Birthday hatred
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Why not do some thing different for your birthday that will still appease your parents.
"Mom, dad. Everybody has huge parties for their 21st's but I think I'd like to do something different."
Ask them if they would be willing to use the money they would have spent on a party to get you some skydiving lessons or a helicopter tour or a trip somewhere. And make a big point of scoffing at other people's parties like "Oh, what followers! Another booze-up." Parents love all that being-an-individual stuff.
"Mom, dad. Everybody has huge parties for their 21st's but I think I'd like to do something different."
Ask them if they would be willing to use the money they would have spent on a party to get you some skydiving lessons or a helicopter tour or a trip somewhere. And make a big point of scoffing at other people's parties like "Oh, what followers! Another booze-up." Parents love all that being-an-individual stuff.
Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
Don't celebrate it if you don't want to. My 21st was a lonely disaster.
I advice you to celebrate your birthday alone if you don't have solid best friends. Get a spa treatment and do something you love that you normally wouldn't indulge in. Instead of spending money on financing a party for other people to enjoy, spoil yourself <3
Maybe give your parents a specific time to be with you on your birthday eg. special breakfast. Tell your mom you can have a special brunch with them (so they can do all the milestone specials they are dying to do for you) but then say the rest of the day is for yourself because you planned a spa day. Denying your parents the right to enjoy their child's milestone might make them upset but celebrating at breakfast time will prevent them from inviting other people
Yeah great idea, I usually don't celebrate my birthday but I openly say it doesn't mean anything for me, and people accept it (actually there is other people around me who thinks this way). In fact I try to keep my birthday date as secret as possible. But I admit it is more delicate if you live with parents who are worried for you, they might spend all night looking at you miserably because it's your birthday and you're not partying.
Out of subject --> Funkieberries, you look amazing on your new profil picture.
Hastings & Main
Well-known member
Trust me, the more years that pass, the less inclined you'll be to recognize your birthdays anyways.
Just remind everyone how much money they'll be saving on gifts.
And that the best gift they can give you is to not make anything out of your b-day.
Just remind everyone how much money they'll be saving on gifts.
And that the best gift they can give you is to not make anything out of your b-day.
that_girl
Member
I don't hate my birthday, I just don't make a fuss like my friends.
My friends always celebrate their birthdays and they have big parties. In my case I don't care, it's a day like the others, sometimes I feel a little depressed because another year has passed and my life remains the same.
I just did one party when I turned 13 (i think), and after that I told my parents that I didn't want to make any more parties.
When I turned 18, which in Portugal is the age you enter in the adulthood, everyone was making a big fuss and for me it was the same like always.
My birthdays are with my parents and my dog at home, eating the birthday cake. Simple as that
My friends always celebrate their birthdays and they have big parties. In my case I don't care, it's a day like the others, sometimes I feel a little depressed because another year has passed and my life remains the same.
I just did one party when I turned 13 (i think), and after that I told my parents that I didn't want to make any more parties.
When I turned 18, which in Portugal is the age you enter in the adulthood, everyone was making a big fuss and for me it was the same like always.
My birthdays are with my parents and my dog at home, eating the birthday cake. Simple as that
WeirdyMcGee
Well-known member
I wouldn't say I hate it. My birthday is just another day.
I stopped having birthday parties when I was 7 because no one would show up to them.
When I was living by myself, no one even called > not like I expected them to.
A birthday really is just another day. You just happened to have been born on that day, however many years ago... but it doesn't make that day any more special than any other day.
That is how I see it.
Be happy every day that you are alive, not just one day of the year.
Be kind to everyone, every day - not just on holidays when you're supposed to.
I stopped having birthday parties when I was 7 because no one would show up to them.
When I was living by myself, no one even called > not like I expected them to.
A birthday really is just another day. You just happened to have been born on that day, however many years ago... but it doesn't make that day any more special than any other day.
That is how I see it.
Be happy every day that you are alive, not just one day of the year.
Be kind to everyone, every day - not just on holidays when you're supposed to.
I hate Birthdays too, my own and others. My own because well, I hate being reminded of being yet a year older, and second, I don't really have anyone to celebrate with other than family. I hate other people's birthdays because these are the times I have to spend on gifts, on average, I must spend at least a thousand a year on gifts to close family alone. I too try to keep my birthday a secret, so people can't ask me how I celebrate it, since I never have anything special to do on that day. Normally when my birthday comes, I just try my best to brush it under the carpet and hope the day would be over before I know it, best way to spend a birthday in my opinion. The idea some suggested of spending a day at a spa isn't bad either, its actually quite nice just to devote a day to pampering yourself, except that at this point, I really can't afford it because I have some quite important plans that could be realised with only quite large an amount of money and I'm still struggling to get there.
