Should I Stay or Should I GO ?

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TheNightCreature

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Hey guys, I'm not crying for attention, i'd just thought i'd be honest and up front with you all. This site is a great site and don't get me wrong, but it really hasn't helped me at all. i'm over my problems with Social Anxiety and i didn't have it when i came here.

This site has been getting me depressed and i don't usually get depressed, a matter fact i got really depressed today. I just thought does anyone really want me here ? I've been told by people that they don't feel safe talking to me or hardly get a response which i know the chat has it problems.

I'm a real person, i'm friendly, i'm a good person, I really wanted to meet people from around the world and occasionly help them from time to time but has my time here come to end ? I Just thought i'd post and see what responses i get and see if anyone is having any similar feelings or anything, If i don't get a response it's been nice knowing you guys :)

BTW sorry posted in the wrong section and i do want honesty because it's the best policy
 
KiaKaha

KiaKaha

Banned
Hey man, theres no need to think like that. I have spoken to you a few times and yes you are friendly. I dont like the chat thing that much because it never works for me properly but from what I know of you, you seem like a decent guy.

I think I know what you mean though, I mean, there is a lot going on here and not everyone is going to..erm...fit in, I guess... at least not right away. There are always going to be stronger personalities who get noticed more than some others... but that doesnt mean that you dont belong, or that you dont have a right to be here. If you think you can gain something from posting, then go ahead... someone will read it, even if they dont say anything...but if its bringing you down, then move on. There is no point in feeling miserable, especially over something as inane as an internet forum :)

Congrats on not having SA btw.. wish I could say the same thing.
 
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TheNightCreature

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ShyKiwi said:
Hey man, theres no need to think like that. I have spoken to you a few times and yes you are friendly. I dont like the chat thing that much because it never works for me properly but from what I know of you, you seem like a decent guy.

I think I know what you mean though, I mean, there is a lot going on here and not everyone is going to..erm...fit in, I guess... at least not right away. There are always going to be stronger personalities who get noticed more than some others... but that doesnt mean that you dont belong, or that you dont have a right to be here. If you think you can gain something from posting, then go ahead... someone will read it, even if they dont say anything...but if its bringing you down, then move on. There is no point in feeling miserable, especially over something as inane as an internet forum :)

Congrats on not having SA btw.. wish I could say the same thing.
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Hey, Thanks you've pretty good to me on here
 
Pyrophosphate

Pyrophosphate

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I believe pretty much everyone around here feels like they're not wanted. I think we all see this social hierarchy on this site, and we all see ourselves at the bottom of it, because that's what we're used to. It's an illusion. I've been hanging around here regularly since the beginning of July, and I felt nonexistent on this site until not even a month ago. This is my little theory on why there are 25,000 members, the majority of whom probably haven't made a single post before disappearing entirely. Probably also why there are so many lurking guests. We all share the same fear.

It might take a while for you to feel wanted, but just hang around and converse, and it'll come. That goes for anybody.
 
Dead_on_Arrival

Dead_on_Arrival

Well-known member
Hey man, we've just become friends and I would hate to see you go straight away. You've only been on the site for a relativey short time and that maybe why you feel like this. As for the chat functions, most people struggle with them, I don't really use them that much but tend to hold my conversations using the pm system.
I also found that the best way to let people find out what your personality is like is to post in the off topic threads. The fun threads gave me an insight into the minds of others.
 
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Kiwong

Kiwong

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Stay if the site is helpful for you Night-Creature. To be honest I haven't seen many of your posts, and I don't use the chat. There are a lot of posts on this site and it easy for them to be overlooked. Not responding to you would not be personal I am sure.
 
Niteowl

Niteowl

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You seem like a great person, and since you're over social anxiety, you're able to give the rest of us hope. :p I think you should stick around - I think I sort of know how you're feeling. It sometimes ... feels like there's an inner-circle of sorts here, and it does to me feel like you're either a part of it or you're not. People with social anxiety, or that used to have social anxiety, tend to think that way, when really there is no inner-circle. That's more or less what Pyrophosphate said, actually. Some people seem just to have more confidence in posting and being open, and it's those who are quick to make friends, that's all. Everyone here is great, I wish I had the courage to get to know them.

I hope you keep coming back here, if the site's working for you. :)
 
KiaKaha

KiaKaha

Banned
Niteowl said:
Some people seem just to have more confidence in posting and being open, and it's those who are quick to make friends, that's all. Everyone here is great, I wish I had the courage to get to know them.

I hope you keep coming back here, if the site's working for you. :)
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That's true in the real world too. Its those who speak up and make themselves noticed, make more friends...if your quiet people dont warm up to you cos they dont know you.

Really thats social anxiety in a nutshell..
 
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RedMonkey

Banned
The chat system is bugged. Don't be alarm if no one reply you. You get used to it. When i first came here... i thought everyone ignore me when i try to chat with them. It turn out... the person have log off but the chat still show the person on9. Or sometime they are AFK or busy.
 
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Agent_Violet

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I think you should stay:) post in off topic stuff...sometimes people don't always know what to say to help someone so if they see you in off topic posts they can get a feel for your personality thus giving them a better idea of how to help...
 
MrJones

MrJones

Well-known member
Hey, we only talked a couple of times and you are in fact very friendly, a good guy. Believe me, I thought many times of leaving myself, but in the end I stayed, I'm still here, and I'm glad I did, I've found things I never expected. You've been here for not too long, if you stay some more time maybe you'll like it more! :)
 
tovoxy

tovoxy

Active member
TheNightCreature said:
This site has been getting me depressed and i don't usually get depressed, a matter fact i got really depressed today. I just thought does anyone really want me here ? I've been told by people that they don't feel safe talking to me or hardly get a response which i know the chat has it problems.
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I'm sure a lot of people feel like that here. I mean it's a SA forum after all :)
Sometimes, I'm having the same thoughts but then I realize it's probably coz of my social issues.
So, don't worry, and you should definitely stay!! :):)
 
Necrucifer

Necrucifer

Well-known member
Yea dont think like that, I think that sometimes when I post some people dont cry or that I am whining to much but I just ignore those feelings..I would pm you more often or write down on the chat thing but just been stressing out of something important lately and only get on from time to time to skim really.
 
Bo592

Bo592

Well-known member
you should stay I remember you was one of the first ones to reach out to me here and help me to feel welcome here. I don`t say thing alot because I am afriad of wath to say. But that don`t mean that I never read of you threads.
 
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