do you think you deserve this?

iwanttogetbetter

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Does any1 else here think that you deserved to be this way because you've done some awful things to people or your just a bad person? For example i've done a lot of awful things in the past to people who don't deserve it.
 

BlackKids

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Nope, I'm totally happy with myself and how I treat others :)
I do beleive in Karma so maybe you do lol sorry
 

iwanttogetbetter

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lol...i regret a lot of it, im just saying like using people for your own advantage, leading someone on without considering their feelings etc. Bah i don't know anymore...
 
lol...i regret a lot of it, im just saying like using people for your own advantage, leading someone on without considering their feelings etc. Bah i don't know anymore...
I cannot say that I have done this but I am not perfect.
But the thought has crossed my mind if I have done something to deserve
this life of mine.

I think when I am really down on myself I think this way.
 

Jake123

Banned
Karma is stupid. Think about it. Most people get ahead in life by stepping over others and backstabbing. In a lot of cases it's the awful people that are having the time of their lives and have everything.
If such a karma scale existed, people with social anxiety would be gods because most are completely innocent. You can't hurt people or do bad things if you're never around them. (For the most part)
 

Sinar_Matahari

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I'm not going to judge you for having done people wrong and not just because doing so would make me a hypocrite either. It is not up to me to decide whether you deserve to have social anxiety. You cannot fix the past. All you can do is ensure that you will not make those same mistakes again. I know I do not deserve to have anxiety. You shouldn't see SA as punishment or retribution for past errors..
 

Harleyq

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I cannot say that I have done this but I am not perfect.
But the thought has crossed my mind if I have done something to deserve
this life of mine.

I think when I am really down on myself I think this way.

ditto. Sometimes I blame myself for being weak. If we lived like other animal species, I'd have been slaughtered and eaten long ago. I'm a very sensitive, shy, introverted person and I've always been that way, according to my dad - they're raw traits that I can't change and it gets me down a lot. And then add SA on top of all of that...I just start thinking if I weren't such a squishy blob of vulnerability, I wouldn't have picked up SA.

On better days, I don't so much see my quietness as a weakness, I see it as a shadowed strength, lol.
 
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Sinar_Matahari

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Karma is stupid. Think about it. Most people get ahead in life by stepping over others and backstabbing. In a lot of cases it's the awful people that are having the time of their lives and have everything.
If such a karma scale existed, people with social anxiety would be gods because most are completely innocent. You can't hurt people or do bad things if you're never around them. (For the most part)

Having SA or anxiety does not make a person innocent. Chances are that everyone here has done some sort of wrong. If they tell you otherwise then they're either consciously telling lies or they truly think of themelves as inculpable of any wrong doing.
 

BlackKids

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Karma is stupid. Think about it. Most people get ahead in life by stepping over others and backstabbing. In a lot of cases it's the awful people that are having the time of their lives and have everything.
If such a karma scale existed, people with social anxiety would be gods because most are completely innocent. You can't hurt people or do bad things if you're never around them. (For the most part)

Its just an idea so I try and do as many good things as possible. If I help one person then the world is already a better place.
 

Quiet Angel

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I misunderstood shy people in the past, and those with social phobias, I used to think critically of them. Now that I'm in that position, I understand. I feel that it's the only wrong I've done to deserve this, but then again, that may not be true.
 
Karma is stupid. Think about it. Most people get ahead in life by stepping over others and backstabbing. In a lot of cases it's the awful people that are having the time of their lives and have everything.
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Well I really do not want to see it this way but these words ring so true to my ears.
There is hope in me yet that in the long run this is not the case but
the older I get the more that hope diminishes.

To anybody who's been around a long time. Is this true?

So if I want to advance in life and benefit from all its spoils I have to be like that...

In Shakespearean manner: "To be or not to be, that is the question".
 

Harleyq

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Well I really do not want to see it this way but these words ring so true to my ears.
There is hope in me yet that in the long run this is not the case but
the older I get the more that hope diminishes.

To anybody who's been around a long time. Is this true?

So if I want to advance in life and benefit from all its spoils I have to be like that...

In Shakespearean manner: "To be or not to be, that is the question".

I don't know, but it sure as hell worked for my manager. I knew her when she was still just a waitress and she was SNEAKY. She was the master of acting sweet to your face and then turning around and talking smack about you to the boss, who of course loved her for it. One waitress I knew got fired for gossiping about her, which I find hypocritical but...

And now all the waitresses I currently work with like her and think she's funny. They just don't know her true nature cause since she's the manager, she no longer has coworkers on her level to step on.
 
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blue-roses

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I used to be pretty mean when I was a kid, haha...I think I just got bored at school and I used to annoy the teacher and steal other people's pens and things, but I think that also stemmed from my social awkwardness...I was isolated and just on another planet from when I was tiny, so I acted strangely and was alienated from everyone else...when I hit puberty I think I finally realised how to relate to others "normally" but by then, I was used to being rejected and feeling substandard, so it was too late. I wondered if I had Asperger's until very recently, but I don't really fit all the criteria.

Anyway, I do think I deserved it, as hard as it is...because I had to learn somehow! I was such a WEIRD child! I remember when I was seven, a girl was going around the class asking people what their favourite TV channel was. A lot of the kids said the cool, teenage channel with all the music videos and teen dramas on it, and I decided I could win friends and influence people by showing off how smart I was. I said I loved the one with all the documentaries and foreign films on it, and that my favourite shows were current affairs programmes. I was baffled when no-one rushed to hoist me up on their shoulders and proclaim me the coolest person on Earth! I look back on things like that and cringe, and I'm so glad I am the way I am now and not like that anymore...
 
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Rodney

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I wrote a thread on this exact thing :D, it is entitled Justice? or something like that... I used to be a huge jerk to a lot of people in grade school and continued to do so until about gr 11. I feel like having SA has completely changed my view on how I treat others and now I do my very best to be kind and empathetic towards others. In a way SA has opened up my eyes and showed me how people should treat one another but unfortunately it has also made me more aware of how people actually do treat one another, which makes me feel horrible... :( But anyways, I don't think any one deserves SA or any other mental disorder for that matter, no matter how bad they are.
 

Kinetik

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I think life is a balancing act, in a way. I was blessed with a great family, a beautiful, loving girlfriend, a fairly easy time of it financially, but I struggle with SA. So I try to be a bit philosophical about it. Things really could be a lot worse. I recognize that this obstacle is one of the few hurdles I'm having to face, and although it's quite severe at times, when put into perspective, it's not as damning or unmanageable as one might think. So if this is the price I pay for having all the other good things I have going on, so be it.
 

Interzone

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No, but I can't think of it being anyone else's fault, except mine for the way that I am. I blame god sometimes and curse him, but whatever. It's not like I am motivated enough to even think much about it.
 

PennyLane

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In terms of doing bad things I don't think I deserve this. I don't think I've ever done anything wrong by anyone and it would hurt me to do that.

I know many people who accept hurting people as part of life, they have cheated on partners and lied etc...and they are way happier than I am.

I don't think its a matter of getting what you deserve, more that we are sensitive to what we are getting whereas others just move on.
 
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