Me neither! You just have to get to the point where you're so fed up that you don't care what others think.
Cleaning toilets is really not that bad.I would be quite happy scrubbing toilets 40 hours a week if the guys I worked with were good to work with and "accepted" me as part of the club.
(ok well maybe not scrubbing toilets - but you get the idea)
Is this happening where you're working now?It's just really hard walking into work and having people visibly feel uncomfortable around me. You know... looking away, Smiles dropping, no one saying hello to you...talking to everyone BUT you. All the while you are making mistakes, getting flustered and continually having to ask questions about the job to people who obviously want nothing to do with you. Surely one could see how completely soul destroying this would make someone feel?
You guys are so much stronger than I am. My awkward social graces and uncomfortable demeanour make it really hard for me.
I can totally relate to how you feel, I have had similar experiences. Toughing it out sometimes is just not an option, at least you gave it a try.
Nah, I'm one of those soft 'n chewy cookies with a slightly crisp exterior! ::You are one tough cookie.::
Would you continue to work in a job where nobody liked you? or made it quite clear that you were someone who was not wanted there?
This would be done by exclusion, not speaking to you, being dismissive, not looking at you or making you feel like you didn't fit in. Minimal interaction.
Would you stay? Or would you slog through...?
Personally I would quit. Which is what I am thinking of doing.
Lets not make this about me. Lets make this about you. What would you do...?
I'm not going to work to make friends. I perform a job and get paid. That is all. I want my money. If other workers want to be my friend, then I'll accept. I'm not fussy when it comes to friends as long as they do not gossip or be mean.
Exactly!!!Some people are just territorial over their job and workplace-- threatened by anyone new who starts working and might be any better than they are at the same job.
and what is WITH this new guy crap? Why does this even exist in the first place? Every single job is like this... am I the only one who thinks that this is completely unnecessarily cold? Everyone is the new guy right? Everyone is uncomfortable, everyone wants acceptance - yet they are so unwilling to give it to someone else. It really is quite hypocritical. I swear people have about as much emotional intelligence as a brick these days.
i've learned to work hard, keep my mouth shut and my eyes open, and keep my sense of humor
yes it's crap
unfortunately, it's human nature
i'm not condoning it - but i accept that it exists and i deal with it
no, when i start a new job, i'm not fighting the viet-cong in the jungles of southeast asia - but i am fighting to survive
i have no parents to support me, i don't qualify for disability - if i want to eat and put a roof over my head, i have to work, make money, pay bills
and people will behave the way people do
i have learned to take comfort in the fact that it's not personal - they treat everyone like that - not just me - as a new person, i must prove myself
the other workers are also trying to survive - if their work load were sufficiently light enough to take me under their wing and hover over me with a tender guiding hand, then the organization wouldn't need to hire another person in the first place
everyone is overworked - that's why they hired me - they don't have the time to help me - i have to prove myself capable of standing on my own feet and doing the job - otherwise, they don't really need me, do they?
i've learned to work hard, keep my mouth shut and my eyes open, and keep my sense of humor
you can choose to stay and fight or turn and run away - i've done both
i usually feel better in the long run when i choose to stay and fight
(as a manager, i try to make sure that my new staff is welcomed and treated well, any veterans treating the new people badly are set straight - and i make sure that they get enough training... but there is point where they must pull their weight - that's why i hired them - i can't afford to have someone babysit them)