Toomuchfear
Well-known member
Hi I feel really low and inferior at the moment. This emoticon sums it up :
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Here is why.
There was a girl I flirted with for a while, we always spoke when I saw her at work. I asked if she wanted to meet up. She said Yes, so we went to a lovely quite beach, splashed around a bit, had a cuddle. It was the perfect day, lots of flirting. I never implied it was a date, I didn't want to scare her by overly-romantic or to make her feel uncomfortable. Having SA, I found it tough sometimes to get into conversation, but after a while I felt very natural and confident around her.
We met up for a second time with a plan to go to the cinema, but we ended up going to another beach, then a walk through the forest, and finally a drink at a pub. I teased her a bit, and she enjoyed acting a bit silly. I felt like we were building some physical chemistry. At the end of the day, I try to kiss her but she backed away, saying she didn't know me well enough. Eventually after saying how I felt and talking for a bit, I tried again and she kissed me back.
This girl seemed to genuinely take an interest in me, she listened to me, laughed at my jokes. She even noticed a few of my quirks. I texted her that night about going for a picnic?, I got no reply. I texted her the next week, still no reply.
So I went to her work till (where I asked her out in the first place) and I went through a very awkward experience to find out why she's being selectively mute with me. I asked her why she had been so quiet and she said the immortal 'I just want to be friends instead.' My heart sank a little, I asked how come she feels this way. She said that the dates weren't 'proper' dates, they didn't feel like dates. That she expected to be spoken to and treated in a certain way, taken to certain places and for the guy to be keen. I defended myself a little saying I was keen. I felt a bit destroyed and confused, so I said 'I don't know what you want' and just left.
I just feel really bad atm. I had no idea she had such expectations, she never mentioned before. I never implied it was a date in the first place as I didn't want there to be lots of pressure on us. I love romance, but I'd rather get to know someone first, have some fun and go from there. I know it was only 2 dates we went on, but it is so rare for me to see any girl, and then to get rejected for such a weird reason, really really hurts.
:Here is why.
There was a girl I flirted with for a while, we always spoke when I saw her at work. I asked if she wanted to meet up. She said Yes, so we went to a lovely quite beach, splashed around a bit, had a cuddle. It was the perfect day, lots of flirting. I never implied it was a date, I didn't want to scare her by overly-romantic or to make her feel uncomfortable. Having SA, I found it tough sometimes to get into conversation, but after a while I felt very natural and confident around her.
We met up for a second time with a plan to go to the cinema, but we ended up going to another beach, then a walk through the forest, and finally a drink at a pub. I teased her a bit, and she enjoyed acting a bit silly. I felt like we were building some physical chemistry. At the end of the day, I try to kiss her but she backed away, saying she didn't know me well enough. Eventually after saying how I felt and talking for a bit, I tried again and she kissed me back.
This girl seemed to genuinely take an interest in me, she listened to me, laughed at my jokes. She even noticed a few of my quirks. I texted her that night about going for a picnic?, I got no reply. I texted her the next week, still no reply.
So I went to her work till (where I asked her out in the first place) and I went through a very awkward experience to find out why she's being selectively mute with me. I asked her why she had been so quiet and she said the immortal 'I just want to be friends instead.' My heart sank a little, I asked how come she feels this way. She said that the dates weren't 'proper' dates, they didn't feel like dates. That she expected to be spoken to and treated in a certain way, taken to certain places and for the guy to be keen. I defended myself a little saying I was keen. I felt a bit destroyed and confused, so I said 'I don't know what you want' and just left.
I just feel really bad atm. I had no idea she had such expectations, she never mentioned before. I never implied it was a date in the first place as I didn't want there to be lots of pressure on us. I love romance, but I'd rather get to know someone first, have some fun and go from there. I know it was only 2 dates we went on, but it is so rare for me to see any girl, and then to get rejected for such a weird reason, really really hurts.
