Can you accept compliments comfortably

KiaKaha

KiaKaha

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I would like to think I do, I mean they feel pretty good when someone says something nice about you, but for me I usually dont believe it. Just wondering what others take on on recieving compliments..

Also, does the value of the compliment hold a different weight depending on who gives it to you and what for?

Thanks for the insights and answers...

Hope you are all having a good day :)
 
BlackPuma

BlackPuma

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I usually have very hard time accepting compliments. I tend to expect the compliments to be shallow and fake, and that they give them because they feel bad for me and want to lift my spirits. :c

I don't blame the people whom give them, though. I really appreciate it when they try to do that. :3 But they never help me view myself differently, just the person who gives them.

Knowing that someone cares enough to do that feels good too, though. So in a way the compliments do make me feel better. Just not in the way they were intended to. x3
 
Confuseddd

Confuseddd

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When someone gives me a compliment i tend to panic. I think that they are just trying to make me feel better. Most times i end up disregarding the compliment all together
 
Falkor

Falkor

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When my grandpa says ''You look pretty today'' I say, ''Thank you!'' He says, ''Dont say thanks, You know you look pretty'' I say, ''Okay''
He says ''Okay?, I told you , you look pretty!"' , ''Yeah'' XD

Those moments are really stupid, but he does that trick over and over again :p

But mostly i get really shy and get red cheecks (blushing) when people compliment me.. I'd rather give away compliments to people
But still its showing a good sign of caring for someone, and that the otjher person likes something about your traints,looks or life
So im still happy when someone gives me a compliment =)
but im not good at taking them :p especially with my grandpa xD
 
vj288

vj288

not actually Fiona Apple
ShyKiwi said:
I would like to think I do, I mean they feel pretty good when someone says something nice about you, but for me I usually dont believe it. Just wondering what others take on on recieving compliments..

Also, does the value of the compliment hold a different weight depending on who gives it to you and what for?
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I usually don't accept compliments very well. If I don't believe it I hate accepting the compliment for sure, because I didn't think I did a good job. If it's about something nice I did, I hate being recognized like I don't deserve it or it takes away from the deed. I not exactly sure why.

And it does matter who says it and what it's about. If my Grandma says I'm handsome, no standing whatsoever. A stranger, coach, or teacher; just being nice in most cases. I guess really I have to believe you in order to accept it truly and comfortably (not very often)
 
Sinar_Matahari

Sinar_Matahari

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My ability to accept compliments comfortably and gracefully normally depends on how I'm feeling, the manner in which the compliment is paid, and who is paying it. I appreciate a genuine compliment given without ulterior motives.
 
MollyBeGood

MollyBeGood

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nope. not at all. I dislike being put on the spot or being the center of attention. But I do like them sometimes, depends on the person giving them and the situation, but it's rare.
 
Seasons

Seasons

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I never know how to react appropriately compliments. And it does depend on who it is and what for. If its something trivial it's fine, if it's from my close friends it's also fine because I don't need to worry about reacting I can just be honest and say I don't agree, and if I do agree I'll stay silent about it and they won't mind.
The compliments I have a problem with are the ones I get at work. Because then I definitely have to say something ::(:. Or if it's someone I've just met who compliments me on something like looks or sense of humour. Then it's very hard to think of something to say. I just go red. Lately I have been working on a quick 'thanks'.
 
K

Kinetik

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My mind doesn't seem to register or absorb compliments. It's trained to look for put-downs, so I can hear a million positive things and I'll still think it's just someone 'being nice', whereas I'm hypersensitive to criticism. If nine out of ten people like me and the tenth doesn't, I'll obsess over that last person and what I'm doing wrong, even though I know you can't appeal to everyone. It's weird how that works.
 
Logical Anxiety

Logical Anxiety

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Usually I can accept compliments with ease, but only if it's believable, and if I know if I deserve it. ::eek:: (like my talent, etc.) If it sounds too contrived or forced, you can bet I won't believe it.

Unfortunately I'm bad at saying thank you to the compliment, with a clear voice. -embarassed- Aw man. D:
 
Tiercel

Tiercel

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The short answer is no. My self-esteem is so bad that I always feel like I have to "correct" someone if s/he sees something good about me. I'm getting better at just leaving it at a polite reply, but it's awfully difficult sometimes.

And who pays the compliment and what it is about definitely affects my reaction. The closer it is to the part of my that I try to hide from the world it is, the more grateful I am. Even so, I usually brush it off like it's nothing. And the more meaningful and sincere it is, the worse I feel for telling him/her it's nothing.
 
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