lyricalliaisons
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The more I'm attracted to someone, the harder it is to be around them. It's hard enough to be around people in general, but when it comes to being around people I'm attracted to, it's a zillion times worse.
Do you ever avoid men or women you like?
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TooShyShy
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i still don't get the avoidence..i get the being nervous part (i do get that way too) but why avoid them if you really like them..i actually want to see the one i want all the time??? I only do that when i am mad and can't take the roller coaster ride anymore..then i ignore them bcuz i'm so hurt..and exhausted by it all!!!!!
krs2snow
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What about the girl that's in her late 20's or early 30's thats convinced the guy she likes -who's in his mid to late 30's- is just too scared to let her know how he feels? At what point does it become rediculous for her to continue to believe with all her heart that he's into her after she's given him all the GO signs (such as cards, small gifts, encouraging smiles) but the relationship has stayed the same for many months... just coworkers ?
EscapeArtist
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Wow i've only had somebody interested in me once and it only lasted 1 day. They got over me as soon as they met me! Ha! Well we were very different people...
It's hard enough to find a lesbian, let alone a lesbian my age, let alone a lesbian around my age who's interested in LIFE rather than teenage life, let alone a single lesbian, let alone a single lesbian who is interested in me, and then lastly a single lesbian who is interested in me who is able to MEET me and still like me.
Doesn'tmatter much because I dont' want any of that. But yes, I do get extremely nervous, I think it's natural, I think everybody does, it's part of the 'fun' in relationships... in others' eyes at least
It's hard enough to find a lesbian, let alone a lesbian my age, let alone a lesbian around my age who's interested in LIFE rather than teenage life, let alone a single lesbian, let alone a single lesbian who is interested in me, and then lastly a single lesbian who is interested in me who is able to MEET me and still like me.
Doesn'tmatter much because I dont' want any of that. But yes, I do get extremely nervous, I think it's natural, I think everybody does, it's part of the 'fun' in relationships... in others' eyes at least
EscapeArtist
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hahahahahah that is very true! I laughed just then. Thanks for the insight, I hadn't realized that
TooShyShy
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And.....so what if she/he can tell you them or want to be with her/him?
Your behavior usually gives it away immediately..serously, if you have the same feelings for each other, respect for one another and a mutual physical attraction..what's stopping you???? You have to know that if the love shy person is staring at you all the time and walking by with their head down **sighing** and saying ''hello'' everyday even if they are struggling with it each day it means something..especially if the girl sticks around waiting for something to change.
You obviously care because your struggling to be out of your comfort zone to be around her when you dont need to be..correct?
My question is if the girl is giving that back to you and letting you know she cares (in a card, note or through a friend) why is that not enough for you to TRY with her?
Your behavior usually gives it away immediately..serously, if you have the same feelings for each other, respect for one another and a mutual physical attraction..what's stopping you???? You have to know that if the love shy person is staring at you all the time and walking by with their head down **sighing** and saying ''hello'' everyday even if they are struggling with it each day it means something..especially if the girl sticks around waiting for something to change.
You obviously care because your struggling to be out of your comfort zone to be around her when you dont need to be..correct?
My question is if the girl is giving that back to you and letting you know she cares (in a card, note or through a friend) why is that not enough for you to TRY with her?
Asking an Avoidance if he avoids? Is that not similar to asking if water is wet?
Yes, avoid. Heart attacks head, nothing will form from that.
Yes, avoid. Heart attacks head, nothing will form from that.
It comes from being me. It doesn't just happen to attraction, but it is worse. Seeing what signs? Interested, easier?
All mindful messages are gone. All sense of what is reason makes no sense. That with the constant knocking in the head. Really, not much of a sociable person in that state. Edge of migraine territory.
Never passing introduction, known.
Kiwong
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I'll be honest, I avoid ALL people, especially women, whether I am attracted to them or not. I don't trust women with my feelings.
Physical attraction just means I have the hots for them, not that I care about them. If I've never spoken to someone, that doesn't mean I have the same feelings for them or care about them.
Tooshyshy, go on and give this man you have a crush on a card or note, and see what happens. If you think he is worth the risk go on and do it. If you can accept that he may not reciprocate your interest, or may even reject you, but enver explain the reasons why. He could be unkind, he could avoid you, his friends might find out and gossip about you, he might not even respond to your note. That is the risk YOU take.
In my experience women can be very unkind in the way they reject men. And I have never met a woman who is worth taking that kind of a risk for.
Physical attraction just means I have the hots for them, not that I care about them. If I've never spoken to someone, that doesn't mean I have the same feelings for them or care about them.
Tooshyshy, go on and give this man you have a crush on a card or note, and see what happens. If you think he is worth the risk go on and do it. If you can accept that he may not reciprocate your interest, or may even reject you, but enver explain the reasons why. He could be unkind, he could avoid you, his friends might find out and gossip about you, he might not even respond to your note. That is the risk YOU take.
In my experience women can be very unkind in the way they reject men. And I have never met a woman who is worth taking that kind of a risk for.
TooShyShy
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I feel sorry for you then Kiwong.
I am very kind to him and he is very kind to me. Wether or not he or any of you take a chance with a goos woman is on you..its your life! I will be fine, i have men showing interest in me without ever really trying (got asked out last week actually) so i will go on wether or not he and i ever become more.
He is 40 now so i hope he can someday let someone in.
I am very kind to him and he is very kind to me. Wether or not he or any of you take a chance with a goos woman is on you..its your life! I will be fine, i have men showing interest in me without ever really trying (got asked out last week actually) so i will go on wether or not he and i ever become more.
He is 40 now so i hope he can someday let someone in.
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Misunderstood. Apologies. There is no one. Never pass introduction. I should say, never bother - outcome is known. Don't like knocking in my head so no further forward motion.
Perhaps once past introduction, to which I deem impossible for me, signs are easy.
I avoid, others avoid. I am a tanker in the ocean. Not unseen. Its coarse is straight. Its determination not known. Flows around.
Normally not so personal with internal. Attempting to break internal ice. Going well it is not.