Feeling of extreme sadness when I see a beautiful girl.

Newtype

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Whenever I see a beautiful girl, I don't know why but I get extremely sad, to a point where I get depressed. My skool is filled with beautiful girls, so every day it's the same. I go to skool in a good/neutral mood and I leave depressed and sad. Is anyone else like that? Guys or girls.
 

GloomySunday

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I guess the sadness comes because you feel they will never go out with you? That they're too good for you? It's an awful feeling. I know it well! Unfortunately, by being depressed and giving out those signals, that situation could continue and remain a reality. It's an awful spot to be in. Catch 22. So, do you pretend to be happy? I guess that doesn't work either. Just remember, everyone has their time. Their moment. For some, it's whilst they're at school (the popular kids). For others, it comes later in life. Just stay cool, hang in there and use your time wisely. Learn to play an instrument. Join a band. Write songs. Get fit. Do some voluntary work. Whatever. This time will pass. Good things can follow. If you believe it will, then it will. Just be patient.
 

bigcat1967

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Just hang in there - there is someone out there for you.

I used to think the same - but I am not married - going on 16 years. :)
 

Kiwong

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I think of all the wrong decisions I made when I was younger about the women I was attracted too. I was attracted to beauty before I found out what sort of people they were inside as well. I think there were lots of girls who were pretty, kind and friendly, but I barely noticed them. Looking back i think I missed out.
 

silent k

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Whenever I see a beautiful girl, I don't know why but I get extremely sad, to a point where I get depressed. My skool is filled with beautiful girls, so every day it's the same. I go to skool in a good/neutral mood and I leave depressed and sad. Is anyone else like that? Guys or girls.

iv'e noticed that anything that makes me feel good can make me feel bad depending on how i think about it. sometimes just an increase in my feeling of happiness can lead to a fear of loss, or losing that good feeling. thats a pritty miserable way to be
 
I think of all the wrong decisions I made when I was younger about the women I was attracted too. I was attracted to beauty before I found out what sort of people they were inside as well. I think there were lots of girls who were pretty, kind and friendly, but I barely noticed them. Looking back i think I missed out.

I was and still am turned away from attraction. One reason and one reason only, I am after the mind. Who the potential person is.

Looking back I may may have missed out as well. ... Or not. I think I'll be fine.
 

Deus_Ex_Lemur

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I was and still am turned away from attraction. One reason and one reason only, I am after the mind. Who the potential person is.

Looking back I may may have missed out as well. ... Or not. I think I'll be fine.

So the mind attracts you... attraction isnt purely physical. Both are interdependent with eachother. Love the mind, and internal, and the physical attraction blossoms into something far stronger than anything purely physical; inside and out are one.

There's an initial obviously physical thing, on a primal level - but that passes usually it motivates me lol - I only feel more "depressed" when I get to know the mind of the person; the personality, thee spirit and... and when I realize nothing can happen, or I don make things happen or whatever, thats when Id get blue. EVEN on a small level.
 

Phoenixx

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Whenever I see a beautiful girl, I don't know why but I get extremely sad, to a point where I get depressed. My skool is filled with beautiful girls, so every day it's the same. I go to skool in a good/neutral mood and I leave depressed and sad. Is anyone else like that? Guys or girls.
^ I'm like this too. Usually when I see a good looking guy, I start to get depressed. Basically because, like Gloomy said, I figure they're too good for me and never in a million years would they date me.
 
So the mind attracts you... attraction isnt purely physical. Both are interdependent with eachother. Love the mind, and internal, and the physical attraction blossoms into something far stronger than anything purely physical; inside and out are one.

There's an initial obviously physical thing, on a primal level - but that passes usually it motivates me lol - I only feel more "depressed" when I get to know the mind of the person; the personality, thee spirit and... and when I realize nothing can happen, or I don make things happen or whatever, thats when Id get blue. EVEN on a small level.

