Do you get annoyed by people who arent bothered by anything

[KiaKaha]

Or at least appear not to be bothered by anything? It really gets on my nerves for some reason... like they are living in this fantasy land where everything is perfect for them (although I am sure its not). For example there is this one woman at my course who is always so HAPPY. You ask how she is and the usual response is "I am absolutely fantastic" ra ra ra yeah yeah life is great, and its all rainbows and unicorns.

I mean being bubbly is cool, but why are people so FAKE about it..? or why do people feel the need to project this image of complete confidence and control....? I know confidence is important, but how about being real too?

 

[Feathers]

Interesting question. Is she on 'happy pills'?

(My sis once met someone who was so constantly happy and upbeat, and she later discovered the person was on antidepressants.. so, you never know..)

Also, there is this idea of girls 'having' to be happy and upbeat as this will make'em more attractive for men (?)

When people are down or depressed, it's normal that over-happy people can annoy you... My dad even says, the biggest problems and misunderstandings in the world can occur when people are not all happy at the same time..

Maybe she's even really genuinely happy, or trying to cover up insecurity.. Some people wear masks because they think 'the real me' won't be accepted or admired or liked or whatever..

 

[KiaKaha]

Well yeah... the woman is a complete muppet anyway. I think its just trying to cover up insecurity. It seems like its a game people play to appear a certain way to others without exposing themselves and becoming vulnerable... but yeah, I guess because I am more on the mellow, cynical side of the spectrum it perhaps irks me more than most...

 

[BlackPuma]

I can't really say that it does. Well, now, anyway. Usually when I see people that are happy all the time I think to myself ''Well, good for you.'' and not in a sarcastic way either. These people are mostly a good influence.

A while back I would've annoyed myself to death to that kind of person, but recently I've come to realize more and more that the more negative we are, the more we enjoy the company of negative people (negative music, negative movies, negative things in general). It fuels us. And when somebody positive comes along, it disrupts our negative way of thinking, and that's the thing we find uncomfortable.

But it's important to remember that it's not the person we find annoying, not at all. The annoyance is merely projected upon the person because they provide the elements under which we feel uncomfortable (and in some cases jealous (but that's just me)). The person whom provides these elements isn't even aware of this at all. The thing we should be- and are annoyed at is the feeling, and the feeling alone.

After all, isn't that what we're doing? Hiding behind mass negativity, or ''realism'' as some call it, due to lack of confidence? Not trying to step on anyone's toes here, just giving my two cents. ;3

 

[Bones]

People who are unnaturally happy do annoy me, but I agree with blackpuma, it's probably just jealousy.

 

[Feathers]

Well, people who would be unnaturally happy all the time, would probably annoy me, I don't really know anyone who is like that though.. Everybody has some problems.. You may just not know them.. If you talk to them more or observe, you may find out..

Sometimes I have thought about all the bad things in the world, or eco problems, trash, pollution etc, and wondered, 'How can people be happy?' Sometimes I was angry at them for being happy.. But maybe they just didn't know about these problems, and some, when being told, were eager to help and make a difference too..

Also, it's more eco-friendly to be genuinely happy than to be on antidepressants or get health problems due to stress.. I've sometimes struggled with how to be genuinely happy in a world like this though.. Again, exercise and nutrition and good friends can help..
Maybe this girl is just a sportsy person and gets hyper on endorphines? Or just chooses to disregard the bad things in life? Or chooses to be happy anyway, or at least 'fake it till you make it' (sometimes works)

If people want to have masks I usually don't mind, it's their choice.. Often you get a glimpse of the real person anyway.. Even masks can tell a lot about someone.. And when they get to know you better sometimes they realize they don't need masks with you..

Sometimes it helps society go on as it does.. (Imagine you went to buy coffee or groceries and the person there told you how they really felt..-? In detail? Every time, to every person? Some people also don't like to hear complaining..) It may be easier to get people to be real away from work or class settings..

This thread is making me think in other ways too, good thread.. May need some time to gather thoughts..

 

[vj288]

You would be very annoyed by me then. Not that I'm bubbly at all, but I don't appear to be bothered by anything at all. It's not that I'm not bothered, but I feel the need to be cautious about my reaction to things. The person in your class is probably bothered as well, but doesn't show it because being happy is, well, better than being bothered and she probably thinks it is better for everyone to be happy and not bothered.

 

[KiaKaha]

mmm.... I think what bothers me most is just how phony it seems. I dont know, I sometimes have a pretty warped view of how I think things should be. I can understand why people would want to project this....happiness feels good (so I have heard) But yes some people are unnaturally happy...always..constantly... this bothers me more, not the fact that people choose to be happy, but just pretending to be, so that they can fit in, and project themselves in a way to others so that they are perceived as someone they are really not... I dont know, I am probably not making any sense. I should probably try to figure out what it is thats really bothering me about the whole thing...but yeah great responses, thanks SPW

 

[WriterChick3]

I know someone like this. He/she seems to be more oblivious to things in life by ignoring them and always believes things get 100% better and like nothing could ever go wrong, like if he/she hasn't experienced it he/she cannot understand, etc, etc. It gets on my nerves, along with a couple of other people I know.
The other thing? He/she tends to get depressive, as well. One minute he/she is in a perfect la-la land bubble where everyone is in harmony, and at another moment he/she is talking down about life and how bad it's getting.
Both things depress me. Especially the depressive talk; Which is what I deal with with two other people besides him/her.

No wonder I can't make up my mind about if life is supposed to be good or dreadful.

