Will Long Distance Relationship ever work?

Nack

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I need some insight, will LDR ever work? Part of me wants it to work, but part of me who isn't living in a fantasy world, believes that it won't. Do what you do best SPWians, give me hope.
 

Emily_G

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My hubby and I dated for a week before I moved away for college (about a 6 hr drive). He came to visit me for a weekend twice a month. It was very hard, but so worth it :) I moved back after my freshman year.
 

Krista

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I know it's hard to keep faith in something that statistically doesn't ever work out but whoever this girl is is obviously special enough for you to consider it a possibility, right? It has the potential to be whatever you want it to be, just need to reassure yourself. I mean honestly I'm where you are. I know the chance things will work out the way I'd like them to are slim but I want it bad enough, I'll hold out and wait if it means being happy. Whatever makes you feel good should be explored to the fullest of it's possibilities, sometimes life's about seeing how things pan out.
 

Pink_Paula

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Long Distance relationships can work, but you have to make an effort to actually meet the other person, i don't think they can work if it is totally online. as nice as it is to have someone online, it's not the same as having someone that will hug you when you feel down and wipe away the teas when you are upset. So yes i do think they can work, if you meet up at some point.
 

NathanielWingatePeaslee

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Long Distance relationships can work, but you have to make an effort to actually meet the other person, i don't think they can work if it is totally online. as nice as it is to have someone online, it's not the same as having someone that will hug you when you feel down and wipe away the teas when you are upset. So yes i do think they can work, if you meet up at some point.

What she said.
 

Emma

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Maybe, maybe not.

Depends how long you're willing to wait around for someone.:confused:
 
I agree with Pink_Paula. My current relationship started out as a long-distance relationship, but then I came to visit and decided to stay. I know a couple that has been dating for two and a half years--one lives in England, the other in the US. They visit each other at least twice a year, and they're trying to figure out how to make it to where they can be together (I think the US one is going to move to England at some point).

Also, if either of you have trust or jealousy issues, then the relationship probably won't work because you'll constantly be wondering if the other person is remaining faithful.

Long-distance relationships are hard, but they can be worth it.
 
Im in a LDR and I tell you its hard as PLATINUM, but very worth it if you guys are good together and work hard at it. Im supposed to move up to the US in the summer for her. We have been speaking now for about 9 months. Elenwen, you wnet there and just stayed or u went back home to collect things and then moved back?
 

spect01

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Hm, I think it depends alot on the distance/location, age, and the people. As for my opinion, I'm afraid I take the side of saying no, it won't work, unless there were regular meetings and it was a strong relationship/situation, and both people were in the same country and all that. If it's someone you met and only know on the internet it's vital to always take it with a grain of salt because you really don't know this person in the flesh. Make no commitments or promises unless everything can be handled right. If you told someone you loved them over the net that was far away without even seeing what they look like or who they really are or their voice you could be dissapointed if you met them in person and nothing seemed how it did online. Then you feel really bad for leading someone on for so long. I've dealt with this with a girl I met on the net 4 years ago, we really wanted to take it to the next level but so many things happened and we've almost went our seperate ways now because of lots of disagreements and other things. We still talk but it's not the same as a relationship in real reality but there's nothing I can really do about it anymore. She sees someone in real life now and just sends me rude emails. I think friends is the farthest it can really go, without the flesh. If I had a real life girlfriend and one of us had to go far away I don't think I could handle being without them, and always wondering where they are and what they are doing and stuff. It's hard being far away from the one you love. It's just natural.

There has to be an end to the distance at some point. There just has to. A romantic relationship over the internet or far apart will never survive. It will fade out eventually.
 
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Oh I forgot to mention yea we have already met and everything. I went there to see her and she came here to see me just this past christmas break. Twas really fun
 
Im in a LDR and I tell you its hard as PLATINUM, but very worth it if you guys are good together and work hard at it. Im supposed to move up to the US in the summer for her. We have been speaking now for about 9 months. Elenwen, you wnet there and just stayed or u went back home to collect things and then moved back?

We had to go back to pick my stuff up. Originally I was just going to visit over Christmas break, but then I decided to stay (the whole school thing wasn't working out because of major mental issues and we just clicked, immediately) so we had to go back to the dorm to get my things--quite a long drive just for my junk (Florida to Mississippi)!

I had been dating him online for about four months before I went to visit, and now we've been together over three years. :) At one point our relationship had to revert to long-distance again (October '08-January '09) because I moved back in with my parents (in Texas) to get treatment, but we managed that too, though it was harder because we had had a "normal" relationship. My relationship with him is really what made me believe in soul mates!
 
We had to go back to pick my stuff up. Originally I was just going to visit over Christmas break, but then I decided to stay (the whole school thing wasn't working out because of major mental issues and we just clicked, immediately) so we had to go back to the dorm to get my things--quite a long drive just for my junk (Florida to Mississippi)!

I had been dating him online for about four months before I went to visit, and now we've been together over three years. :) At one point our relationship had to revert to long-distance again (October '08-January '09) because I moved back in with my parents (in Texas) to get treatment, but we managed that too, though it was harder because we had had a "normal" relationship. My relationship with him is really what made me believe in soul mates!

ah! Thats really nice elenwen. I think I believe in that as well but it just gets really stressful sometimes you know. But if it is meant to be, it will be I suppose
 

lyricalliaisons

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I can't imagine it working if the people aren't together at some point. Until the people are actually together in real life, on a permanent basis, it's never even fully a real relationship.
 

DanFC

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One of my friends has been in a long-distance relationship for more than five years now. I've seen them together, and it seems they really do love each other. Granted, it's not that long-distance, they see each other pretty much every other week at least and they talk every single day on the phone.
 
ah! Thats really nice elenwen. I think I believe in that as well but it just gets really stressful sometimes you know. But if it is meant to be, it will be I suppose

Oh, it's definitely stressful. But like you said, if it's meant to happen it will. I was in another LDR before this one, and that one was pure hell. It all depends on the people involved and how much work each person is willing to put in.

I hope yours turns out well. :)
 

Lea

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Yes it can work. Except you will have to meet for the sex part ;).

No seriously, I didn't have one myself, but why the hell it shouldn't work? On the contrary, if you can't keep even online relationship, how do you want to keep it in the real life? I guess meeting people online first can tell so much about their personality, how they are inside. This is what you can't tell about a stranger you meet somewhere down the bar.
 

iamthenra

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I was 38 and dateless, so I was desperate to find someone. I joined eHarmony and found an amazing person, she lived in Orlando Florida. We talked for hours at a time, with some conversations lasting until 2:00am!!! So after discussing things with her about meeting, I wanted to go to Florida for obvious reasons. (It's sunny and warm, and Disney World and Universal Studios Island of Adventures...) We also discussed that if things were to work out between us, that she would come here to Minnesota, because I wasn't willing to move from my family. She was good with that... So I jumped on a Boeing 737 bound for Florida and we had an AWESOME 2.5 days. We got alone great as expected, but about a week after returning from home, things went sour... She changed her mind about moving here, and she cut me loose...

I think it can work, but both people are going to have to put in some real effort and cost to make it work, until someone is willing to move to where the other is... My second date was all the way across Wisconsin, she was nice, but I knew she wasn't for me... So that didn't work out at all... Both were from eHarmony.

I say follow your gut, let your instinct be your guide.

Good luck!:)
 
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