Do you feel like girls aren't attracted to you because of your size?

[KiaKaha]

I have a similar problem, I am 5ft 9 and weigh 154 pounds. I always see girls with guys who are a lot bigger and more athletic looking. I think girls tend to go for the strong alpha male types it seems. But I dont know... my confidence is pretty shot these days... that probably isnt helping, but thats a whole different story.

But your appearance in the pics look fine to me. You look like the kind of guy a girl would like if she took the time to get to know you, Im sure.

 

[upndwn]

I used to have huge issues with my height, I'm just short of 5'9" and currently weigh about 165 pounds, but back then I was a lot thinner, around 145 pounds maybe.
These days I don't care so much about my height anymore, and I have several friends that are shorter than me. Now it is more that I don't think any girl would ever want me because of my f****ed up life. I've mostly gotten over my physical complexes, but I think it's a thing that comes to most people as they grow older.

 

[Invisibleman]

Oh my god yes.Im a measly 5"8 130 pounds,I have the body of an 8 year old (and im 17).most of the girls my age are taller than me or the same height and I dont know why but ive been told by so many girls that they will never date a guy the same height as them,they say their guy has to be taller.so il basically never get a girl friend::. sucks because ive boxed at the canadian nationals I probably could protect a girl *insert depressing chuckle*

 

[freestylemonster]

Either way, if one can't complete a quest it's often beneficial to gain a few levels, then try again. Eventually one could be one-hitting hot chicks all day. Though in my experience, it's the ugly ones that drop the better loot.

Finally someone puts into terms that I can understand I think we all just need more experience points.

 

[insecuregaga]

NONSENSE! The only women who are going to be weird about men's size are the ones that have insecurity about their own size. Women are most attracted to personality and it is a personality that sustains a relationship. I know for me that's true anyway, I'm just a little under 5'10 and I am an absolute sucker for confident (not cocky) charming men. In fact the guy I see now is about 5'6 or maybe 5'7. Height has absolutely no relevance in todays society. Here are some examples.


And before you say oh that's just because those men are rich and successful, I deliberately chose couples whereby both parties are successful within their own right, so the women's only motivation to be with their partner..is their partner.

lol it's Tom Cruise!

 

[freestylemonster]

Where I live, it's quite fashionable for men to be skinny. You shouldn't be trying to hide it. If anything, you may want to try out some snug-fitting clothes that show off your lithe physique. It's a very elegant look.

That's true! I've always thought Neil Patrick Harris looks damn sharp in his suit on How I met your mother - and he's a pretty skinny guy.

 

[Richey]

i remember being friends with this girl and she used to go absolutely mushy over this really tall and buff almost movie star looking guy that would come and visit at work, i know belief goes a long way but there is no chance in hell i can compete with that sort of genetic advantage. however this is in a physical sense, it also means that the guy can pull off being charming better then a lot of other people because he had that all round look so charisma shines through in a more obvious way to a female..

 

[NightTimeForever]

I've heard women don't like overtly-muscular men. Don't get me wrong, they like muscle, pretty defined seems to be the "in thing." So, decently above average weight, but turn that into muscle. I don't think they care about EXTREME muscle.

Honestly, regardless of attractiveness level I feel social anxiety really dampens my ability to date. Supposedly, some really good looking women have been attracted to me, some people would make comments about wondering if I was gay. If I didn't have to constantly battle myself, I'd be throwing some ladies over my shoulder and running for the nearest private spot.

 

[Eraserhead]

I've heard women don't like overtly-muscular men. Don't get me wrong, they like muscle, pretty defined seems to be the "in thing." So, decently above average weight, but turn that into muscle. I don't think they care about EXTREME muscle.

I don't think that "women", as a whole, like any one characteristic. Different women look for different things, just as men do. Some girls genuinely like skinny guys, while others fall for meatheads.

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

Nobody likes us fatties. ;[

 

[cesgrandsyeux]

The girls you want to be looking for won't fixate on your looks. Yeah, you can't be hideous, there has to be some physical attraction.....but on the whole, we're looking for much more than just appearance. (And you're not hideous.)
If there is a girl who won't give you a chance just because you don't look like a male model, she's a bitch, and she's not worth your time.

 

[Depression Glass]

Nobody likes us fatties. ;[

Untrue. I personally prefer short, hairy, fat guys with beards.

No matter who you are, someone out there thinks you're the hottest.

