anyone get annoyed with people shouting?

[cowboyup]

To the point: does hearing people shout at others irritate or frighten you? Do you want to ever say something but are afraid to because you know that person will just yell back? I know we all yell and get annoyed at times, but I mean when you hear others just scream because they can throw their authority around - that's when it gets maddening (at least for me)

For me, this discussion is a bit personal, but since I am at the house most of the time, I hear how my brother and sister-in-law talk to their 3 year old son - my nephew- and sometimes I feel so sad for the child. I understand it's none of my business how they raise their child (unless there is actual child abuse) but just how they talk to him is rude. My brother has always had anger issues - no surprise since he is a police officer - but to yell at your kid to go to bed and stay there when they've had no trouble getting him in bed in the first place is ridiculous and I am sick and tired of hearing him yell at the boy for nothing - other than the fact that my brother is 'annoyed' because they have to spend the weekend with their child. Monday-Friday, for 10-12 hours I am with my nephew and for the mere 48 hours they have to spend with him, they seem put out. My sister-in-law just sits there & lectures the boy "put your toys away" "you know where it goes, now do it" "focus - are you even listening to me"...etc.
And yes, I think it's great for kids to pick up their mess but she takes it a step further by ignoring my brother when he asks her a question, and instead keeps lecturing my nephew to put the toys away. I don't know, maybe I am just being extra-sensitive right now but my heart breaks for my nephew because I know there's nothing I can do about it.

 

[Srijita52]

I really get annoyed at people who shout for no reason, specially at children. I do get it that sometimes its necessary but I think it should be avoided if there's a nicer way. Although different people may have a different mindset about it.
Sorry to hear about your nephew, maybe you can suggest them to tone it down a bit, if they're willing to listen?

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

Not so much annoyed, but being in the presence of people who are arguing, shouting or fighting makes me physically ill.
I shake, I vomit, I go into full out panic/anxiety mode and can't be near the conflict.

Currently, the place we live shares a wall with an abusive young mother who dates different drug dealers on and off and has partial custody of 2 of her small children.
She screams at her son all the time and it puts me on edge and always makes me feel sick and anxious and terrible.

 

[MikeyC]

Wow, cowboyup, that sounds horrible for your nephew. I realise you can't say anything but it's still going to break your heart seeing that.

Not so much annoyed, but being in the presence of people who are arguing, shouting or fighting makes me physically ill.
I shake, I vomit, I go into full out panic/anxiety mode and can't be near the conflict.

Currently, the place we live shares a wall with an abusive young mother who dates different drug dealers on and off and has partial custody of 2 of her small children.
She screams at her son all the time and it puts me on edge and always makes me feel sick and anxious and terrible.

I don't ever feel physically sick, but I live next door to people that sometimes yell and scream and throw around F-bombs like it's going out of fashion.

Your case is a lot more insane than mine and I'm truly sorry you have to put up with that. ::

 

[Azael]

This is one of the biggest issues right now. The rest of my family are very loose with the tongue. For me personally constant fighting and shouting in a way breaks me down; just being around it. The atmosphere that comes with it and the instability it brings to those tht do it very much unsettle me. Perhaps my prolonged exposure to it has lessened my tolerance for it.

 

[Iluv]

I completely agree. It's terrible at my old household where I grew up because it's so loud! And I'm a person who can't work or sleep without complete silence. And children do learn that from there parents, the parents yell at them and they wonder why the child grows up to talk back and yell back at them. It's a terrible thing, and it's one of my pet peeves is seeing a child being screamed at for just being the child he or she is.
Sometimes I do wish the world was a little more patient and silent. That's why I live in the country :: Less noise.