I don't hate it. I don't like it. The whole celebration throws me off. A simple Happy Birthday from whoever is just fine.
(no singing please.)
And a birthday pie.
(no candles or cake)
(no singing please.)
And a birthday pie.
(no candles or cake)
I never liked having birthday celebrations. Thankfully, I'm over 21 so none of them are 'special' anymore. I prefer to see a movie or go bowling with my friends and family. No presents, no cake, no singing.
Okay, maybe a birthday pie. I loooove pie.
Okay, maybe a birthday pie. I loooove pie.
I know. Now, no one can ask about what I'm going to do, though I remember my 21st distinctly. I had mopped around at home with a really old and tattered Nike shirt, and old green shorts with messy hair all day. It had to be my worse Birthday, turning 21st, with nothing to look forward to on that said day, I have never felt so bad on a Birthday, thankfully there are no more special Birthdays anymore. For my coming one this year, I'm just going to pretend it doesn't exist, perfect way to spend a Birthday. Its possible I might buy myself something to celebrate it, and that's just about it.
Phoenixx
Well-known member
^ This is basically how I feel about my birthday. I don't mind it, but I don't like going all out with celebrating it. I like getting simple happy birthday's from people (And gifts are always nice too
), but I really don't like the fact that some people expect you to have a party. Parties are never my thing. crunch-yogurt
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If you dont want to do anything tell your parents thats what you want, its your birthday after all. Different people celebrate birthdays diffrently, for some people its a big deal and for others its just another day. I turned 21 last month and my parents did the same thing, they really wanted me to have some big celebration. but I really didnt want to. So I didnt do anything in the end. 21st just seem like so much hassle.
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BleedTheFreak
Well-known member
I'm indifferent to it as well. I'd rather not even have people mention it. I remember as a teen I hated it, not because I didn't want to get older, but because someone would always try to make me celebrate it :/ and I'd end up running away. For my 17th I visited my aunt and cousins and my cousin had friends sleep over, so while I was just sitting around all of a sudden my mom, aunt, cousins, and some other girls I didn't even know start singing Happy Birthday while I'm sitting there trying not to look horrified. That was the last time anything like that happened, and now birthdays are just a reminder that time is slipping away and I've yet to really accomplish anything. So in that way I still do dread my birthday. Maybe if I was doing positive things and making progress I'd feel better about it, but I'm in a rut right now.
StarShine
Member
I despise my birthday. I just had one in January and it was probably the worst one yet. Last year was my 16th birthday and all I got was one video game. This year, my parents didn't get me anything and never did. I believe they didn't get me anything last year either. I don't usually complain about gifts, it's the fact that no one really acknowledges my birthday. Sure I had a small party this year, but it was pretty horrible. The person who threw it for me acted as if I was just a person she was helping out. The awkward hug just really made me come to realization that we're not close at all. I know when my sister's 19th birthday comes up my parents will give her gifts and her many friends will throw a party for her. :l
I guess the difference is that she actually has friends and our family loves her more. Sad but true. Eh I suppose it's just another day of wasted living.
I guess the difference is that she actually has friends and our family loves her more. Sad but true. Eh I suppose it's just another day of wasted living.
Miss Berry
New member
I very much hate my birthday. It feels like there is so much pressure because everybody normally celebrates their birthday with friends, and I don't have many friends. I want to be like everyone else, throwing big parties or planning outings with loss of people to invite along, but I can't do that so my birthday is just a depressing reminder everything I wish I was but have failed to be.
A big factor is also the embarrassment. I feel like a failure for not having enough friends to celebrate my birthday with, and ashamed for people who know me casually to realise how few friends I have in my life.
Therefore, for me my birthday is something I dread. I always try to spend it with my family so that people might just assume that I have strong family values & like to be close to my family, rather than realise the humiliating truth - ie that I didn't choose seeing my family over seeing my friends, I just have no friends. ::
A big factor is also the embarrassment. I feel like a failure for not having enough friends to celebrate my birthday with, and ashamed for people who know me casually to realise how few friends I have in my life.
Therefore, for me my birthday is something I dread. I always try to spend it with my family so that people might just assume that I have strong family values & like to be close to my family, rather than realise the humiliating truth - ie that I didn't choose seeing my family over seeing my friends, I just have no friends. :
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My birthday was on Friday, and I really enjoyed it. What i didn't enjoy was having to see family members who wanted to wish me a happy birthday. that was like hell. Especially if 2 people happened to visit at the same time. Awful. But apart from that, I love birthdays. I really want to celebrate my 16th, 18th, and 21st, just not in a big party. Maybe if I'm cured by then, I'll have a massive party