would a guy like a girl who has no ..friends?

oNecoOlazN

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...I mean, ya i know, stupid question but...say you met a guy and he likes u b/c he thinks your really cute, has a good personality and wants to get to know u better.. ...but would he still like you after you told him you have no friends and no social life?
honestly, he would think of u as a sore loser and would never talk to u again, right?...I mean this is coming from a NORMAL guy, who has no anxiety issues and lives a normal life
...would he still like the "cute" girl after she told him ...everything..?


thanks....^_^;
 

Remus

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depends on the guy
a wanker would have issue with it, a cool guy would not.
if he's cool with it he's a keeper :)
 

Havocan

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This is rather odd, usually questions like these are posed by a male. In general it seems to be blokes who sustain a shortage of friends and not girls. Anyway, to answer OP's question; of course it doesn't matter. It depends on the girl herself, not who she's hanging out with or not. That should be pretty obvious^^.
 

SteveW

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I would rather know a girl who didn't have a load of friends, because I would find her to be too out-going and intimidating if she did. She'd also be more open to find or get involved with someone else.
 

Off The Wall

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yeah it really depends on the guy...

i've had both. some guys stopped talking to me cause i had no social life and was "uniteresting" while others were like oh "that sucks come hang out with me and my friends" while others were just interested in me and didn't really care about me having to friends or social life they just wanted to know me.

weirdly enough most of the guys my own age being teenagers i suppose (well im 20 now) But at the time all the younger guys i talked to even early 20's weren't interest after they asked me how my weekend was and i couldnt be bothered to lie so i just said i sat at home! and the other guys i talked to being late 20's.. 30's couldn't really careless actually and kinda of enjoyed staying at home also. lol.

guess its an age thing as you get older you grow out of going out 24/7. Or maybe just arn't as judgemental and have a better understanding of people? i have no clue but i've always felt i get along with people who are older then me.. hmm

but yes answering your question.. if they are an idiot they will care (and you wouldn't want to be their friend anyway) and if they don't care then woo!
 

Ubersonic

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...I mean this is coming from a NORMAL guy, who has no anxiety issues and lives a normal life
Well apparently nobody here is a "normal guy" so I doubt we can give you an accurate answer... :mad:

I'll still give my answer though. I would think it was a little weird, but still go out with her. Men, "normal" or... not, don't value a womens social status as much as she values ours. Of course there will be some exceptions, but I think it's a pretty accurate generalization.
 
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thor01

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Yeah, I dont represent normal guys but that would be good to me because she would be more similar to me.
 

mrb

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i wouldnt care if my gf had no mates , in fact shes the opposite to me im quite shy dont really like talking to people , she wants to chat to evreyone . on a plane bus its like oh hi were you from were do you live , im like ****s sake do you have to make conversation with the whole planet , lol apart from that we get on great
 

TheFreak

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Honestly it wouldn't matter to me who she knew. If I wanted to be with her it would be because of her, not her friends. In fact it would be better the fewer other people she knew -mostly because I'm shy, but it would also leave more time to just be with her.
 

SalemEdgerton1

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...I mean, ya i know, stupid question but...say you met a guy and he likes u b/c he thinks your really cute, has a good personality and wants to get to know u better.. ...but would he still like you after you told him you have no friends and no social life?
honestly, he would think of u as a sore loser and would never talk to u again, right?...I mean this is coming from a NORMAL guy, who has no anxiety issues and lives a normal life
...would he still like the "cute" girl after she told him ...everything..?


thanks....^_^;

As others have said, it really depends on the guy though I'd assume it's not a huge deal for guys. Personally, as long as the girl knows how to love and be a good, compassionate person that's all that's really needed imo.
 

bleach

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Men, "normal" or... not, don't value a womens social status as much as she values ours. Of course there will be some exceptions, but I think it's a pretty accurate generalization.

Exactly right

I don't even think this is one of those issues where you could say 'it depends on the guy', I have never in my life heard a guy even express this being an issue
 
Exactly right

I don't even think this is one of those issues where you could say 'it depends on the guy', I have never in my life heard a guy even express this being an issue

I'm not sure- my ex-husband a lot of times would nag me and say things like "Why don't you get some friends?"
But I don't think this made him dislike me- in fact he was drawn to me in the first place because I was quiet and he saw me as being like he used to be- I guess he thought that he could relate to me and maybe help me be more confident. In a way it worked, but not for a while- and then I had the confidence to leave him::p:
 

Chrysalis

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I've learnt that you have to be best friends with yourself first anyway, so no, it shouldn't matter

:)

When it feels right, just explain to him your situation.
If he understands, all well and good.
If not however, search again as a nice guy shouldn't / wouldn't judge you by your current situation and friend count

:)
 

Danfalc

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Definatley wouldnt be an issue :) relationship wise would just mean as a couple you would have more time to spend together..and pretty much the same friendship wise really.It can be quite scary for us shy males aswell when a girl has a pack of mates lol,cos then we have to worry about getting accepted by the firends aswell.
 
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