I've posted 2 threads in the past about this because I'm positive that's what contributed mostly to my SA and depression. Had a great life in Oregon, great friends and family and people were so friendly, move to Canada after 4th grade, lost a bunch of friends, friend's mom who felt like my second mom, and I lost the elementary school, best place in the world in my books. I felt a deep connection to the teachers, the studies, the students and friends. The only atmosphere I can call a 'home' even now. Children here in canada are cold with exclusion (in the elementary I went to at least). It was a total 180, the kids were so different here it was a real shock to my system. They were trying to grow up too fast, judgmental and the teacher told my mom I was "nothing special". Before this, teachers were like parents to me. The move broke up the whole family. Sad to say I'm still not over the loss of Oregon and how my family was there.
Also moved about 13 times from the time I was born to the age of 5. I don't know if that installed some kind of perma-unsafe abandonment-outsider feeling or not. I also remember a really bad move was from Winnipeg to Oregon, where I lost a friend that I was really close to. But Oregon was the worst, still feels like my home somehow.
Would love to hear your story
Also if you look up moving and social anxiety, I remember some studies came up with the two being connected
"Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in children can also be triggered by a traumatic move. A key component involved may indeed be a feeling of powerlessness, and an absence of a sense of safety. (Steele and Raider 2002). When families must move because of a traumatic situation, the adults often are ill equipped to respond to the child’s emotional needs. Oftentimes, parents underestimate their children’s feelings (Bruce, 2003). Leonard Jason, psychology professor at De Paul University, states, “Most parents are pretty insensitive. They don’t understand the child’s point of view.” Because the parents may be undergoing their own stress related to the move, many issues evolve; the child may feel powerless, alone, fearful, angry and afraid to ask for help, or share their feelings, for fear of worrying the adults in their lives even more. If they see their parents crying, arguing, or simply stressing over the basic inconveniences associated with moving, they may interpret their parent’s behavior as being their fault. This is especially true with younger children.
Facts for Families (1999) indicate that studies show that, “children who move frequently are more likely to have problems at school.” The Orlando Sentinel, reports that “Students who change schools often are more likely to fall behind in reading, because they miss lessons in the march from school to school.” They further indicate that, “As many as one in three students in Central Florida switches schools during the year,” according to the most recent data available. (January 8, 2003). Florida is not alone in statistics such as these. Greg Lindberg, who compiled the data involving schools states, “What does seem to be quite clear is that moving really negatively affects the attendance, which profoundly affects the test scores.”
Sometimes children who kill are children who had to move to a new school, or to a new state or neighborhood, resented it and lacked the social and coping skills to adapt and “fit in.” Children can experience, “fear, the pain of separation, and other anxieties like adults” (Fullton, 2002). The “new kid” syndrome can lead to bullying, ridicule, outcasting as well as physical abuse from other kids. For example, on March 5, 2001, Charles Andrew Williams, a 15 year old, shot and killed two students at his suburban high school in San Diego, California. Williams was said to have tried to “fit in” at the 1,900 pupils Santana High School after moving to California the previous year from Maryland. (Gun Violence in America, Guardian Newspapers Limited, 2002)"
"There is great concern that the negative effects of moving on children are due to a loss of
social capital after moving (Coleman 1988). Social capital, according to Coleman (1988, 1990),
refers to those relations between persons or within communities, which, like economic or human
capital, may be used to foster skills and capabilities of children. Residential mobility, Coleman
and others have argued, disrupts social capital by breaking ties between parents, children, and
other members of a community. ."
Haven't really read this but just found it and the title is interesting :
http://crcw.princeton.edu/workingpapers/WP98-04-Pettit.pdf
I also remember reading that moving is very stressful on introverts specifically
