Ugliness

[JamesSmith]

I'd say you have exceptionally limited standards of attractiveness

Yeah, I do have higher standards than most guys. It's not like ridiculous standards, but they are high.

 

[Social_Monstrosity]

I was walking through the shopping mall today and I thought that most people are average to look at. No one extremely beautiful, no one extremely ugly, just ordinary everyday people.

Couldn't disagree more...I feel like every person I walk by when I go to the mall is more attractive than me unless they're just a complete fat slob.

 

[AsTimeBurns]

Couldn't disagree more...I feel like every person I walk by when I go to the mall is more attractive than me unless they're just a complete fat slob.

Should move to the city i'm in it's full of ugly people.

 

[coyote]

we have nothing but beautiful people here where i live

Miss Wisconsin was sitting next to me at the bar last night - seriously

her girlfriend who works at the video store is even hotter

most of the people who live here are also rich

it costs a lot to be this beautiful

 

[coyote]

we stop the ugly people at the bridge

unfortunately, during the summer some get around that by sailing up here on their yachts

but we let them in, because they're rich

 

[DespairSoul]

we have nothing but beautiful people here where i live

Miss Wisconsin was sitting next to me at the bar last night - seriously

her girlfriend who works at the video store is even hotter

most of the people who live here are also rich

it costs a lot to be this beautiful

Hey coyote

U can explain that closer? U try say beauty cost money:}

 

[coyote]

Hey coyote

U can explain that closer? U try say beauty cost money:}

no - I was being sarcastic, sorry

really I believe that there is no such thing as beauty or ugliness

"beautiful" or "ugly" are just peoples' opinions

things simply exist

how we choose to describe them is not the same thing as what they are

so if something (or someone) could conceivably be described as either beautiful or ugly - why not choose beautiful?

why not choose to think that everything and everyone is beautiful?

why does someone choose to describe something as ugly when they don't have to?

particularly when it comes to describing themselves?

 

[coyote]

Looks are not only relative (i.e.; everyone has different tastes), but a given individual's perception of other people's attractiveness is fluid. Ever been interested in (or been with) someone who wasn't physically your type, but after getting to know them, they somehow got waaaaaaay more attractive? They say familiarity breeds contempt, but familiarity can also breed attraction.

oh yeah - women get way more attractive the more you sleep with them

 

[AGR]

Not ugliness because I think I am on the average line,sometimes over sometimes under,but yes there are some things about my looks that contributed to this,I think I have bdd or it really is bdd disorder when the thought is real?
I think humans get dependent on things by nature,good looking people almost always attract more people of the opposite sex so they tend to be promiscuous,I think a lot of character and maturity is needed to overcome this,most people lack this,I tend to think the more someone is guided by their animals instincts the more promiscuous they are.

 

[AGR]

That's definitely not true. haha. At least not for guys. It might be a serious double standard though since I think women tend to be waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more flexible and forgiving in terms of looks than dudes are.

Well I find to be very true,not saying other people cant attract a lot of people either,but good looking people do really attract a lot almost all the times.

 

[AGR]

That's definitely not true. haha. At least not for guys. It might be a serious double standard though since I think women tend to be waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more flexible and forgiving in terms of looks than dudes are.

I think the double standard is that people think that women behave better than men in some situations,from what I have seen its simply not true, they are the same way.

 

[PurpleOne]

This whole thread is a lie.

 

[Surrogate]

Self appearance definitely plays a role in your self esteem and the way you feel about yourself, but I wouldn't directly say that it's the single reason affecting SA.

 

[DespairSoul]

no - I was being sarcastic, sorry

really I believe that there is no such thing as beauty or ugliness

"beautiful" or "ugly" are just peoples' opinions

things simply exist

how we choose to describe them is not the same thing as what they are

so if something (or someone) could conceivably be described as either beautiful or ugly - why not choose beautiful?

why not choose to think that everything and everyone is beautiful?

why does someone choose to describe something as ugly when they don't have to?

particularly when it comes to describing themselves?

Coyote,

Thank u for feedback, well i like your answer a lot because it is so true what u say u are wise man, we would be such a harmful earth and will go well a long with anyone with out describing. Well i dream always about it how would amazing live on a such place like that and don't worry anymore about looks.
Actually people go around and search for it believe me they need this for live describing and giving opinions about it. I never will understand this too if u don't know someone well and u dare describing as "ugly" or "beautiful". Isn't just look what describe us but is more worth it for people i see this anywhere.

 

[Kiwong]

Couldn't disagree more...I feel like every person I walk by when I go to the mall is more attractive than me unless they're just a complete fat slob.

Sorry, it's my truth, I was there, I saw all these people with my own eyes.

The only reason you feel that is because you have very low self esteem. You feel like you are less attractive because that assessment lives in your head, it isn't anyone else's truth.

A complete fat slob? Isn't that being judgemental of overweight people?

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

Well I find to be very true,not saying other people cant attract a lot of people either,but good looking people do really attract a lot almost all the times.

Well good looking people might attract a lot of people, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they are attracted to those people. Maybe they're very picky. Maybe they're just not promiscuous by nature.

 

[AGR]

Well good looking people might attract a lot of people, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they are attracted to those people. Maybe they're very picky. Maybe they're just not promiscuous by nature.

yes it takes a lot of maturity and character to not be,as said before,but most good looking people I met were promiscuous so its something to watch out for.

 

[Falkor]

i cannot stop looking in the mirror, it's like an obsession, i hate my looks, i feel sick of it. I'm aware of it all the time, and i keep on having thoughts ''people would think im an ugly troll'' I really feel extremely sick of it, and i have to go to school in a few min, and i'm tensed of the people looking at me
im super afraid .. and im having bad stomach ache because of nerves..


and my mom just made a comment like ''you didn't clean your room, if you do this at school too, you'll mess it up'' this affected me so much that i bursted in tears and i feel hated, stupid and awful and like i could die. i said to her i won't mess it up at school, but she's still mad and its hard to feel confident when someone tells me this

 

[StandingJelly]

i cannot stop looking in the mirror, it's like an obsession, i hate my looks, i feel sick of it. I'm aware of it all the time, and i keep on having thoughts ''people would think im an ugly troll'' I really feel extremely sick of it, and i have to go to school in a few min, and i'm tensed of the people looking at me
im super afraid .. and im having bad stomach ache because of nerves..


and my mom just made a comment like ''you didn't clean your room, if you do this at school too, you'll mess it up'' this affected me so much that i bursted in tears and i feel hated, stupid and awful and like i could die. i said to her i won't mess it up at school, but she's still mad and its hard to feel confident when someone tells me this

We should stalk you, and everytime you post something negative like that, we're going to spam "you're beautiful" after it, because you're beautiful!

 

[hippiechild]

when 'unattractive' people, having assimilated enough of our distorted standards of beauty, develop BDD we call it something along the lines of 'progress'