is a life without a partner possible?

[206Raider]

I worry about this too, I seem to f--- it up with girls a lot even when they like me, I let my insecurites get to me. I know I'm not ugly but I feel like it sometimes when I'm around girls I like. I feel like they see right through me and I start explaining shit about myself that makes no sense when I think there judging me.

 

[philly2bits]

I think it can be done but personally I would hate it. I'm not the "loner" type. The only thing that keeps me alone is SA. Sometimes I think to myself I don't need anyone else, but this may be a way of trying to cope with the problem.

 

[Psychedelicious]

Sneezles

Of course it's possible. It might make for a miserable existance, but it's entirely possible. There's lots of people who never have a partner in life, but they still have relationships, but I don't think that's what you mean. There's still those people who live their entire lives without ever having a relationship. You know- those people who end up growing old, going crazy, and talking to trees. That kind of stuff. The what I hope to never turn out like type of person. Without or with hardly any people or love, a person isn't very much of a person at all.

 

[Nack]

Its possible, but its like a trade off. I mean someone who is a work-a-holic/ outgoing / etc. Person who can substitute the socialization you get with your significant other, with other people like friends, co-workers, strangers in bars.

 

[Harleyq]

One of the teachers that worked at my highschool was a single, 55 year old virgin. It's not like she wasn't attractive for her age or that she had SA or anything. She just never found the right man, and she was obviously quite comfortable with it or she wouldn't have bothered admitting this to a bunch of immature 15 year olds.

 

[Q-tip]

Its impossible. Unless you wanna end up cold and lonely. when it all comes down to it its better with someone than no one.

 

[Krista]

Right now, I feel like being alone is pretty much the only option I have so I feel for you. But I'm also in this huge dump of pity for myself, who knows. You probably won't be alone forever. You'll find someone.

 

[sullyS1985]

Ya I mean it doesn't seem like the optimal choice for me but sometimes it seems like the only option and I have told myself I can live a happy life alone but I don't know it is kinda sad. I'm just sick of constantly ****ing things up even with girls that have liked me. I don't like the anxiety and eventually self loathing that is involved when I interact with girls I really like.
Right now I really like this girl that is so sweet and just an incredible human being and I don't expect to get with her because I think she is way out of my league but I would really like to even just go the friends route because she is such an incredible woman but I can't. Her and her best friend as well as myself are always saying we should hang out in parry like we did almost every night when I studied abroad in spain but ever since I returned back to the states I cannot get myself to call her I'm terrified of changing her opinion of me or meeting all her friends which would be a very anxiety provoking situation which usually involves me becoming a mute and not the guy she knew when we chilled a lot in spain. I dunno I'm just blathering on about nothing but it is frustrating and leads me to believe I need to find happiness in being alone, maybe I will just have a dog my whole life.
Either way I appreciate everyone's responses and advice, especially your's awkward annie because each piece of advice seems like it could really help me out, the problem is actually acting on it. Thanks to everyone though.

 

[emmasma]

As a married person, I scream YES!!!!
Having a partner is not always all it is cracked up to be. It can be more hurtful and lonely and sad than being alone. It is commonly so.

 

[philly2bits]

when it all comes down to it its better with someone than no one.

Being with the wrong person can be just as bad as being alone, if not worse. I worked with someone who stayed in a bad relationship just because they thought they would never get anyone else. Some people may be just stick with someone out of fear of being alone forever.

 

[Q-tip]

It feels better to be in a relationship than being alone for ages. I know. Its bullshit

 

[philly2bits]

I'm just speaking for myself, but I would rather be alone then be in the wrong kind of relationship. I don't think I'd feel right about being in a relationship if the only reason was so I wasn't alone. I'd feel like I was using the other person in a very bad way, almost like they were a drug relieving my pain.

 

[Darker Than Black]

I used to be clingy..now I'm just cold

 

[BlueDays]

I wouldn't think so, because everytime you saw a couple holding hands, laughing together or hugging, you would constantly be reminded of what you don't have.

 

[Awkward Annie]

Either way I appreciate everyone's responses and advice, especially your's awkward annie because each piece of advice seems like it could really help me out, the problem is actually acting on it. Thanks to everyone though.

Not a problem, man. No girl can resist a boy's smile. I know it's difficult but I only discovered how much it works when I gave up trying to attract anyone. I became much more natural and I'm not kidding, I had 3 gorgeous men asking me out within months of each other. This was a major deal! (I turned them all down by the way, I wasn't ready for a relationship after all, it seems I just wanted to know that people did fancy me)

 

[Q-tip]

More than likely if you start seeing someone, they're gonna be at least decent people!

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

Well, of course it's possible. Dating, marriage, children... not for me. I like being alone.
It all depends on the person, of course.

I wouldn't think so, because everytime you saw a couple holding hands, laughing together or hugging, you would constantly be reminded of what you don't have.

Or constantly reminded of what I don't want.

 

[TheWall]

Oh yeah, it is possible and it is the way my life is going to be. Not by choice, of course, but I'm just too insecure to have a romantic relationship.

 

[sullyS1985]

I would rather live in a cabin in the woods by myself than be with the wrong person or settle for someone I didn't feel for or love. So I'm saying I disagree with saying that someone is better than no one.

 

[Mokkat]

If I had ever had a partner, maybe I'd be able to answer the question. I don't know how it feels to not be alone, and I'm just wishing for a girl to happen to me at this point - Good or bad, having a girlfriend might give me some perspective on the subject.


Another viewpoint: If you asked random every person you met on the street, 95%+ would tell you that its better to have a partner (relatively). So judging from the numbers, yeah its better to live with someone