one comment which has affected your confidence

avo!dant

avo!dant

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I have flushing issues. My face just randomly gets red and stays that way for long periods of time. At first I thought it was related to SA and while I think SA does cause it, it's also clearly caused by something else. As I can be sitting int he comfort of my own home watching TV and bam get it out of nowhere. No anxiety either. Anyway it's not something I can control or something that I can get rid of. I've been trying for years.

Anyway two comments one came from a girl that said a woman will never find me attractive because I have rosey cheeks or whatever. That's when I really got self concious about it and I could feel it when my cheeks were flushing etc. Before I never noticed it and it never really bothered me. The other was some dude that asked me why my face is always red. Clearly I don't know and if I did then I'd get rid of it lol.

Anyway those two are what really set me off and imo have led to my SA.
 
Arthur_Dent

Arthur_Dent

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My father once told me that it was a total dissapointment the way I talked over the phone. Now is not like is a phobia but certainly I don't look forward to answer the phone.
 
thomas90

thomas90

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"Your legs are soo skinny"
"Hes like skin and bones"

Pretty much based on my slimness, I decided 2 years ago to begin weightlifting at the gym to feel more secure in myself & ive put on a fair bit of muscle but ive learned to except myself the way i am now, so i dont work out as hard or as regular as before
 
oomindioo

oomindioo

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"You're nothing but a disappointment." - Thank you Daddy

"If I don't know you after a year then I don't want to." - Thank you ex-boyfriend
 
KnuffleBunny

KnuffleBunny

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"If she (me) can do it, you can do it!" Tbh this may be a sort of negative, but as a kid, I took great pride in that sentence. It just meant I accomplished something and I used to think of it when doing new things.
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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luckycharms said:
Once when I was going through a particularly bad time dealing with depression, I decided to try a counselor again. She asked me if I was involved in any clubs or if I had any close friends. I told her no. She says to me, "Well, it sounds to me like you need to get a life."

And I paid her to tell me that.
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^ What kind of counselor even says that? That's horrible :(
 
Phoenixx

Phoenixx

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luckycharms said:
Yeah, I've never had luck with counselors. When I got home I called and left her a message telling her that what she said was highly inappropriate. Never heard back from her.
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^ Yeah, that's probably for the best to not see her. I hope that doesn't change your view on counselors though. Because they are helpful!
 
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SaratheAnxious

Banned
On my first day at a new school (beginning of year 5) I was asking a girl questions about the school (she had been at the school for a year and I was asking how well did she settle in). The girl was extremely inpatient (and a b**ch anyway I figured through the course of the year) and as we were walking to the lunch area she said "Could you like, go away? I'm gonna go sit with my friends."

Thinking about it I'm actually surprised I didn't cry as I'm very sensitive. I just thought "What the hell" and wondered what I'd done wrong. This was in 2001. Last year when I was thinking about things that had happened that made if so difficult for me to approach people and ask questions I remembered this and it really hurt just thinking about it. It affected me more than I realised at the time.
 
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SaratheAnxious

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In year 9 as part of a program through the school, I went camping with a bunch of other kids in my grade. It was about 10pm and I was in my tent trying to sleep and a bunch of kids were outside chatting. They were seemingly unaware of the fact that when camping in a field talking at almost any distance sounds like it's right next to your ear. I could hear them clearly.

Amongst a few other things they said about me (talking behind my back, or so they thought) was the following:

Kid 1: Dave is a sex addict he'll have sex with anyone. Like seriously anyone! Even..."
Kid 2: Sara!

Everybody laughs

The next day I refused to continue the trek with them because I didn't want to be around them.

I know it's in the past but one day I really want to tell them I heard them, for my own sake. For my own closure.
 
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carecrab

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My exgirlfriend and i were talking about things about each other's appearances that we find ugly (don't remember how we got to that subject lol) and i was pretty heavily in love so i didn't know what to say. She said that i look pretty cute from far away, but that from up close i was pretty ugly. It hurts most from the people you love..
 
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Nyoron

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after a group discussion in english, i'd not said a word and the teacher called me out specifically, telling me i need to speak else i'll fail, i stalled for about a minute stuttering and ended up saying something stupid while going completely red from embarassment and to the verge of crying because of how pathetic i felt. a popular guy from the class looks at me and says, "how the hell are you going to get anywhere in life when you're like that, loser.". boom, i shatter; class laughs.
 
R3X

R3X

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when i mispelled cat wrong and everyone in my class including the teacher laughed at me and one of the students was my 1st crush and it all happened when i was 7-8yrs old.......so i guess i really didn't one my crush to laugh AT me but she did and it really "hurt"/"scarred" me deep inside....i don't know why though when i think about it now...*thinks deeply*
 
sucettes

sucettes

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* Whenever someone comments on my blushing. I know that it's a normal thing and sometimes the person mean no harm. But back in school people used to comment on it all the time. It felt like they wanted me to blush just so that they could make fun of it.

* Once when a 'friend' told me I had no personality, not my own point of view on things, etc. I started talking to this girl once and we were quite similar, we liked a lot of the same stuff. I thought everything was going well, then she started slagging me off saying that I was just copying her... ????

* "You're fat" My grandfather told me that when I was about 10.
 
Lea

Lea

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There were too many. Luckily, my confidence is now unnafectable because I don´t have any left :D.
 
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