[/QUOTE]BlueDays;87027
I also think the aspect of sexual chemistry/attraction can make communicating with the opposite gender more difficult, than talking with people from your same gender.[/QUOTE]
I agree 100%. In fact, that's actually something I forgot to mention in this thread. I think this is also the reason why I might feel less intimidated talking to people with the same gender than the opposite gender . It's funny because a lot of girls out there say that they have more guy friends than girls. They also claim that they're more comfortable talking to guys because they can be themselves around guys more than they can with girls.
Well, my problem is completely the opposite. I know I'm gonna be receiving so much hate for saying this, but I'm just not attracted to guys. Well, it's not just that... I think it has more to due with me not being able to relate with them. It makes me kind of wish I was born gay/asexual. Forcing myself to talk to guys is like trying to put a cat and a dog in the same room together. It's bound to fail.
Well, maybe for me anyways. I also hate feeling like I have to impress the opposite sex because of social norms. There have been people mentioning to me when a guy's been checking me out and I'm sorry... but I just don't want to have a relationship. I honestly feel no connection, no chemistry with any of these guys. I remember a while back in speech therapy, my speech therapist set me up with this guy who I didn't know too well (not as a date or anything.) She left us to talk alone for a little bit.
I can tell you that the conversation was EXTREMELY awkward. I'm not gonna go into detail, but it seemed as though me and this guy literally had no idea what to say to each other. I tried my best to initiate the conversation, but like always, there were the awkward pauses and the conversation immediately fell short. There was really just no connection between us. All throughout my life, this has been a constant thing.
I've noticed the same thing happening over and over again with almost every guy that I talk to, no matter what age he is. And I'm not even being flirtatious with these guys or anything. Sometimes I would encounter guys who were plain rude to me as well. I'm not saying I don't have any trouble making friends with girls either, but conversation wise, I'm a lot more comfortable and laid back with them than I am with guys.