 

[Mickery]

Think about how you view other people that you find attractive. You probably look at their eyes, hair, skin, chest, bottom, height, legs... all sorts of things. And when you've looked, you form an average opinion about their appearance and that sets your level of attaction.

When we view ourselves, we do it differently. What you look at is much more specific than the way you average it out for others. You might fixate on having a bad hair day, for example, and think it shakes your whole appearance. Other people are unlikely to care, or even notice much.

It's important to reflect on the distinction and remember that people do not see you the way you see yourself as a matter of normal perception.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

the only time i can't stand smaller guys is when they lie about their height/weight and say its more than they really are :s There are many good looking short guys.... one i know is just 5'4 and manly.... his handshake was very strong and powerful so focus on a good handshake? lol.

 

[cesgrandsyeux]

the only time i can't stand shorter guys is when they lie about their height and say their taller then they are :s There are many good looking short guys.... one i know is just 5'4 and manly.... his handshake was very strong and powerful so focus on a good handshake? lol.

OMG MY DAD ALWAYS LOL
Haha, he's like 5ft 6 or 7, and he's like 'Nononono,5ft 8, always have been.'

 

[ScaredToBreathe]

i think you look cute! and I'm sure there are plenty of other girls out there who also think you're attractive. you shouldn't have anything to worry about hun, you're fine just the way you are in physical terms but girls look for a good personality too

 

[JamesSmith]

All the guys that are getting women are getting the women because they are giving the women attention by talking to the women. Looks are way overrated with how women view men. I've gone to over 50 parties and my looks never got a woman to approach me.

Maybe if you look like Brad Pitt or something, then maybe you'd be an exception. But if you are anything 7 or below on a 1-10 scale, you have to talk to women in order to get with women.

 

[Deus_Ex_Lemur]

All the guys that are getting women are getting the women because they are giving the women attention by talking to the women. Looks are way overrated with how women view men. I've gone to over 50 parties and my looks never got a woman to approach me.

Maybe if you look like Brad Pitt or something, then maybe you'd be an exception. But if you are anything 7 or below on a 1-10 scale, you have to talk to women in order to get with women.

This is so true... it's showing interest and being "confident". Or not afraid to do things really; ie: talk to women. Personality goes a longggg way. Sure, women aren't immune to physical attraction, it's a fact for both sexes, but - an emotional connection will go much further and enhance physical.

PLUS we're our own worst critics and so biased wee cannot trust ourselves period. I've been so negative before about my own looks and voice and stuff; I haven't even believed a woman is interested even when it's sort of clear... a lot of things/issues about ourselves WE THINK's so critical is NOT to others, ie: height, size, ears, etc. It's so skewed and exaggerated by our biases or a few bad experiences or many things but doesn't make it true =D

 

[cesgrandsyeux]

This is so true... it's showing interest and being "confident". Or not afraid to do things really; ie: talk to women. Personality goes a longggg way. Sure, women aren't immune to physical attraction, it's a fact for both sexes, but - an emotional connection will go much further and enhance physical.

PLUS we're our own worst critics and so biased wee cannot trust ourselves period. I've been so negative before about my own looks and voice and stuff; I haven't even believed a woman is interested even when it's sort of clear... a lot of things/issues about ourselves WE THINK's so critical is NOT to others, ie: height, size, ears, etc. It's so skewed and exaggerated by our biases or a few bad experiences or many things but doesn't make it true =D

THIS. ALWAYS.
And yeah,you're cute too
But man, it doesn't matter. As long as I can connect with that person, I want them....male model or not :')
But for real, I think when I get approached (not saying it's a lot , the guys are often charming and flirtatious. Or in my case...they offer to buy me food, hahah. Inside joke, just....nevermind.
But that works, if they're confident enough to approach me and flirt with me, I already like them. Until they want me to like....have sex with them for money or s/t.
Jokes, of course.
Even so, just be confident and it will come across well. And you're not ugly either, so you have more than just a slim chance

 

[JamesSmith]

This is so true... it's showing interest and being "confident". Or not afraid to do things really; ie: talk to women. Personality goes a longggg way. Sure, women aren't immune to physical attraction, it's a fact for both sexes, but - an emotional connection will go much further and enhance physical.

I agree with everything you said, first off.

I think it goes back to the alpha male vs. beta male argument, which so many people want to ignore because it makes women seem shallow. Women are biologically attracted to social confidence, as you said. It's because a man that is socially confident is likely to succeed in life and produce children that will be socially confident.

There is even more to this, such as social status. A man with good social status is appealing to women because it can give the woman good social status.