 

[PurpleOne]

Or at least appear not to be bothered by anything? It really gets on my nerves for some reason... like they are living in this fantasy land where everything is perfect for them (although I am sure its not). For example there is this one woman at my course who is always so HAPPY. You ask how she is and the usual response is "I am absolutely fantastic" ra ra ra yeah yeah life is great, and its all rainbows and unicorns.

I mean being bubbly is cool, but why are people so FAKE about it..? or why do people feel the need to project this image of complete confidence and control....? I know confidence is important, but how about being real too?

I never been around a person like that before.

 

[Feathers]

I know someone like this. He/she seems to be more oblivious to things in life by ignoring them and always believes things get 100% better and like nothing could ever go wrong, like if he/she hasn't experienced it he/she cannot understand, etc, etc. It gets on my nerves, along with a couple of other people I know.
The other thing? He/she tends to get depressive, as well. One minute he/she is in a perfect la-la land bubble where everyone is in harmony, and at another moment he/she is talking down about life and how bad it's getting.
Both things depress me. Especially the depressive talk; Which is what I deal with with two other people besides him/her.

No wonder I can't make up my mind about if life is supposed to be good or dreadful.

That sounds like bipolar, or at least bipolar-ish.. There are things that person could do nutrition-wise and exercise-wise.. There are things to counter depression/negative thinking too.. I agree it's very difficult to live with or be around people like that.. /sigh/

ShyKiwi, I think I understand.. You may feel 'insulted' - 'why can't that person be real with me'? (?)
Or, you could be flattered - maybe she likes you so much she wants to make a good impression? Or might even be flirting with you? (Or someone else in the class?)

Some people also act like that only in a group of people, especially if they don't know them that well, and if you are alone with them, they can be quite different..

 

[Minty]

Huh. It's very rare when I'm around a person like that but I find I'm sensitive to other people's energy. If someone is happy and has positive energy it starts to make me feel that way too. Happens with anger as well, which is why I prefer to give angry people some space. Lol.

I guess the only time it would annoy me is if they were someone I was close to and I was upset. My sister can be like this sometimes. I'll be upset and to make things "better" (in her mind) she'll overcompensate by being overly happy and ignoring how I'm feeling. She thinks her mood will magically clear up mine. It just makes me feel more alone because I'd rather someone console me and acknowledge my emotions in these moments than cover them up with something that is fake.

 

[Falkor]

Well I'm annoyed by people who think they are superior.. Like they are the best.
It's a bit too much, you know. I like easy going people, who don't think they are the greatest, of course confidence is great, but really .. people who are sooo high in the air.. Pff don't tell me about it xD

 

[punklove]

Yes those kind of people do annoy me..
I feel like these days people just hide behind there smiles and fake happiness in order to "blend in" but the truth is you can never know if those people are really suffering on the inside.
Personally I don't pretend to be overly happy and I try to be "real" so that the people around me will be real as well but usually it doesn't work.

 

[WriterChick3]

... Reading this topic makes me feel like I really do live with a bunch of nutjobs. Let's see: The one relative of mine I mentioned is either depressive or living in a happy bubble, another is depressive and mentions 'the end' coming soon, and another believes he/she is better than everyone else and he/she can do absolutely no wrong, tells people if they're going to Hell or not and yet he/she is depressive and enjoys ruining peoples confidence and playing mind-games and making others cry.

Living with a group of cannibals sounds more pleasant than these people. I probably got a bit off topic, but I'd like people to know that if I ever go crazy it's because I live with the very essence of stupidity.

I hope nothing I said above offended anyone.

 

[Ignace]

Good god, don't get me talking. People who live their dreams, everything seems to be perfect. If 1 thing goes wrong, they wanna kill themselves, because life is so hard...

 

[KiaKaha]

Well I'm annoyed by people who think they are superior.. Like they are the best.
It's a bit too much, you know. I like easy going people, who don't think they are the greatest, of course confidence is great, but really .. people who are sooo high in the air.. Pff don't tell me about it xD

Oh thats a whole other ball game... that attitude annoys me more than anything else. I get a lot of that where I am, so I am pretty sensitive to it. It honestly always amazes me when I come across someone who really believes some people are worth more than others...and I am not talking about skills or talents or even charisma... I mean people who truly believe that some people have a higher value in human worth. Its a pretty pathetic attitude in my opinion. I am an egalitarian at heart. Anyway... rant over. Thanks everyone. I have enjoyed reading all your responses.

 

[Predacon]

I don't mind mindlessly happy people, as long as its not impacting negatively on me they can be as happy as they want.

 

[JamesSmith]

The socially acceptable thing to be is just that, happy. So around society, you will see many people being happy. A lot of these people are actually happy, but a lot of them wear "masks." Everyone has problems. For us it's our SA, but other people have problems of their own. Like since they are around people more than most of us, they get into more arguments and drama than we do. That stuff bothers them. Then there's the financial crisis. Just lots of people who don't have SA are great at covering up these issues that they have. I had a teacher who acted like he wasn't bothered by anything and was always happy and smiling. I later found out he was overdosing on antidepressants and had a history of being a borderline psychotic.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Not really. I'm bothered by nauseatingly (unrealistically) positive people. There has to be a happy medium there.

Whenever possible, I try not to let things bother me and I'll usually be happier for it. Even when I am bothered, most times I'd rather not express that I'm upset simply because I don't want the attention that comes with it. Is it absolutely necessary for me to be open about this? Especially with people I don't know well?

And I don't mind people who feign confidence. As long as they're not being @ssholes then I can't be bothered. ::