why do you think people with out SA enjoy to talk ?

[Bo592]

why do you think people with out SA enjoy to talk ? ..............................

 

[da_illest101]

You shouldn't put everyone in categories like that, some people have SA and loves to talk, others don't have SA and are still quiet. I can be both depending of the situation but in general just quiet.

I think some people enjoy just the attention, learn about others, just bored

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

Why do people with SA hate to talk?

I think a lot of it has to do with brain chemistry and just how your mind works. There are some people who have to say something about everything and some people that only talk when necessary. In my classes, there are some people that respond to everything, they always have something to say and some people I know just never ever shut up. Some people just can't be quiet. Then there are others that don't talk at all. I mean, it's pointless to question why people are the way they are because... people just are that way.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

On the rare occasion that I do talk to someone I'm comfortable with, I find that the connection we make is quite enjoyable and lets me express myself to another human being. The communication on their end also keeps me informed about things and lets me understand things from another person's perspective. It's not healthy if we live inside our heads all of the time. I can imagine it would be quite enjoyable to speak to friends casually without experiencing anxiety, but we just don't have that freedom.

 

[Srijita52]

You shouldn't put everyone in categories like that, some people have SA and loves to talk, others don't have SA and are still quiet. I can be both depending of the situation but in general just quiet.

I agree, it depends on what the person prefers. Some people might be overly anxious and it might make them uncomfortable around others, but once they get past their anxiety, they might actually like talking and connecting to people. While another person maybe quite confident but prefer to stay quiet. Then there're most people who are somewhere in between.

 

[theslowesthand]

Because it fills up their empty minds

Ouch! that's NASTY :: ..... but i kinda like it! (hehe) (shame on me i suppose, but i also have quite a "low" view of "the common people" in general .. its not due to them not having TRULY hard problems like most people on here, but its just a people thing, and i just tend to dislike people with "really major" problems less than (most) people with no "real" problems, as such people (former) tend to think much more, feel much more, have much more "backbone" & "character", etc, etc ... but thats just my own imho, & i'm shooting well off at a tangent here...

I can imagine it would be quite enjoyable to speak to friends casually without experiencing anxiety, but we just don't have that freedom

That's something i can probably only ever "imagine" & never ever experience...

I'm like an elderly person who lives alone (& is lonely) - whenever they are around another human being, & ooportunity is there, they go on & on & on & .... And just like that elderly person, i am just as boring to the listener, just seem to have that knack of making people feel bad or sth, without even trying. A natural, inate quality or trait one could say. So, i DO like talking to people sometimes (about my own interests), but almost always they DON'T LIKE LISTENING. I start to sense this on average after about 30 seconds of me talking. Never been able to understand it, probably cause its totally non-logical (ie is emotional, which i've alweays been totally crap at); involves all these ultra-subtle feelings, micro-expressions, and such - which the "common" person values almost more than life itself it seems (ie they CANNOT BEAR to feel the SLIGHTEST amount of emotional discomfort, for the MINIMUM amount of time). What wussies. I MUST NOT cause them the SLIGHTEST drop of emotional-feel-good for even a MICRO-SECOND .. don't want to frustrate these "demands" of theirs by merely TALKING to them, ay????!!!
Its always been like this. Maybe thats why i kinda "gave up" with people a long, long time ago.

 

[irrational]

Looking at the post count on this board I don't think it's just those without SA that enjoy talking

 

[spider04]

I had occasions that I enjoyed to talk (talking in person if that it is) and I think everyone here also did so I can feel why they enjoy to talk.

 

[Hoppy]

I sometimes feel that the more you know the less you talk.

But then I am a well informed person who is unable to express myself and nasty as well.

So I would like to rephrase that:

"People who enjoy talking has met someone they enjoy talking to. Most people just talks."

 

[spring]

because we need human interaction.with SA or without.
that is a RULE.a necessity.no alternatives exist.



unfortunately.

 

[Bo592]

because we need human interaction.with SA or without.
that is a RULE.a necessity.no alternatives exist.



unfortunately.

I agree before I been on hear I hated everything about who I was. but now that I get more chances to open up about SA I beginning to enjoy talking more.

 

[TAMPA-BAY]

Actually thats not true. I've ran an anxiety meetup group for years and let me tell you shy/anxious people are the most talkative people you have ever meet once they get talking.

Its just a matter of situation. If you ever joined an anxiety meetup group you too will be amazed at how much talking you do.

 

[doubtmyself]

Actually thats not true. I've ran an anxiety meetup group for years and let me tell you shy/anxious people are the most talkative people you have ever meet once they get talking.

Its just a matter of situation. If you ever joined an anxiety meetup group you too will be amazed at how much talking you do.

I've never been to one. Sounds fun.
I think shy people compensate when they talk to someone they feel comfortable with.

 

[Predacon]

It depends on the person and the situation. I can talk with people and enjoy it, not all the time but on occasion, but some people enjoy talking all the time, hell I've seen my brother have long conversations with people he just meet and I'm thinking you don't know this person and will never meet them again, just finish it so we can leave.

 

[Arthur_Dent]

One of the things Ford Prefect had always found hardest to understand about humans was their habit of continually stating and repeating the very very obvious, as in It's a nice day, or You're very tall, or Oh dear you seem to have fallen down a thirty-foot well, are you all right? At first Ford had formed a theory to account for this strange behavior. If human beings don't keep exercising their lips, he thought, their mouths probably seize up.

After a few months' consideration and observation he abandoned this theory in favor of a new one. If they don't keep on exercising their lips, he thought, their brains start working. After a while he abandoned this one as well as being obstructively cynical and decided he quite liked human beings after all, but he always remained desperately worried about the terrible number of things they didn't know about.

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[Sartana]

Why does anyone? When I'm comfortable I never stop talking.

 

[Rainbow Brite]

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[Kiwong]

I also enjoy talking, it very much depends on the person I am talking to.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I guess more than me for the most part. Even if I know someone really well I don't feel like talking that much just having someone around is nice sometimes.