Being nice to people is a waste of time.

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There's always someone who tests the bounds of your patience, just this morning another argument broke out. It's undeniable that some people will always be bad people, but that does not support the view that being likewise a bad person is the solution. It's not only flawed but stupid.
 
marielb

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i would keep trying while you still have some confidence to actually try and talk to people.i have sa and have been 'housebound' since i was 16,i am now 20,i have had no friends from the age of 13.i could never even imagine myself trying to talk to people.so keep trying youll find some good friends along the way,so dont give up hope.
 
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Bittersweet

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Certain people are like animals. They have to sniff you out first. You have to wait until they approach you. Some never will.

Saying hi and being nice to these people is seen by them as an intrusion of their space. I don't understand it, but I've realized they only approach you if you've gotten the seal of approval from one of their less cliquish friends. Otherwise, it's a lost cause.

Genuinely friendly people don't require or expect a charisma gimmick.
 
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popolala

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I have thought about that, but its better to be nice than to be rude and mean..
your be happier with yourself if you tried to be friendly rather than be the rude one
because its not your problem, they the rude one.
 
LadyWench

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Where I live, nearly everyone is rude or simply indifferent. I rarely come across friendly people in my area. It's sad. I've come to hate people because of this.
 
paye

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so true. you have to choose right person to be nice ohterwise you see how a human being, a precious creature goes whore.
 
BlackPuma

BlackPuma

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paye said:
sorry for bad english.

i mean every human-being is so precious. but maybe they don't deserve bein' precious. it's awful to see a human-being act like a whore.
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I wouldn't really care if they -really were- whores, as long as they were still caring and nice. People are seldom a reflection of their profession. The only professions I'm against are the ones that revolve around hurting and killing others for no other reason then money.
 
paye

paye

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blackpuma said:
I wouldn't really care if they -really were- whores, as long as they were still caring and nice. People are seldom a reflection of their profession. The only professions I'm against are the ones that revolve around hurting and killing others for no other reason then money.
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in fact that post were not about actually whores.

in my city, we have a lot of greek whores, they are really enjoyable just like you said: caring and nice.

i don't have a problem with them.

so thanks for correcting me,

i better say: it's awful to see a human-being act like a dick head ;)
 
BlackPuma

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paye said:
in fact that post were not about actually whores.

in my city, we have a lot of greek whores, they are really enjoyable just like you said: caring and nice.

i don't have a problem with them.

so thanks for correcting me,

i better say: it's awful to see a human-being act like a dick head ;)
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Yes, with that I do agree. ;3
 
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neotrinity

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Indeed, most people ARE a waste of time and space. They either live in a state of forced bubbliness and false positivity, or they are just plain nasty through and through. But for goodness sake don't give up trying to make meaningful and mutually beneficial relationships with others because if you do these shallow *******s will have succeeded in beating you down! This is what I have to tell myself everyday JUST to keep going!
 
Odo

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I don't know if people are a waste of time, but I definitely think that being nice is only setting yourself up to either be taken advantage of or ignored.

I often wish that I had been part of my parents generation instead of this one, because it seems like people have gotten a lot worse... it doesn't really matter if you're a good person, because just being good is boring... you also have to be edgy and usually vulgar as well. Manners and etiquette have definitely declined, and unless you're fantastically good-looking, your social value depends mostly on how loud or in-your-face you are... or even if you're willing to delight in cruelty to others.

If you go to countries that are more conservative, you will see what I mean. Plenty of places in the world still value things like modesty, intelligence and basic decency, but the west is the exact opposite.
 
LA-girl

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It will ironically often backfire on you, yes. At least that has been my experience. But try not to stoop to their level, you know you're doing the right thing, even if people will use it against you. And sadly, these people will often try to justify their ugly behaviour for as long as they have a conscience. When they run out, they' won't care and they won't be able to see it.
 
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neotrinity

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Good points, and I was making a crude generalisation above, but it often FEELS like it. I mean, in my case I know I should be trying considerably harder to meet the 'right' kind of people but I'm such a lazy procrastinator I tend to do very little about it. It's a little embarassing to say 'but I'm determined to break out of it soon' but I will because I am!
But I can't be crude or vulgar or 'edgy' because I simply don't believe in it at all. I live in London and here, if you want social progress you've got to really get out there and be persistent otherwise it simply ain't going to happen. So recently I've pushed myself a bit harder in striking up random conversations with strangers etc. but haven't joined any clubs or societies where I can meet people with similar interests. Although clubs and bars tend to feel like anasthema due to the number of extremely loud and obnoxious idiots in those places. Shopping centres (malls?) are obviously not great places either...
 
hidwell

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Being nice to someone is only a waste of time if you expect to get something out of it. If you are doing it with that express purpose then I believe many people will pick up on your motives and they will judge you negatively for it.
 
Flanscho

Flanscho

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The problem is not that it's a waste of time to be nice to people. The problem is that you choose the wrong people to spend your time with.
 
Kiwong

Kiwong

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Being nasty to people will come back to bite you.

Especially in a country town.
 
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