What are the good things about being single?
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AsTimeBurns
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Uninterrupted, uninhibited, never-ending masturbation?
The LostOne
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This is from a guys perspective but with a bit of editing could be just the same for the gals:
You can do what you want when you want, like having a snooze in front of the TV without being hassled to wash up or do other household jobs
You have no obligations to anyone
You can Watch the football in peace
You dont have to meet her annoying friends
You dont have to watch Xfactor or crappy soap operas
You have more money in your pocket
Seriously I know people who are in relationships who are completly miserable and often tell me how lucky I am to be single.
In reality both have there plus and minus points I guess the grass is really greener on the other side.
You can do what you want when you want, like having a snooze in front of the TV without being hassled to wash up or do other household jobs
You have no obligations to anyone
You can Watch the football in peace
You dont have to meet her annoying friends
You dont have to watch Xfactor or crappy soap operas
You have more money in your pocket
Seriously I know people who are in relationships who are completly miserable and often tell me how lucky I am to be single.
In reality both have there plus and minus points I guess the grass is really greener on the other side.
The LostOne
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LazyHermitCrab
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- When you're in a relationship, you can feel paranoid you will be cheated on. When you're single it's less to worry about.
-You have more time for your real friends and if you don't have any you can use this time to improve yourself or both.
- It saves money, unless you spend a lot anyway. But you don't have to worry about being taken advantage of.
-You won't suffer heartbreak later. And think about all the time you wasted on someone who will won’t talk to you again, if not barely.
-If you break up with someone this person could try to get revenge on you, but if you're single then that person won't exist to do this.
-When you're single you can observe what you really want in a future relationship.
-You won't have to test for stds.
- If you take a long time to get ready to see someone, then you won't have to waste youre time doing makeup, hair gel and so on.
-You don't have to remember anniversaries, meeting up for a scheduled amount of dates.
-You have more time for your real friends and if you don't have any you can use this time to improve yourself or both.
- It saves money, unless you spend a lot anyway. But you don't have to worry about being taken advantage of.
-You won't suffer heartbreak later. And think about all the time you wasted on someone who will won’t talk to you again, if not barely.
-If you break up with someone this person could try to get revenge on you, but if you're single then that person won't exist to do this.
-When you're single you can observe what you really want in a future relationship.
-You won't have to test for stds.
- If you take a long time to get ready to see someone, then you won't have to waste youre time doing makeup, hair gel and so on.
-You don't have to remember anniversaries, meeting up for a scheduled amount of dates.
- You don't have to worry about what he's thinking/doing or what he said or did, or what you said or did, or whether you hurt him or not, or whether he did (on purpose or accidentally) lol even in a relationship, if you're a worrying kind you can worry about a lot of stuff haha.. especially in the beginning or if the two of you are not so compatible or have differing views/values/priorities etc.
- You don't have to worry about birth control and its side effects - or lack of it and possible side-effects!!
- You don't have to worry about baby care or bringing up a healthy baby or raising them right.. (and all things that come with this: new parents can tell you a lot: sleepless nights, baby illness or poor health, all things that come with it.. opinions of your parents and neighbours and random people in the street about baby care etc - just read some blogs of pregnant women or young mothers, and you'll see what I'm talking about!!)
- no addiction to text messages or such! (it's a true phenomenon that has been studied!)
- You don't have to worry whether he and you are a good couple or if you should find someone better or more compatible with you (or your family). Some parents are not so happy with a girl's choices (especially dads can sometimes be difficult: so you are having peace from that as well..)
- You can party and meet new people and talk to them without worrying what the other will think or say... (that's something non-single others can be jealous of! the fabulous single lifestyle haha) It will be especially important/relevant if you go to college/university.. Girls with steady boyfriends back home may just stay in their rooms and study or watch TV while everyone else goes partying..
- Basically, a lot less to worry about lol...
- You don't have to 'be beautiful' and can wear old pyjamas or tracksuits and can have messy hair and watch 'chick flicks'
- You don't have to pretend to be cool and impress (or agree with) his friends hehe (some girls I know also felt kinda jealous of his friends/hobbies, and his going out without them, one even didn't like him to talk to people she didn't like! They didn't last together that long.. Some felt abandoned or like their men didn't give'em enough attention or weren't caring enough.. Maybe it would be good to talk to people in not-so-happy relationships or read their blogs? Though not too many, cause you don't want to get a bad opinion of all men and relationships - some are still good!!)
- you don't have to watch football (though some men don't watch it either, and you can always meet your friends at that time too.. and some girls watch it too..)
How to accept it: watch Bridget Jones? A lot? Or Pride&Prejudice, the series? Look at those in unhappy relationships and be glad you're not one of them, look at those in good long-lasting relationships, and learn from them? (some people started dating late and married late, and are still going strong.. while others who started dating young broke up/got divorced/had bad experience etc)
Focus on other things/hobbies/interests...? Meet new people, via interesting new things..
- You don't have to worry about birth control and its side effects - or lack of it and possible side-effects!!
