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Is there anything necessarily wrong with being a loner?
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Bustn Justin
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I am a loner too.
DespairSoul
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Hello,
ofcourse isnt be loner necessarily wrong,if u can cope with it and live with out people well then i dont see on be alone nothing bad. Everyone like to be sometimes alone. Worse is if u suffer to be alone and u cant cope with it well. I wish to dont mind be alone because sometimes i enjoy it really a lot, but after longer time i struggle a lot. Loneleness make me insane and fence wich i made around me and outside world.
Pacific_Loner
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Agree with everything that has been said, just make sure to care for your close friend(s) and family if you have some, and spend some time with them on a regular basis, for they are precious....
R3K
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There was a thread a couple weeks ago, forgot what it was exactly, that kinda went over this. The concept was that social people, in their happy cliques of friends and buddies tend to view the "weird/awkward/scary" loners as kind of a threat to their happy little circle or something. Or that we (loners) represent everything they don't want to be and the result is they can get to the point where they despise loners and treat them badly.
So in that sense, according to certain paranoid happy and social people, there are tons of things wrong with us lol.
So in that sense, according to certain paranoid happy and social people, there are tons of things wrong with us lol.
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thank you for your input
R3X
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i think it's alright being a loner(i am) but you have to have some friends you know? like what if you're in trouble or something....you need friends that are there to help you...it's okay to live a "lonely" life but you must at least have SOME friends/friend....i'm trying though but since i'm TOO used to being a loner,it's sort of hard to socialise and make friends plus the fact that i have SA,it's even tougher for me to find one...
DespairSoul
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I think im a lonely loner.::
yes u must be always the leader my small Stalin
hehe (just kidding)
Mokkat
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logically there's nothing wrong with being a loner. Realisticly, 99.9% of us are conditioned to be a part of society, social groups, friendships, etc by parents, school and our social environment, so you have to be extremely determined to be a loner and be 100% content with yourself
HeadFace
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Conditioned? True, most would classify humans as "social creatures". But I wouldn't say conditioned. Loners just don't enjoy the presence of others most of the time. Though, for some loners, we also need some connection in our life. A family member, a friend. That doesnt mean that a lonely loner - someone who refuses to talk to anyone else - can't exist. And nobody can be 100% content with theirselves all the time. Sometimes loners wish they were social butterflies, and sometimes they actually are content with being social misfits.
JamesSmith
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Yes there is. Human beings are meant to have relationships where they connect with other people. When they don't get enough of these relationships, which is what a loner does, they become depressed and lonely. I'm a loner. People that tell you they like being a loner are telling you that because they know that being a loner is the easier and safer option if you have an anxiety disorder. But the truth is, it's impossible to like being a loner for a long time. Humans aren't made for that. I don't like being a loner, it's just easier for me and I'm afraid to try to make friends again.
mismeek
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I dont really agree.. People who are true loners are not unhappy with the way they are. I get enough social interacting by just going to the grocery store or watching people at the park. I deeply enjoy my silence and solitude..i dont feel like an outcast or condemned just because i don't choose to hang out with people often.
HeadFace
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Have it. I loved it.
I agree with this. I get enough by just going for walks. The very few friends I have (about 2) I'm extremely close to. And by just talking to them time to time fills my "craving" for conversation.
babegolden20
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I agree with one of the above post that it is nice to be alone sometimes but not all the time prob go insane after a while.
HeadFace
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I somewhat agree. While it's alright to be a loner, you have to get out sometime. And I don't mean you have to hang out with someone or have a conversation with a stranger. Get out as in, for walks. Shopping. To the mall. I don't think it's healthy to completely isolate yourself in one place away from everyone.