People who undervalue peoples' reason for being introverted

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kotulakj2

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I thought about this with myself since I'm extremely introverted and quiet and that is people who trash people for being introverted and quiet completely undervalue and overlook just how lucky they have it. We all know with women in particular they can't stand to be bored and most don't want to deal with a guy who lives a boring life. Now I'm not saying I'm trying to come off to someone as living a boring life, but I just value and am content with having a home, good food, and a job. I just want to live a simple life that is rid of BS it's a really simple formula ME - BS = A life of peace lol. That's why when outgoing highly extroverted girls trash guys for being extremely introverted, they have no idea and overlook how God damn lucky they have it. There are many people in this world that would bend over backwards to just have the minimum which is food and shelter never mind worrying about if their life is boring or not. That would be the least of their worries especially when people are homeless and starving. I'm very lucky I have a family, food, shelter, and even a job. But just because I want to be extremely introverted shouldn't mean most extroverted girls should shut me out not when it was your mother and father in the first place that provided food and shelter for you and gave you the ability to get a job and have fun going out to socialize with people.

People should really remember this though, we take for granted how lucky we have it. Starving people would die to fall in love with anyone regardless if someone was introverted or extroverted provided they were nice. Let's face it people who are picky are spoiled in my eyes. It could be worse.

And look don't misunderstand me, there is nothing wrong with someone having fun and wanting to have a lot of friends and being highly extroverted. But it's those extroverts that trash introverts for not accepting them for who they want to be are the ones that need to reassess themselves. They are overlooking and critically undervaluing where introverts are coming from in their choices to be introverted.
 
WishingICould

WishingICould

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kotulakj2 said:
I thought about this with myself since I'm extremely introverted and quiet and that is people who trash people for being introverted and quiet completely undervalue and overlook just how lucky they have it. We all know with women in particular they can't stand to be bored and most don't want to deal with a guy who lives a boring life. Now I'm not saying I'm trying to come off to someone as living a boring life, but I just value and am content with having a home, good food, and a job. I just want to live a simple life that is rid of BS it's a really simple formula ME - BS = A life of peace lol. That's why when outgoing highly extroverted girls trash guys for being extremely introverted, they have no idea and overlook how God damn lucky they have it. There are many people in this world that would bend over backwards to just have the minimum which is food and shelter never mind worrying about if their life is boring or not. That would be the least of their worries especially when people are homeless and starving. I'm very lucky I have a family, food, shelter, and even a job. But just because I want to be extremely introverted shouldn't mean most extroverted girls should shut me out not when it was your mother and father in the first place that provided food and shelter for you and gave you the ability to get a job and have fun going out to socialize with people.

People should really remember this though, we take for granted how lucky we have it. Starving people would die to fall in love with anyone regardless if someone was introverted or extroverted provided they were nice. Let's face it people who are picky are spoiled in my eyes. It could be worse.

And look don't misunderstand me, there is nothing wrong with someone having fun and wanting to have a lot of friends and being highly extroverted. But it's those extroverts that trash introverts for not accepting them for who they want to be are the ones that need to reassess themselves. They are overlooking and critically undervaluing where introverts are coming from in their choices to be introverted.
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It sounds like you're judging people too. A teeny bit hypocritical, no? :idontknow:
 
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jaim38

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Starving people would die to fall in love with anyone regardless if someone was introverted or extroverted provided they were nice.
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I thought the only thing on starving people's mind is food, not love (unless love can bring them food and wealth).
 
Honda

Honda

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This is human nature...

People dont like somebody that looks like they undervalue themselves or seem to be insecure or in-confident about themselves.

I personally dont like that kind of people, even though I was one of them. You will find this happening anywhere whether it is among a 3rd world country, poor societies, rich societies, etc...

Some poor women will ditch their dumb broke spouse in favor of a rich wealthy guy who will buy her all the diamonds she ever wanted.. Some wealthy wives/husbands are not happy with their rich spouse and they end up cheating on them with a more confident/masculine guy, who probably works as a mechanic or some young 20 something college girl/stripper..

So start asking yourself what you want in life? What fulfills you, what is your passion and work on it..

Because the last thing on earth you want to do is build expectations based on what other people find suitable and fit as this will make people dislike you because you will give out the vibe that you are not happy with yourself and are trying to be impress through other means..

Nobody likes a taker, they want a giver.. So if you think that being a relationship means that your girlfriend/boyfriend should be your nanny, then he/she will not want to be with you whatsoever because you are a needy person that does not love yourself.

Sorry if this sounds a bit harsh but this is reality and you should learn to find ways to lead a successful, productive and satisfying life..

