Do you love to be loved?

[doubtmyself]

For the majority of people I don't care. But for those I hold in esteem, I want to be respected/cherished by them.
For example if Gandhi were alive todayand said "Doubtmyself, you are indeed an inspiration to the rest of humanity. Well done." I would feel an immense sense of pride.
If a brilliant University professor quoted my paper to his colleagues, it would boost my ego to the stratosphere.

Finally if a gorgeous woman ::..(like Shakira) said she was madly in love with me, I would be ecstatic!::

So yeah I love to be loved..but only by certain people. I guess that makes me just a status conscious prig. I need to be appreciative of those close to me that I take for granted...but...

 

[EscapeArtist]

That doesn't make you status conscious at all! You want love from the people you look up to the most, I see nothing wrong with that.

If somebody loves me when I feel like I'm not excelling at life/self, then I feel resentment and become self destructive

If somebody loves me when I love myself it's the best feeling in the world.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I like people to like me.
Does that count?
Love seems to be too strong of a word for me...

There was one person I loved to love me.
I feel uncomfortable if it comes from anyone else, though.

I'm content with being liked. I don't seek love- I walk away from it because I don't want it.

 

[hangbi92]

Yes. I'd love to be loved

 

[MikeyC]

I would love to be loved, and I know I am by a few people. Maybe I am in need of loving myself more to actually notice and appreciate it.

 

[BlueDays]

I don't trust the word love.

I like to be liked.

Love is too volatile and has a short shelf life.

 

[KiaKaha]

Yes...

but love frightens me - its something I would like to experience one day....with caution. I sometimes feel like people dont really care about me - especially on low days.

I am more comfortable with being liked - or perhaps ... respected.

Maybe even feared...

 

[BlueDays]

Maybe even feared...

I am just curious, in what context do you mean when you say "feared"?

 

[doubtmyself]

I don't trust the word love.

I like to be liked.

Love is too volatile and has a short shelf life.

So you don't need to be worshipped?
Even for a short time?

I think a lot of guys would settle for that if they can't get something more permanent. eg. rock star like one-night stands..

 

[KiaKaha]

I am just curious, in what context do you mean when you say "feared"?

I was just being silly - I dont want to be feared at all....although a little bit of an intimidation factor can help sometimes. Liked and respected is sufficient - although I certaintly would not close the door to love - even if it is terrifying and volatile.

 

[doubtmyself]

As expected we are getting into..."What is love anyway?" territory..

-love with familiarity like my dog who loves me to death but I can't control him much so he really doesn't respect me. But I don't care because I like playing with him on almost equal terms...more fun..::

-being respected/worshipped from a distance..put on a pedestal...as I put Shakira on...she seems untouchable...

-being liked....low intensity...just put on someone's "goodbook list"

-other?

 

[BlueDays]

I was just being silly - I dont want to be feared at all....although a little bit of an intimidation factor can help sometimes. Liked and respected is sufficient - although I certaintly would not close the door to love - even if it is terrifying and volatile.

ah i c.
I have a great admiration for those who are brave enough to still want love despite the "terrifying and volatile" part of it.

 

[doubtmyself]

That doesn't make you status conscious at all! You want love from the people you look up to the most, I see nothing wrong with that.

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Thanks for your sympathy. I really appreciate such kindness. But I think I need to grow up and be less superficial. Also if I had enough self-belief, I wouldn't be dependant on anyone's praise.

 

[doubtmyself]

I like people to like me.
Does that count?
Love seems to be too strong of a word for me...

There was one person I loved to love me.
I feel uncomfortable if it comes from anyone else, though.

I'm content with being liked. I don't seek love- I walk away from it because I don't want it.

So you're afraid of love then? That's a shame. Or afraid of getting your feelings hurt. Getting your hopes up too high? I thought most women love to be cherished/adored by one they hold in high regard.

 

[vexatiousmind]

mmm I love when people are affectionate towards me even if they don't necessarily love me

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

So you're afraid of love then? That's a shame. Or afraid of getting your feelings hurt. Getting your hopes up too high? I thought most women love to be cherished/adored by one they hold in high regard.

Apart from being attracted to one person, once- I think I'm asexual and the thought of love/attraction/sex tends to disgust me.
I've been sexually and physically abused, so I guess I tend to associate 'love' and the strong feelings/passion- with sex, with abuse; though I know love isn't just that at all. I have experienced both, but it's much more often one way; and not in their favor.
There is unconditional love as well. I've had that. That doesn't scare me as much.
I've just got it twisted in my head and I really don't want it.

Has little to do with 'getting hopes too high' as I've only experienced love with one man- was fortunate enough to have him reciprocate and apart from him, I don't want to accept anyone's feelings; as I have little trust for humanity due to my past experiences and it only seems troublesome.

Maybe harsh... but that's how I've got things in my head.

 

[Kiwong]

I would like people to feel neutral about me. Maybe to not even notice.

To be disliked destroys.

To be liked is to set up an expectation, and I fear I will always disappoint and lose that respect.

 

[gazelle]

So yeah I love to be loved..but only by certain people. I guess that makes me just a status conscious prig. I need to be appreciative of those close to me that I take for granted...but...

Same here!I only love to be loved by certain people which are either unreachable or either people whom attracting them sometimes seems to be out of my depth...I've seldom managed to attract the love of the the poeple I actually wanted to and there's this specific person that I know if I manage to attract their complete love, my life would completely change in a very positive way and I could more easily attract the poeple that I wanted to....that person is myself!

 

[ilmatross]

I dont know what love is

 

[Shyangel]

I love showing love, but when someone returns the favor I feel like running away. I get so scared and intimidated by strong emotions from other people. I feel like when they show love or something like that they're expecting too much from me. That they think too much of me. I see myself as a useless failure, so when someone likes me, I feel like I'm using and tricking them, which, makes me afraid it's a matter of time until they find out the truth and don't like me any more. Hence my avoidance.