being a shy girl in a mens class

[Falkor]

Hello everyone,

I'm a girl 20 years, and I am in a men's / boy's class, becuase i'm studying computer science, there are 99 % men basically ::

so yeah, sometimes i caught myself being uncomfy about this situation, they all talk about men stuff, i do get it because i like women too (am lesbian) and i love cool sports and such.

Though, i do feel a little awkward,

and also i bought some feminine clothes to wear, and it makes me feel really girly, i don't know, i used to be a tomboy, but i don't know what i should do, because a lot of people don't like me when being a tomboy, and when being girly they always find me so sweet.. nahhh bahh.

so maybe i just feel a little stupid being in a guys class, they are tough and i'm a girl. i'm not jealous or something, i just feel weird about it.

is that wrong

 

[Kat]

No I think I would feel the same. Computer science sounds like a pretty cool topic to study though. A lot of the things I have been interested in seem to be a bit guy orientated I’m not a tomboy but not overly girly girl. I do tend to cling to girls a bit more in unfamiliar situations but just be you I’m sure there’s some nice ones that you can find common ground with and will look out for you! Stay strong!::

 

[dancingintherain]

oh my gosh.. I had to be in a class full of men too and all of them looked at me as if I was a fresh piece of meat and one kept stalking me all the time....
- Never again

 

[Section_31]

oooooh *wince*

I feel so bad for women when men do that!!!

Falkor, i say just be yourself. Dress how you want to dress and be who you want to be. I had the same thing when i was taking computer network engineering, there were only 2 girls in that class of 30, the rest were all guys, and yea some were creepy douchebags that liked to stare and check them out *facepalm*.

As i said, dress yourself and be yourself. Your there to learn, not to impress anyone. And being how you feel yourself to be will give you more confidence, and thus maybe make you feel better in an unsettling situation.

Girls, on behalf of stupid men, id like to apologize, were not ALL creeps .

 

[Chess]

In most of my classes, nobody talks to each other in the first place. I can see why you'd feel out of place, though. I worry a lot about standing out the wrong way and getting twice the embarrassment for it because I'm one of few women. Just get those grades.

 

[Nanita]

Be yourself. Wear the clothes you like to wear. Don´t let other peoples opinions decide your identity.

 

[Phoenixx]

You shouldn't feel stupid being in a men's class. Hopefully they don't make you feel that way either. Just be yourself and try not to worry about them too much.

Honestly, I feel a lot more comfortable around men, so I wouldn't totally mind taking a class like that, but that's just me.

 

[laure15]

Me too, I used to take computer science classes where I will be one of the handful of girls among many guys. I felt uncomfortable because the guys would pick on me. Some started whistling at me, some started calling out my name several times in the middle of class (and the teacher ignored it), and some started making cell phone noises and stomping in my direction (to scare me, I guess). I think they could sense my fear and the fact that I am socially awkward, so I was easy prey for them.

 

[Newtype]

I've been studying computer science for a year now and yeah, there are few girls. Out of like 60 students, there may be like 5 girls. By the end of the semester, many people quit and there are like 3 girls left. The girls in my classes have never been mistreated by the guys though. It's quite the opposite. The girls in my classes are themselves, they don't act differently, and they seem to have befriended some of the guys. I think it's better to be friends with some of them than just be alone.

You shouldn't feel stupid at all. Over here, they know that few girls study computer science, so they've made a special Web site to honor all the women who have graduated over the years. Some of the best programmers are women too, and it is a woman, Ada Lovelace, who was the first computer programmer, so you belong there. Stay strong

 

[Amitush123]

Well I face the opposite situation - I work in customer service by phone, and most of the workers are girls...which makes the place a real nut - house...but it's nice to watch beautiful people while working, brightens up my day a bit

 

[AsTimeBurns]

We had a few girls/women when I was studying Computing at university as well, they generally just hung around with the guys I think.

Computer Science is an difficult subject to be in that situation with, as a lot of the Computery guys can be quite shy/quiet as well, so I imagine it's not easy to become friends with them.

Easier said than done, but I'd just be yourself to be honest. If you try too hard to be one of the extremes, e.g. very girly or acting more tom-boyish then it'll probably just make you stand out more and I assume you don't necessarily want that? People will probably find it easier to talk to you and become friends with you if you're secure in who you are, rather than trying to be someone else.

And since it's a academic course, you should all have pretty much the same sort of interests, so there should be plenty of topics you can talk about.

"What do you think of Windows 8?"
"Internet Explorer is **** isn't it?"
"What's your favourite programming language?"
"Did you understand a word of what the teacher just said?"

I find just asking little questions here and there can ease you in a bit, rather than trying to go straight into long conversations with people you don't really know all that well.