:eek: did I say that? Now y'all know too much. Pardon me while go insane.

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Newtype

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Yeah, I think it's because I feel like I'm not even worth their attention. Like, I wanna be with them, but I have nothing to offer them. However, I'm not talking about how I look, I'm talking more about my "social level". Therefore, the joy of seeing a beautiful girl turns quickly into an awakening of how miserable I am.
 
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Ryguy2598

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I've felt this too many times....just going about life, you see MANY beautiful and attractive women. And then when you don't have the confidence to go up and approach them you start to get depressed about it.....but the key is to not be needy and desperate. Don't depend on an outcome....if you want to approach her, do it. But don't beat yourself up for it if you don't.....it's not that important.....Tons of opportunities will pass by. It's just about starting to seize more of these opportunities because you chose to.
 
Remember, love is about what's on the inside, not the outside. Obviously we get physically attracted to others. It's natural. I'm sure you're just feeling insecure about yourself. That's what pier pressure does. Don't be afraid to be yourself at all times.
 

GloomySunday

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the key is to not be needy and desperate. Don't depend on an outcome....

Spot on! In any social situation, we're almost programmed to think that if we go and talk to someone then they should like us immediately, give us their number and our loneliness will end. Doesn't work like that! Just go and shoot the breeze. Be light. Just a quick chat and be on your way. It's all about building a rapport with someone. If anything develops out of this, it will happen naturally and over time.
 

mmmm

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I guess the sadness comes because you feel they will never go out with you? That they're too good for you? It's an awful feeling. I know it well! Unfortunately, by being depressed and giving out those signals, that situation could continue and remain a reality. It's an awful spot to be in. Catch 22. So, do you pretend to be happy? I guess that doesn't work either. Just remember, everyone has their time. Their moment. For some, it's whilst they're at school (the popular kids). For others, it comes later in life. Just stay cool, hang in there and use your time wisely. Learn to play an instrument. Join a band. Write songs. Get fit. Do some voluntary work. Whatever. This time will pass. Good things can follow. If you believe it will, then it will. Just be patient.

Wow. If James Dean is having chick trouble I'd say everyone else is well and truly screwed.
 
In my university I see beautiful girls all the time, but in my career there are three women between 35 men as much. The most of the times I just get some temporary depression and then I keep thinking about my own bussines. But there are two situations that male me feel really bad: the friday afternoons, where almost everybody seems to have plans for the night. Is not that I'm wishing to go to drink and dance, as that isn't much fun for me, but certainly is depressing to go home alone while everyone else seems to be having fun.

The other situation that crushes my soul is when I see this particular girl. I really like her and for some carzy reason I feel that she has a perfect personaluty for me. I'm aware of hoew irrational is this but everytume I see her I think about everything I'm missing. And if you're thinking in say to me "why you just dont' talk to her?" I'll say I wish I can punch you in the head. If I could just talk to her I wouldn't be here.
 
In my university I see beautiful girls all the time, but in my career there are three women between 35 men as much. The most of the times I just get some temporary depression and then I keep thinking about my own bussines. But there are two situations that male me feel really bad: the friday afternoons, where almost everybody seems to have plans for the night. Is not that I'm wishing to go to drink and dance, as that isn't much fun for me, but certainly is depressing to go home alone while everyone else seems to be having fun.

The other situation that crushes my soul is when I see this particular girl. I really like her and for some carzy reason I feel that she has a perfect personaluty for me. I'm aware of hoew irrational is this but everytume I see her I think about everything I'm missing. And if you're thinking in say to me "why you just dont' talk to her?" I'll say I wish I can punch you in the head. If I could just talk to her I wouldn't be here.

So, why... don't... you just go talk to her?

haha, oh.

Just talk to her. Is it worth a potential life time of feeling regret? Opposed to asking/talking and potentially being rejected - so you can move on.

Perhaps I should take my own advice sometimes.

Excuse me while I run through a wall and then go stare at a goat.
 
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