- You don't have to worry about baby care or bringing up a healthy baby or raising them right.. (and all things that come with this: new parents can tell you a lot: sleepless nights, baby illness or poor health, all things that come with it.. opinions of your parents and neighbours and random people in the street about baby care etc - just read some blogs of pregnant women or young mothers, and you'll see what I'm talking about!!)
- no addiction to text messages or such! (it's a true phenomenon that has been studied!
) - You don't have to worry whether he and you are a good couple or if you should find someone better or more compatible with you (or your family). Some parents are not so happy with a girl's choices (especially dads can sometimes be difficult: so you are having peace from that as well..)
- You can party and meet new people and talk to them without worrying what the other will think or say... (that's something non-single others can be jealous of! the fabulous single lifestyle haha) It will be especially important/relevant if you go to college/university.. Girls with steady boyfriends back home may just stay in their rooms and study or watch TV while everyone else goes partying..
- Basically, a lot less to worry about lol...
- You don't have to 'be beautiful' and can wear old pyjamas or tracksuits and can have messy hair and watch 'chick flicks'
- You don't have to pretend to be cool and impress (or agree with) his friends hehe (some girls I know also felt kinda jealous of his friends/hobbies, and his going out without them, one even didn't like him to talk to people she didn't like!
They didn't last together that long.. Some felt abandoned or like their men didn't give'em enough attention or weren't caring enough.. Maybe it would be good to talk to people in not-so-happy relationships or read their blogs? Though not too many, cause you don't want to get a bad opinion of all men and relationships - some are still good!!)- you don't have to watch football
(though some men don't watch it either, and you can always meet your friends at that time too.. and some girls watch it too..)How to accept it: watch Bridget Jones? A lot? Or Pride&Prejudice, the series? Look at those in unhappy relationships and be glad you're not one of them, look at those in good long-lasting relationships, and learn from them? (some people started dating late and married late, and are still going strong.. while others who started dating young broke up/got divorced/had bad experience etc)
Focus on other things/hobbies/interests...? Meet new people, via interesting new things..
Kiwong
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Independence
Solitude
Peace. I go home and I can shut the world out and relax
Watch what TV programs when I want
Undisturbed sleep
I really like the to be acle to plan my trips away with freedom
No stress of meeeting in laws.
I wrote on my blog
I like my independence. I can go on my running adventures whenever I want to. I’m free to train when I like, I have the money to buy the things I want. My weekends are mine to do with as I please. I go to sleep when I want, wake up when I want, watch the TV programs I feel like watching. This is a great time in my life.
At times I have thought of living in nature without anyone around, except for a menagerie of pets, maybe a Sulphur Crested Cockatoo, a bigger cage for Lenny the Cockatiel. Of course there’d be a wilderness next door that I could explore and photograph. That would be my dream.
Right now it’s hard to feel lonely with all the running and racing in my life. I like this and all the positive interactions with the a positive group of runners. Next weekend I will be mingling amongst 70000 runners all with a positive attitude towards life.
How good is that that? What freedom? How lucky am I?
Solitude
Peace. I go home and I can shut the world out and relax
Watch what TV programs when I want
Undisturbed sleep
I really like the to be acle to plan my trips away with freedom
No stress of meeeting in laws.
I wrote on my blog
I like my independence. I can go on my running adventures whenever I want to. I’m free to train when I like, I have the money to buy the things I want. My weekends are mine to do with as I please. I go to sleep when I want, wake up when I want, watch the TV programs I feel like watching. This is a great time in my life.
At times I have thought of living in nature without anyone around, except for a menagerie of pets, maybe a Sulphur Crested Cockatoo, a bigger cage for Lenny the Cockatiel. Of course there’d be a wilderness next door that I could explore and photograph. That would be my dream.
Right now it’s hard to feel lonely with all the running and racing in my life. I like this and all the positive interactions with the a positive group of runners. Next weekend I will be mingling amongst 70000 runners all with a positive attitude towards life.
How good is that that? What freedom? How lucky am I?
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Good points, Kiwong!
Also, this song: FAWM.ORG / There's Just No Trusting My Heart LOL!
(or any episode of Married... with Children - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia ?)
Also, this song: FAWM.ORG / There's Just No Trusting My Heart LOL!
(or any episode of Married... with Children - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia ?)
Kiwong
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I should join a cloister. Haha. That sounds like just the place for me. Not sure I'd look the part as a nun, but a monk perhaps!
All the married people with children in my office seem to have heavy dark rings under their eyes from lack of sleep. They are always coughing and spluttering from the latest illness to sweep though the family.
The other day I was thinking that if I was in relationship, I'd probably double the amount of time I need to visit counsellors. Just getting along with myself is hard enough.
All the married people with children in my office seem to have heavy dark rings under their eyes from lack of sleep. They are always coughing and spluttering from the latest illness to sweep though the family.
