Is anyone else severely quiet like I am? I have a part time job and i can literally go the whole shift without saying much. I only speak when spoken to pretty much. At school I never talk to anyone, I just sit there in silence. I just lose the inability and desire to speak when I am around people.
Anyone else severely quiet?
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eternalnewb
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I'm really quiet. I work with kids with Special needs so I end up talking quite a bit at work to the kids, but as far as my co-workers go I don't really talk to them much unless they talk to me. I don't feel the same need to talk as most people do, and I've been like this forever. I've been told constantly all my life that I'm too quiet especially going through school. Most of the time I just don't have the desire to talk to people and I'm content with silence, what bothers me is that some people don't understand how I can be happy being so quiet, they just don't get it.
On a positive note I used to win money off my brothers and mom who would bet me on how long I could go without talking. Once they realised that it wasn't hard for me like it was for them they stopped betting but it was kinda fun.
Are you okay with being so quiet, or do you wish you were more talkative?
On a positive note I used to win money off my brothers and mom who would bet me on how long I could go without talking. Once they realised that it wasn't hard for me like it was for them they stopped betting but it was kinda fun.
Are you okay with being so quiet, or do you wish you were more talkative?
Yeah...I'm trying to break the habit, though. I can carry a conversation if someone wants to have one..And I can talk for a while..I just have no skills at starting a conversation.
In school I pretty much sit there quiet...except in my community college class I am really trying to participate and not be known as the 'quiet kid'. As far as high school, I'm already known as the quiet kid...I only have a few months left..I don't really bother trying to start conversation with the kids I don't know.
In school I pretty much sit there quiet...except in my community college class I am really trying to participate and not be known as the 'quiet kid'. As far as high school, I'm already known as the quiet kid...I only have a few months left..I don't really bother trying to start conversation with the kids I don't know.
JamesSmith
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When I've had jobs, I never speak to people unless spoken to. The one time i'd talk to someone it would be if i had a very important question. Shooting the breeze is just not something that comes natural to me.
Shygirl2011
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I am too, I just never feel like I know what to say
dottie
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yes, it is very rare i speak. very, very rare to initiate talk. when people talk to me i get the primitive "fight or flight" feeling. i just want to get away as fast as possible and keep verbal interaction at an absolute minimum. it is an ENGRAINED FALSEHOOD that i am not worthy, that i am sub-standard, or that what i say will not be believed or valued. this probably is due to emotional abuse.
on a cognitive level i know my behavior is "no good" and i "should" be different (according to society's standards and expectations). it is difficult to change your nature.
on a cognitive level i know my behavior is "no good" and i "should" be different (according to society's standards and expectations). it is difficult to change your nature.
Aussie_Lad
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I am not quiet, I just don't talk much.
Yee I'm quiet too and don't speak unless spoken too.
Take yesterday for example... I walked into work signed in no one spoke to me. Probably because I make no eye contact whatsoever. I put my headphones in and start work.. I walk into my section the stock manager says Hello and I said Hello back and that was it.. For the whole 4 hour shift I said Hello once. Everyone else is enjoying jokes and gossiping and I just get on with it.
But yee I only really speak when spoken to when it comes to work.
Take yesterday for example... I walked into work signed in no one spoke to me. Probably because I make no eye contact whatsoever. I put my headphones in and start work.. I walk into my section the stock manager says Hello and I said Hello back and that was it.. For the whole 4 hour shift I said Hello once. Everyone else is enjoying jokes and gossiping and I just get on with it.
But yee I only really speak when spoken to when it comes to work.
I would like to be more talkative. It makes me feel very inadequate when I'm around people and I am the only one who is quiet and no one wants to even speak to me.
I wasn't always quiet ya know, it wasn't until SA developed that I became a mute.
I am quiet. Not severely. I say little. When I do speak, short and to the point.
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Pacific_Loner
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I am basically known for being "the quiet one" so I guess I am. Among friends it doesn't really matter because they know me since years and have accepted me as so, but at work, sooner or later I get the "you're very silent are you". I've been told I'm sickly silent even when I walk, eat, or do whatever.
Moo
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I'm like that. I hate the feeling of sitting in a room with several people and suddenly realising that you're the only one who hasn't joined in on the conversation. It's so uncomfortable. It's not as severe now but a few years ago I would go the whole day for months on end with saying probably no more than 10 words a day or something. More recently I've been forcing myself to socialise and actually keep up the friendships but talking for me is mentally exhausting, I don't know how else to describe it. Anyway even though I talk a lot more now i'm still probably perceived as "the quiet one", it feels like something I'll never be able to shake off.
JosephG
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Yes me!
I barely say a thing most times. I have nothing to say mostly. However sometimes if I'm in the right atmosphere I'll get caught out into a heated debate! Usually involving profound stuff or stuff that is not regarded as fun.
I wish I could be fun! I need to learn how!
I barely say a thing most times. I have nothing to say mostly. However sometimes if I'm in the right atmosphere I'll get caught out into a heated debate! Usually involving profound stuff or stuff that is not regarded as fun.
I wish I could be fun! I need to learn how!
AsTimeBurns
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Indeed. I usually don't say anything unless I'm spoken to, which then gets a short response. I do sometimes chat to people, but only if I've known them quite a while, otherwise I get nervous and have no idea what to say.
Shift
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Yes. When I'm around other people, I swear my mind just goes blank and I have nothing to say, so I stay quiet. Or sometimes when I do have something to say, I feel like I'll be bothering people if I speak. Or that I'm being rude by bringing myself into a conversation. So I just stay quiet.
madmike
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It's only with a very small number of people that i can actually have a 'conversation'. I think i more or less consitently try to speak to people if put into a situation where it would be difficult to avoid them, but all too often end up making a fool out of myself or i'll either discourage myself and try to find a way out, or feel like i'm being pushed away by people.