I have seen people who were complete losers and still are until today because they want to settle for 'security' and 'peace'.. Others were complete losers and now they are superstars that worked real hard to get where they want in life because they genuinely or 'passionately' want to do what they enjoy doing, making it worth the hardship.

Feel the fear and do it anyways but first, you have to learn to accept that you are not perfect but you got passions and strengths to invest in and start working on building yourself. You will need perhaps a year or two or five years but its worth the journey and make sure you enjoy life while you do so.
 
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otherside

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We're introverts living in a world that's been designed for extroverts, and a lot of us have to act somewhat extroverted. That's not saying that as an introvert I hate people. I'm on the more somewhat more extreme end of the introversion "spectrum", or whatever, and I can get on with people, I can go out with my friends. But invite me to a party and tell me I can meet lots of new people, and within in a few hours, I'll want to be at home in the blissful aloneness where I can recharge or I'll just get kinda cranky with people!

Personally, I don't think much of people that are overly extroverted. To me, they just seem somewhat immature, and all this outgoingness and silly screaming just annoys the heck out of me. I prefer to be at home alone, and I can't see how doing that isn't interesting. I have, however, come to the conclusion that I am a probably somewhat boring to people, and when anyone asks "what did you do over the weekend?" or "what's your hobbies?" I'm generally like "Errrrr...." wondering if telling them that typing up a novel on my laptop would give me a few odd looks.

But I like my creativity. And I wouldn't give it up so I could do that silly screaming thing a lot of extroverts my age do...
 
Honda

Honda

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The reason I used to feel introverted is because I found myself to be not good enough and I used to think that I was a loser and a coward.. My limiting beliefs were the reason I was introverted.. Otherwise I would have dated women, went to parties and got laid like there is no tomorrow..

Dont feel pressured and dont force yourself to act like you are extroverted.. Acting is acting.. You have to learn to fulfill yourself and you have to gradually push yourself to become more daring in social situations.. It will be embarrassing for a while but later on your will get stronger.

Also, doing a passionate habit or job will help you feel better and happier about yourself.

Also, a bonus is working out and healthy eating.. On time these habits release chemicals that make you feel good and positive..

Build and invest in yourself and its a matter of time until you start losing this introversion.. It will take time and effort but its worth it..

Also, research and learn how to accept and understand your limiting beliefs or introversion.
 
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mikebird

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coyote said:
that is why it is so important to distract them with shiny things

like kitchen appliances :thumbup:
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That's Crocodile Dundee's way to put off a mugger with a flick knife when he shows his 'proper knife' as a stainless steel appliance in the pocket

I really do have allsorts of weapons for recruiters on the telephone. They seem incapable of mustering over gentle bit of sarcasm

They have a shiny life of the royal reality

I have a dreamed, alternative outcome where pure luck plays part, to allow success over someone from the other side of the fence
 
MikeyC

MikeyC

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Sounds like something bad has happened in your past to make you think this way.

Not all girls are the same, as well.
 
SilentBird

SilentBird

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As for the difference between extroverts and introverts, I don't think most people are completely one or the other.
 
gustavofring

gustavofring

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Judging is really imprisoning oneself in a fictional world of labels and concepts. These people are never happy as long as no one will ever fill their ridiculous standards.
 
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AGR

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Those last few days I realized that I am introverted because I only have chances with not so good people,seriously I would love to have many friends and go out and do stuff,but with who?normal people?
They only want to do bad and stupid stuff,I would rather be alone,it's not only that I am afraid of being hurt or in danger,it's more that this is not attractive to me at all.
 
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daisydaydreamz

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I don't believe being an introvert is a ''choice''. It is an intrinsic part of someones personality type. (Same with being an extrovert.) Nor do I believe that extroverts are ''lucky''. Sure, they may get ahead career wise, appear popular and have a full social life, but what of it? I've observed people ''socialising''. It is all a game, you get the ''top dog extrovert'', the ''inner circle'' who fawn around, hanging on to his/her every word... Then you get outer circle who would desperately love to be in the inner circle. Of course the talk is all gossip, put-downs and meaningless drivel.

A real friend, if you are lucky enough to find one is usually an introvert, Someone who is willing to listen to your problems, offer advice, only when it is asked for, and keep whatever you have told them to themselves.

I am not saying all introverts/extroverts fit the stereotypes... There are some kind extroverts (providing you can get one on his/her own! ha ha) and, I am sure there are some not so nice introverts out there too.

Human nature, in all its extremes is what we are and what we have to deal with.
 
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