BEING confident. And that's harder done than said.
But when I'm lively and confident I believe I can appear attractive. In fact, when I look at myself in the mirror with a confident smile, I often believe I'd be attracted to me if I was a girl. The trick for me is BEING confident. And that's harder done than said.
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Skatergirl
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Yeah i really think so.. :: But i have symptons of BDD.. or it is just S.a..
Dunno.. or OCD?? Who knows..
But sometimes I think i'm too ugly to go to something..
That everybody will notice my uglyness.. and i feel dirty..
That's why i shower everyday.. It's very frustrating..
And i'm very ashamed of it.. I can't even believe that i'm typing it here ..
my mom always tells me i'm a beautiful young lady, but sometimes it's hard too believe..
But sometimes.. I'm proud of the way i look
: But i have symptons of BDD.. or it is just S.a..Dunno.. or OCD?? Who knows..
But sometimes I think i'm too ugly to go to something..
That everybody will notice my uglyness.. and i feel dirty..
That's why i shower everyday.. It's very frustrating..
And i'm very ashamed of it.. I can't even believe that i'm typing it here ..
my mom always tells me i'm a beautiful young lady, but sometimes it's hard too believe..
But sometimes.. I'm proud of the way i look
Glumlock
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Nobody is completely content with their appearence - we all have things that we hate about ourselves. I hate my walk for example because i have a really really gay walk -_-
And yes, i agree with Kuhtreen - appearence can depend on mood. If i'm in a bad mood i seem to look horrific, when i'm in a good mood i look alright. I cant do anything with my hair even at the best of times though
Although my mood may also be down to my appearence, since the first thing i do when i wake up in the morning is go to the bathroom mirror
And yes, i agree with Kuhtreen - appearence can depend on mood. If i'm in a bad mood i seem to look horrific, when i'm in a good mood i look alright. I cant do anything with my hair even at the best of times though
Although my mood may also be down to my appearence, since the first thing i do when i wake up in the morning is go to the bathroom mirror
Lea
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Worse is, that we inherit the genes for behaviour, not only looks. Anyway, to me it seems, there are no really ugly people (except of me sometimes, or all the time? I really don´t know, I never saw myself on video and I don´t even want to, would be depressing!) Also it makes difference if someone is fat or dirty and doesn´t look after himself, then if they work on their appearance they come out as a different person (even though being fat doesn´t automatically mean to be ugly, I know people who are fat and still pretty). Plus even if someone is not that much good looking but has nice personality, people are drawn to him. I once went out in London with one girl who couldn´t speak englis properly. She was self-conscious to ask way the people and when she did, she sounded like beginner but she had very warm personality, was nice and smiled and the people always changed so much, I could see how they opened and smiled back, were almost head over feet. (I must point out she wasn´t exactly a model, a bit overweight and averagely dressed). I realized this doesn´t happen to me, people are really like mirror, if you feel good about yourself, you make them feel good. I think I rather have opposite effect on people, I look closed and down and make them depressed.
princess_haru
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I actually hate how people look in commercials and advertisements. The girls always look odd to me. They have a completely symmetrical appearance. They don't look like they have any errors with their body. This probably sounds weird, but I just don't like that look. Hmmm... this probably makes no sense and everyone is going to think I'm weird now.
They look odd because they've been photoshopped half to death! The images we see in magazines/on billboards/on TV etc aren't real 99.99% of the time, but because they're close enough to reality to fool our eyes, we don't realise the extent of what's been altered until it's pointed out to us. Here's just a taste of the bullshit we're faced with every day - if you've got a spare 15 mins or so I'd highly recommend watching these:
YouTube - dove evolution
YouTube - Beauty Pressure
YouTube - Controversy Over The Photoshop Effect
YouTube - The Photoshop Effect
And this one's just to show what Photoshop is capable of, even in the hands of an amateur:
YouTube - Crazy photoshop skills!
I know that the above makeover is more extreme than the ones usually done for fashion magazines, but think of it this way: they pick very unusual looking individuals to start with, far taller, thinner and better proportioned than the general population that their rags are aimed at, then spend hours and oodles of cash on removing their every remaining defect by making their faces and bodies perfectly symmetrical, digitally straightening and whitening their teeth, smoothing their skin to the point where they no longer even have pores... and so on! If I pick up a copy of Vogue or Elle to flip through at the newsagents, I can guarantee that I'll feel miserable and insecure after a few pages. Why do we do it to ourselves?! I avoid fashion mags like the plague now :
:Anyway, as a coda to my rant, check out the animation at this link which shows a pretty shocking before and after photoshop makeover of Faith Hill:
Jezebel - Here's Our Winner! 'Redbook' Shatters Our 'Faith' In Well, Not Publishing, But Maybe God - Contests
There's a whole lot more on the subject at the website the above link came from:
photoshop of horrors - Jezebel
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princess_haru
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Thank you! I'm partly Mediterranean also (part Spanish) but I have really, really pale skin for some reason! (I'm also part Irish and Welsh, so that might explain it, lol!) I look ok sometimes, and not so good other times, as we all do I suppose! Probably a silly question, but have you been to a decent doctor about your sleeping problems?
Lol, I do have ridiculously long fingers so it's not just the gloves doing that!
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Argamemnon
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They don't seem to take my sleeping problems seriously. Maybe I'm not telling them how serious it is. My psychiatrist asks me how many hours I sleep, but I can't answer that question. When I go to bed, it takes more than an hour to fall asleep (sometimes much more), sometimes I wake up several times during the night, and I always wake up two hours early. I don't think I get more than 4-5 hours of sleep.
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Argamemnon
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Argamemnon
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I have a question to all of you..
When I'm trying to be myself, I look ugy!! I always try this in the mirror. That's why I'm always trying and "forcing" myself to appear more attractive... but when I do so, I appear closed and fake....
Even worse, by repressing my emotions and negative thoughts, I become terribly depressed and anxious... does anyone know what I mean?? ::
When I'm trying to be myself, I look ugy!! I always try this in the mirror. That's why I'm always trying and "forcing" myself to appear more attractive... but when I do so, I appear closed and fake....
Even worse, by repressing my emotions and negative thoughts, I become terribly depressed and anxious... does anyone know what I mean?? :
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