 

[nafadda]

I HATE being around LOUD people....I tend to just look at them as if they are crazy..do they think I am deaf?? I really think it's the fact that they want everyone to notice and to hear them,thats why they talk so loud ,be it on their phones or just in what should be personal conversation...they should be yelling out.."ME ME MEEEEEE..IT"S ALL ABOUT ME>>HEY LOOK AT ME..I'M JUST SO DAMN IMPORTANT!'..yea sure you are..nope actually no one cares about your lous ass to be honest,,you are just annoyingly LOUD!

yrs ago I worked at an eatery .i could not believe how loud the people were that worked at it.i understand if they were speaking up over clanging dishes and such,BUT it went far beyound that.Simple conversation had to be for ALL to hear..I just didn't get it.

I remember one day walking into the kitchen part and it was 'down time'..no one around but one cook and I laid an order down ,looked right at him and he looked back and i was about 2 feet from him and i said 'order in'..( i speak pretty low)..and he looked at me and said 'you need to speak up,EVERYONE here thinks you speak too low'..!!!!! HUH..he was RIGHT there ..I was like WTF..so the next time I walked in I SCREAMED at the top of my lungs ORDER IN..I mean I was not just loud I actually SCREAMED the words ...at that time the kitchen was full and they all just looked at me as if I were insane,,HAHAHAHAha..you could have heard a pin drop..I just looked at them all and I said ." I hope that was LOUD enough for YOU ALL"!

 

[gustavofring]

Yeah, shouting, whistling, people in other rooms laughing hard.. A lot of things set me off for no reason!

Yet I whistle myself, I may shout sometimes, and I have laughed hard with people. It's a curse that I have to be so sensitive when others do it but I can't help it sometimes.

 

[MikeyC]

I remember one day walking into the kitchen part and it was 'down time'..no one around but one cook and I laid an order down ,looked right at him and he looked back and i was about 2 feet from him and i said 'order in'..( i speak pretty low)..and he looked at me and said 'you need to speak up,EVERYONE here thinks you speak too low'..!!!!! HUH..he was RIGHT there ..I was like WTF..so the next time I walked in I SCREAMED at the top of my lungs ORDER IN..I mean I was not just loud I actually SCREAMED the words ...at that time the kitchen was full and they all just looked at me as if I were insane,,HAHAHAHAha..you could have heard a pin drop..I just looked at them all and I said ." I hope that was LOUD enough for YOU ALL"!

I love that! Give them a taste of their own medicine!

I have a neighbour who shouts and whistles and claps right outside my window. You can't not hear it and it can be overbearing. He watches TV by himself yet wants the world to know about it.

 

[OceanMist]

My bosses love yelling at me or loudly scolding me. Yes, it can get annoying at times.

I went to military school in high school so I learned how to handle the yelling, but it has gotten to the point where now I'm saying "Shut up! Just shut up" in my head.

I feel like going ballistic like in Celtic Pride when the coach for the Jazz blows up on that foreign player. Watch the movie, you'll see what I mean.

 

[Richey]

I find there are lots of adults that have massive egos and often that creates arrogance and the way you hear people talking to other people. I am talking about condescending tone of voice and a know it all attitude. shoutings instead of talking calmly. It is even worse when that person thinks that their opinion is always right and never allowes for an open mind.

personally i tend to avoid these sorts of people at all costs. and they are everywhere.

its also crappy when they call you out on something. like when you don't know something that they find obvious and then they talk to you as if you are the most uneducated idiot.

Seriously, if you have a pristine general knowledge then don't rub it in peoples face, if i knew something that someone else doesn't know then i am just happy to educate them in a happy manner. That's how it should always be. sick of people.

 

[MikeyC]

Seriously, if you have a pristine general knowledge then don't rub it in peoples face

A friend of mine does this. He's especially well-versed in history and will always try to pull out some kind of knowledge if the situation calls for it. He's quite smart and he loves to tell people about it.

Coincidentally, in keeping with the theme of the thread, he's a very loud talker. When he's speaking, nobody else can because he booms.

I also don't think he likes me very much which is unfortunate.

 

[Invisibleman]

Yeah I know what you mean. I hate to be around shouting and conflict. My neighbors are a bunch of crazy bikers that ride on choppers. Atleast once a week il hear terrible domestic dispute,il hear swearing and screaming and stuff breaking and I get scared::