The other day I was thinking that if I was in relationship, I'd probably double the amount of time I need to visit counsellors. Just getting along with myself is hard enough.
babegolden20
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you only have to take care of yourself with no kids to bother or drive you crazy. You only have to think of yourself without any extra expenses. Oh yeah and you only have to take care of yourself...lol
panicsurvivor
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panicsurvivor
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Sex with multiple partners. This is awesome and gets tiresome after a couple months, then you want a girlfriend again.
WriterChick3
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LOL.
Um, but about the being single thing .... From my point of view: You don't have to try so hard to impress your boyfriend.
Won't feel weird when he's looking at other girls.
Won't have to worry about a breakup and the heartbreak that follows.
You can also be alone to think. Sometimes it stinks to be alone, but it's better than being pulled out of your comfort-zone when you're actually wanting to have some alone-time.
And as Feathers said, you won't have to worry about pregnancy stuff.
My thoughts here are kinda cynical ... I think.
Don't have to explain yourself when you want to be alone.
JamesSmith
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My reasons why I think it's good to be single
1. You never have to talk to your partner cuz you don't have a partner.
2. There is no pressure to entertain your partner in any way because you don't have a partner.
3. If you ever feel like not having sex, you don't have to do it because your partner wants to cuz you don't have a partner.
4. You never have to worry about giving gifts for birthdays/anniversaries.
5. You never have to buy a partner food (mainly for guys cuz we often pay for the gal in the buying dinner for other situation)
6. You don't have to worry about a partner borrowing money.
7. You always get to watch the tv show, movie, or video game that you want to watch.
8. No one can tell you that you can't drink or gamble.
9. You don't have to meet a partner's friends/acquaintances/parents. And then you don't have to be friends with any of these people either.
10. You don't have to impress anyone.
11. You don't have to be in shape, look good, w/e you want to call it. You can let go and eat all you want.
12. No arguments. <-----Very important
13. You don't have to worry about grooming, breath, all that good stuff. If you are a lady shaving legs is not mandatory, and for men neither is shaving the face.
14. You can sleep whenever you please.
15. You don't have to get a job if you live with parents or parents pay for your place. Spouses/partners often pressure their significant other to get a job.
16. You can dress however you like. Nobody to judge if you just want to wear sweats and hoodie all day.
17. Don't have to comb hair.
18. You can spill or break things at home and not have to worry about a wife or g/f nagging at you (that's mainly for men cuz it seems women tend to be more nit picky about spills and accidents).
19. You can leave the house whenever you want. You can hang out with friends as long as you want. You don't have to tell anyone where you are going and how long you are going to be gone.
20. You can sleep with random people and you aren't cheating cuz you have no partner.
21. You don't have to be nice to people cuz there is no partner to impress (I advise against this of course. Nobody should be mean.)
22. You can stare at people you are attracted to w/out a partner nagging at you.
23. You can "pleasure yourself" when you please.
1. You never have to talk to your partner cuz you don't have a partner.
2. There is no pressure to entertain your partner in any way because you don't have a partner.
3. If you ever feel like not having sex, you don't have to do it because your partner wants to cuz you don't have a partner.
4. You never have to worry about giving gifts for birthdays/anniversaries.
5. You never have to buy a partner food (mainly for guys cuz we often pay for the gal in the buying dinner for other situation)
6. You don't have to worry about a partner borrowing money.
7. You always get to watch the tv show, movie, or video game that you want to watch.
8. No one can tell you that you can't drink or gamble.
9. You don't have to meet a partner's friends/acquaintances/parents. And then you don't have to be friends with any of these people either.
10. You don't have to impress anyone.
11. You don't have to be in shape, look good, w/e you want to call it. You can let go and eat all you want.
12. No arguments. <-----Very important
13. You don't have to worry about grooming, breath, all that good stuff. If you are a lady shaving legs is not mandatory, and for men neither is shaving the face.
14. You can sleep whenever you please.
15. You don't have to get a job if you live with parents or parents pay for your place. Spouses/partners often pressure their significant other to get a job.
16. You can dress however you like. Nobody to judge if you just want to wear sweats and hoodie all day.
17. Don't have to comb hair.
18. You can spill or break things at home and not have to worry about a wife or g/f nagging at you (that's mainly for men cuz it seems women tend to be more nit picky about spills and accidents).
19. You can leave the house whenever you want. You can hang out with friends as long as you want. You don't have to tell anyone where you are going and how long you are going to be gone.
20. You can sleep with random people and you aren't cheating cuz you have no partner.
21. You don't have to be nice to people cuz there is no partner to impress (I advise against this of course. Nobody should be mean.)
22. You can stare at people you are attracted to w/out a partner nagging at you.
23. You can "pleasure yourself" when you please.
shybutsexy
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Is people that is not single not allowed to masturbate?
AsTimeBurns
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They can try, but nothing kills a mood like someone unexpectedly walking in and shouting at you, then a long discussion about why you feel the need to masturbate when you have a partner, do you not love them? Are they ugly and fat? Is this why you forgot your anniversary? Screw it, they're going to stay at their mother's house for a while.