Why do I have nothing to say atall?

[JosephG]

My mind is completely blank. Im not anxious of other people I just simply dont have any input atall. It's crazy. How can I not converse with people?
I don't get it at all I think I have aspergers or something. What is up with me
anybody else just have no input atall when talking with people? At all?!

 

[kihira]

Often, it will completely throw me if I meet someone out of context, A workmate at the supermarket for eg.

 

[just wanna b normal]

yeah i think im jsut too afraid to say something or not know what to say how to socialize idk

 

[Hastings & Main]

Totally blank. Which is why I write otherwise.
If I could talk the way I write, I'd.... y'know, probably have friends or something.
I also find myself having conversations with people (friends, co-workers, that woman I saw on the bus etc) in my head, trying to work out how it would go, how I would say this or that and NOT say something stupid and so on...

I've imagined more conversations than I've actually had.

 

[Liam17]

the problem is i seem to over think things. Like what to say, is that a good idea etc.

Then end up not saying anything,
Ah well :/

 

[bsebring]

I do the same with everyone I talk to. It's really weird, I know I want to converse but the words don't come. Which, in turn, leads to really awkward silences and forced conversations.

 

[fitftw]

just happened to me outside my flat smoking a cig and the guy next door comes out to smoke and we just stood there in silence for 5 minutes until I went back inside. Very awkward.

 

[Shift]

Totally blank. Which is why I write otherwise.
If I could talk the way I write, I'd.... y'know, probably have friends or something.
I also find myself having conversations with people (friends, co-workers, that woman I saw on the bus etc) in my head, trying to work out how it would go, how I would say this or that and NOT say something stupid and so on...

I've imagined more conversations than I've actually had.

This guy from school told me the same thing... I was gone for the weekend visiting my mama, so I was sending him messages on Facebook and we were writing back and forth for a bit and he told me he wished I could talk to him the way I type... It's so frustrating because I really want to be able to do that, but I just get nervous and I go blank when I am with him in person (well, I'm like that with everyone, but I just care more about him).

 

[missjesss]

well for me I dont rlly like small talk and I'll only be interested in talking when it's a good subject or interests me and it also depends on who im with if im with a funny guy or funny person im ok if im with ppl I don't know im more quiet and reserved I dont think you have aspergers you could just be slightly introverted as I am and we do talk when we want to or the topic is of interest

 

[Bustn Justin]

For the most part I feel like I have nothing to talk about since I am by myself alot.

 

[Gerdje]

This can very well be a result of long-term SA. In my personal case, I fit asperger for the full 100%, yet, sometimes I still have the urge to talk to someone, being my closest family, I've come to the point that I also don't have any urge or anything to say to others also, but thay may very well be the results of years of having done nothing of interest, nothing thrilling, nothing special, so yeah if I wasn't that scared I could start to talk about something I've seen on tv, but what to talk about after that ? What to talk about once that topic is "closed" ????

OTOH, If I'm really honest, I have no more urge/push to actually talk to others, perhaps that's the result or perhaps that the source ????

 

[missjesss]

It's alot to do with confidence aswel and how you feel about urself if you feel inferior to everyone then your not going to want to speak or have much input coz u just feel inferior to everyone...Ive noticed this because when my confidence is up and im feeling good I am able to talk and I feel alot happier talking to ppl and im almost able to be my complete self

 

[Minty]

I usually THINK my response first...in my head. Instead of just saying it out loud like normal people do. And then another thought pops up saying, "That's stupid! Don't say it!" And so I analyze whether it's really stupid or not. A lot of times, after analysis, I come to the conclusion that it was NOT a stupid thing to say but can't say it anyways because everyone has moved on to a different topic and it would be awkward. LOL

 

[BlackPuma]

Yeah, I'm like that too. My mind is blank, and my jaw seems to just kinda stiffen up. I think this is a response to the anxiety. Being fearful gotta do something with the communication skills (and most things related).

 

[missjesss]

I think coz we r more introverted as most ppl are so it's harder for us

 

[Richey]

THis happens to me at work and when i feel forced to have to have an opinion, if i am in a meeting or out at a restaurant then the anxiousness that comes from that feeling obliged to have an opinion makes me not have an opinion because i am consumed by self consciousness ....so there is an issue of not being relaxed enough around others. also certain people just throw me especially at work, they seem far too formal and speak in business language instead of just talking like a normal person and i just switch off because i feel that people are just there to show off their ego and technical knowledge by explaining it in their own selfish terminology instead of explaining their thoughts in simple and understandable lingo.

At parties I feel unrelaxed because of all the egos that start to really fire and show off, i can't just force cheeriness and humour it has to be under the right circumstance..

so basically what i have learnt over some time is that there is nothing wrong with being quiet and not having an opinion, because maybe you don't have anything to add that hasn't already been mentioned and perhaps you don't have a strong opinion to bother with, there is nothing wrong with not saying much especially if you feel you around people that are sort of putting on an act or a personality to adapt, it may not feel natural to you and you may feel uncomfortable in certain environments and around some people.

There are certain situation where i am really chatty but most of the time i don't feel comfortable in the company of certain people where i am forced to be, like at work and some family as well where i just don't feel relaxed.

 

[Taydos]

Wow, amazing, atleast i know Im not alone. The burden of being "different", that silent one in a group, you got the words but you just can't seem to express them, maybe making people laugh... IN YOUR HEAD... while that is true, i really want to talk, light up the rooms i walk in, why must it be so difficult? Ive read news papers thinking maybe my vocabulary sucks, I've watched sitcoms, did everything I could, but it ain't working. And strange thing, this personality was not around 7 years back, i used to be a good public speaker, talkative and crazy, had influence in high school, then suddenly i watched it all fall apart, drawn to myself, low self-esteem, i hardly have friend around my neighbourhood, sometimes, now its so often, i think people look at me funny, some just get bored of greeting me, because that's all I do; now they just ignore me, at times i feel like Im getting paranoid, paranoid in that the pattern is of ignoring me is evident in most people in my neighbourhood, its painful:'(

 

[JosephG]

Yerp I feel what everyone is saying here. But it doesn't feel like anxiety to me. I don't think I'm scared of talking to most people. But when I do actually talk to them I just have nothing to say. Maybe I just don't care about people enough. I noticed last night when I was going to sleep I didn't think about anything other than my flaws in social interaction. Maybe I've let my whole life become dominated by this thing. I am no longer able to think freely or converse freely.
What is it you think about when you're alone?