Do you know how to be happy?

[lilmutegirl]

Do you know what would make you happy or less anxious? I am convinced that once I'm done with school and financially independent I'll feel much better. The thing is, I almost don't know how to reconcile this with my current reality. I imagine it, but it always seems like a far-off fantasy, not something that could realistically happen in the next few years. I sometimes wonder if I sub-consciously undermining my own efforts to reach my goals because I don't know how I will handle it. I won't have an excuse to be the way I am then...what if I don't change?

 

[DeadmanWalking]

If you desire change within yourself, you'll change. I imagine you don't want to be like this forever, so you'll, in one way or another, change. The new reality of graduating will either overwrite the current reality or coexist with it. Again, all up to you. I'm sure you'll make good decisions though. So, for now, deal with the problems right in front of you and the ones behind will fall in place. But, I feel as though my words make no sense at all really.

As for what would make me happy, well, as long as I'm independent, I'll be happy. But, I'm too terrified to learn how to drive and no one seems to be hiring, so I'm deadlocked::!

 

[MikeyC]

I don't know how to be truly happy, but I sort of know how to be not sad.

 

[polishgirl]

In theory, yes. In reality? No, not at all. I worry too much

 

[Srijita52]

I'm not sure if I do. But I can be able to handle my problems a little better that'd definitely make me happier.

 

[Fighter86]

Unfortnately no I can't even remember a time where I truly laughed. From the time I was a young girl I don't recall friends or anything that really put a smile on my face.


Mentioned above definately being financial independent would improve alot of things but I have doubts when or if I would ever achieve it. Bumper.

 

[KiaKaha]

Yes - but I dont do so at the expense of become too comfortable, naive or ignorant.

 

[MikeyC]

Unfortnately no I can't even remember a time where I truly laughed. From the time I was a young girl I don't recall friends or anything that really put a smile on my face.

That is sad and I am truly sorry. ::

 

[Nanita]

I can be happy at times. But I´m nervous and worried a lot though. But I´m mostly longing for being balanced and healthy, in body mind soul. Then happiness may come and go I guess.

 

[Gaucho]

nop i dont. i wish i could find my path in this life.

 

[MrSunday]

I just watch funny youtube videos. That makes me very happy.

 

[Nathália]

I had to teach myself some self happiness in order to deal with anxiety.
I really wouldn't say happiness but at least being content.

It's probally why emotions look like apathy because most of the time I am not that excited. To some happniess is excitment, laughter and that exuberant point.

Happniess to me is when I can reach a point of satisfacation.

"Yes I am upset about being broke and I am upset about how people treat me, but for right now I am not going to let that consume me." That's what being happy is to me.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Smile constantly. Maybe it'll trick your brain into thinking it's happy?

That's all I know.

 

[coyote]

letting go of the need for things to be a certain way

 

[dyingtolive]

Do you know what would make you happy or less anxious? I am convinced that once I'm done with school and financially independent I'll feel much better. The thing is, I almost don't know how to reconcile this with my current reality. I imagine it, but it always seems like a far-off fantasy, not something that could realistically happen in the next few years. I sometimes wonder if I sub-consciously undermining my own efforts to reach my goals because I don't know how I will handle it. I won't have an excuse to be the way I am then...what if I don't change?

ive heard that idea before in self help talks... we dont allow ourselves to succeed or be happy or do what we want because we're afraid.. we dont give ourselves permission..

I guess it can also be a mental trick, or exercise, to convince ourselves and give ourselves the courage to grow.. growth is always scary. but just trying, baby steps, little things can help. Hope for the best for you.

As for me... Yes I know how to be happy... I know exactly what i have to do in minute detail. But doing is harder... sometimes it seems impossible. But... at least.

 

[freestylemonster]

letting go of the need for things to be a certain way

Exactly! Sometimes things change when you don't want them to, sometimes things won't change even though you want them to. There's nothing you can do about it so the only way to be happy is to accept things the way they are (Easier said than done, I know!)

 

[DancingDann]

I've given up on trying to be happy now. I'm nearing 40 so time is running out. I should just accept it and move on really.

I just think in life some people are destined to be happy and some people aren't. I really do believe that i'm just not destined to be happy. That's just the way the coin fell i guess.

 

[Hoppy]

I love me Tiny Tim cover! - YouTube

 

[dyingtolive]

Cheer Up Keanu Day: Internet Tries to Make Reeves Happy - TIME

i recently heard the story about keanu reeves... about his fiancee dying and her stillborn baby that didnt survive also... and alot of things bad in keanu's life..

i guess unhappy people we're in good company. thats just the way the coin bounced.. i feel like i am not destined too, but life goes on. and we do what we can...

 

[Sup Phyl]

In a word- no.