one comment which has affected your confidence

MrJones

MrJones

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I've heard tons of hurtful comments (some of them already in this thread by other users) but I think that the worst is still what I think about myself...
 
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Blabla..

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There are countless of negative comments that resurfaces every time i think of exposing myself in public , they keep telling me that i should just stay inside.
 
WeirdyMcGee

WeirdyMcGee

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"****, you're ugly! Why don't you just crawl into a hole and die? You'll never make anything of yourself - you'd be lucky to be a janitor for the rest of your life; ****ing bitch."

"Now my room will have to be cleaned all over again because you got your dirt everywhere!"

I did house cleaning for alot of the mansions outside of town during highschool.
I didn't know one of the houses I was cleaning was actually the house of a schoolmate- a really mean one- until she came home from shopping one day and yelled at her mom for letting me into their house with my 'dirty hands'.
I actually got 'fired' that day.
Thankfully (I guess) the company I worked for only meant they'd 'relieve me of my cleaning duties' for that specific house.
I still had a job.
They just had to pretend to fire me to make the clients happy.

Maids are VERY important. Their job is HARD WORK and you rich people would be living in a pigsty without them-- so appreciate the people who work for you because they deserve to be appreciated at the very least.

Back then, those comments made me really upset. Getting called dirty all the time, just because I lived in low income housing.
I still live in low income housing.
I'm sure there are still people who'd insist that I'm dirty because of it.
And that's another part of the reason why I don't leave my room.
 
Invisibleman

Invisibleman

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well a girl once told me that I should probably kill myself because no girl will ever want me. Its stayed with me for a while...
 
R3X

R3X

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Invisibleman said:
well a girl once told me that I should probably kill myself because no girl will ever want me. Its stayed with me for a while...
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Damn,that's harsh.I know how you feel.I almost got the exact same comment but it's not from a girl,it's from my classmates.
 
dazedgal

dazedgal

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"most girls are usually prettier than their mum's, what happened to you?"

they said this even knowing i have a damaged self esteem. Since then - that was 3 years ago - i have never believed in myself physically.
 
HeadFace

HeadFace

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My (Ex, now)friend, behind my back, called me ugly.
Because I said that sometimes her way of dealing with things is rash and immature

This other girl from a long time ago told me that noone likes me, and that not even my family wants me (Me and my family arent on the best of terms. I dont like them, tbh)
Because I told her I wasn't in love with her, when she kept harassing me.

When I asked my female friend about if I'm ugly and about how I looked, all she said was "uh... Well... idk.."
Or when I tried asking my other female friend and all she said was "well personally, I think true beauty comes from within"

Another girl I was interested in told me I'm too awkward, and that I look gross. And that I'm too clingy and lonely (Basically, I texted her twice asking if she was alright, because she was constantly ignoring me, and that made me too clingy)
She also told me I'm pathetic and my life is pathetic.
Because she didnt like me talking to "her" friends.

There's more quotes from my friends. But I cant exactly remember them right now. But they went along the lines of how awkward and weird I am, even though I try to be nice.

They've made me so self concious about anything. that lat girl I mentioned was also the last girl that I'll ever get too close to. Because I know only bull **** can come from any sort of relationship with me. After all of this, I've pretty much concluded that affection is a luxury that I'll probably never enjoy again.

I'll just
you know
get
a cat
or a dog
or something
 
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Kiwong

Kiwong

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It wasn't a word.

Someone came alongside me and shouted in my ear.

It did more than affect my confidence. I had a breakdown because of it.
 
Clark Kent

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I notice there are alot of really hurtful comments you have recieved and I can not believe how cruel people can be! I would on the other hand like to share a positive comment give to me by my 5-grade teacher: "Remember you are worth something to" First time anybody told me I had value:)
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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Today while working in groups in Accounting, the guy I was working with said to me today, "You know more than you think you know."

I kinda appreciated the comment. I second guess and doubt myself way too often. I need to listen to myself more.
 
planemo

planemo

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TryAgain said:
A couple of years ago, a colleague’s friend had lunch with me and some colleagues at university. She was cute and expressive, which made me go into retard mode. I was pretty anxious during the whole thing, but I wasn’t rude and talked back if talked to. Afterwards everyone who partook on the lunch exchanged contacts with her.

I came to know, when questioned by my colleague about exchanging contact with me she said something like: “Oh no, I’d ever want anything to do with the likes of him”.

My self-esteem went even lower than it was, if that’s even possible.

“…likes of him”? Do I look like such a crappy human being people aren’t even interested in having my friendship? Apparently it is so…

Oh yes, I know I shouldn’t let an event like this get to me, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t. I wish I could just brush it off, after all this time it still comes to mind sometimes...
I just have no clue on how to act when meeting new people.

Also, when I was still in highschool a group of girls passed by me and two colleagues. One of those girls:
*points at my colleague*: "You are cute".
*points at my other colleague*: "You too".
*points at me* *me thinking to myself: this can't be good*: "Ugh, you are ugly".

Why can't people just shut their trap if they have nothing good to say? That's what I do anyway...
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Are you sure it wasn't the other way round? Maybe she pointed to your colleague as "ugly" and not you. But yeah I just wish people would keep quiet when they have nothing good to say.

A comment which affected me quite a bit came from a teacher when I was 5 or 6 years old. I was absent for a few days as I was sick, and as I enter class I see his eyes fixed on me, and he has an angry expression. I put my bag down and make my way over to give him my letter from the doctor and he tells me quite roughly "forget it, i don't want your letter" and another teacher sitting next to him (who i suppose was sharing notes before class or something) says "you must of went to your wedding" in a very angry, sarcastic tone, as the reason for my absence. It hit me bad as i had always suspected this teacher for some reason didn't like me. That kinda confirmed it, which hurt me a lot as I couldn't find a reason why.
 
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Agent_Violet

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a girl told me I didn't understand anything bc i'm old.

*sigh* i am so NOT freaking old...I'm just practical and realistic.

*double sigh* confidence shot down by a kid. how pathetic.
 
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