LittleMissMuffet
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My thoughts on this are that as far as attracting a mate, it is probably a bit easier for women who have SA.
Yet, I think that this also depends on degree of shyness; and that, past a certain threshold, the advantage of being female makes little to no difference. That if you're painfully shy, it won't matter so much what gender you are: relationships are very difficult.
Along with this, I think that there are too many factors that go into whether a person finds dating easy. And I afree very much with those posters who brought-up the problems that women and especially shy women deal with in the dating world.
...It is even the theory of Carl Jung, the Father of Analytical Psychology,
that if a shy, timid female is out-of-touch with the masculine aspects of her psyche, then she is likely to project this onto an actual man; and because this 'male opposite' is likely to be agressive and even unscrupulous, such a matching with a male can most certainly have dire consequences.
So basically, to the first poster: you are correct about certain aspects of love and relationships; but you only see those particular aspects.
The simple fact that, for you women have an advantage in terms of "the male taking over" -tells you that also, because of this, "the male taking over" is just as likely a shy, timid woman's disadvantage as it is her advantage.
In short, I believe that you would benefit from opening your eyes to seeing past your own immediate situation. For one thing, you would be doing your self the favor of realising that you are not as powerless or disadvantaged as you think you are. ....afterall, things turn around in the world -and 'Many who are first will be last and many who are last will be first'. And, I believe that this turn-around would happen more quickly if you were more willing to see past your own immediate situation and disadvantaged position.
Yet, I think that this also depends on degree of shyness; and that, past a certain threshold, the advantage of being female makes little to no difference. That if you're painfully shy, it won't matter so much what gender you are: relationships are very difficult.
Along with this, I think that there are too many factors that go into whether a person finds dating easy. And I afree very much with those posters who brought-up the problems that women and especially shy women deal with in the dating world.
...It is even the theory of Carl Jung, the Father of Analytical Psychology,
that if a shy, timid female is out-of-touch with the masculine aspects of her psyche, then she is likely to project this onto an actual man; and because this 'male opposite' is likely to be agressive and even unscrupulous, such a matching with a male can most certainly have dire consequences.
So basically, to the first poster: you are correct about certain aspects of love and relationships; but you only see those particular aspects.
The simple fact that, for you women have an advantage in terms of "the male taking over" -tells you that also, because of this, "the male taking over" is just as likely a shy, timid woman's disadvantage as it is her advantage.
In short, I believe that you would benefit from opening your eyes to seeing past your own immediate situation. For one thing, you would be doing your self the favor of realising that you are not as powerless or disadvantaged as you think you are. ....afterall, things turn around in the world -and 'Many who are first will be last and many who are last will be first'. And, I believe that this turn-around would happen more quickly if you were more willing to see past your own immediate situation and disadvantaged position.
