Where can I apply for a job?

[jryden]

I'm having so much anxiety and fear over where to apply for a job. I don't have to start applying for another 3-4 months (long story) but I'm still not sure where I should apply.

I have a bachelors degree. Completely useless. I didn't learn anything that I can apply in the real world. There were some things I should have learned but hey..I was depressed and suicidal the whole time so I didn't care.

I have never had a real job. SERIOUSLY!! I'M 22. NEVER REALLY WORKED. Not because of being lazy, I have anxiety and also some family problems got in the way.

I understand that all or most of the people on here have anxiety/social phobia but I actually think I'm in the group of those that have it the worst. ::

I'm getting desperate here. I need Ideas.

I believe in God (Not sure if most ppl on here are atheists. If you're, respect what I'm saying. Please Anyway, I believe God has a plan and I can pray for a job blah blah blah but I HATE God. With a passion. I have problems. Ok. So anyway, we aren't on the same page and I kind of care/don't care. I think (and you can correct me if I'm wrong) I have to first be on his side if I want anything good to happen. That's not happening any time soon so I might be screwed.

 

[Silatuyok]

Even if you believe in God, praying for a job will not get you one. You have to trust in God's plan for you, which I would interpret as not worrying TOO much about it, doing what you can to find work, and embracing an opportunity when it comes along. God helps those who help themselves, as the saying goes. Yes there is a purpose for you, but it might not be what you are expecting. So apply for any and every job and trust that, even if it's not a great situation, it will build up to better things for you in the future. Most people look back on their professional lives and have one or two crap jobs that they had to get through in order to become successful. Don't get anxious or give up hope before you have even started. There are tons of interesting occupations out there. Think of it as an opportunity to learn about pretty much anything you want to.
Good luck!

 

[jryden]

Even if you believe in God, praying for a job will not get you one. You have to trust in God's plan for you, which I would interpret as not worrying TOO much about it, doing what you can to find work, and embracing an opportunity when it comes along. God helps those who help themselves, as the saying goes. Yes there is a purpose for you, but it might not be what you are expecting. So apply for any and every job and trust that, even if it's not a great situation, it will build up to better things for you in the future. Most people look back on their professional lives and have one or two crap jobs that they had to get through in order to become successful. Don't get anxious or give up hope before you have even started. There are tons of interesting occupations out there. Think of it as an opportunity to learn about pretty much anything you want to.
Good luck!

I agree--praying for a job won't just get me one but I probably won't pray anyway.

"God helps those who help themselves" I 100% believe this. Even if I've never worked, It doesn't mean I've never made money. I've figured out ways to make money on my own. Its not consistent but better than nothing. What's frustrating about that is that I TRY...God knows I ****in try but everything I try ends up failing. My sister on the other hand will sit her lazy ass down and do nothing, waste her talents and gets job offers. Ughhh

 

[GhastlyCC]

I'm in the same boat.
Same age and have never had a real job.
Due to anxiety aswell.

But it's not entirely uncommon for people our age who DON'T have anxiety to be in the same situation.
If they've been doing only college since they finished highschool.
I have a couple friends who did just that.

 

[dancingintherain]

what I just do, is go on some job search websites and apply anything that allows you to send your CV to their email address..and that way, no real contact until an interview. BUT it's been a year already and no luck. I do worry a lot if I wouldn't be able to adapt in a job because of the anxiety. I wish there was a work adviser who understands by problem - but they don't. My disability adviser never even heard of SA and saw a work psychologist who wasn't helpful one.bit.

 

[coyote]

find a resort area, like the one i live in

show up prior to the start of their "season" - and apply everywhere

if you truly WANT to work and demonstrate that, you will get employment - there's always someone looking for workers

it may only be for the season, it may only be part time, it may only be washing dishes or waiting tables, or folding sweaters (shudder), but if you really bust your ass, it might turn into some other opportunities

at least you'll get some experience and have something to put on your resume

 

[Sacrament]

Your "god" put you in the position you're in as it is.

Anyway, you just have to relax, and go to a job center when you're ready to apply. There should be signs with different jobs available. Look them up first, go outside, take a deep breath, take a number and then speak to whomever's desk you're assigned to. You'll be fine. Just breathe, and remember that tons of people do the exact same thing every single day, and it's nothing out of this world.

 

[Facethefear]

"I have a bachelors degree. Completely useless. I didn't learn anything that I can apply in the real world. There were some things I should have learned but hey..I was depressed and suicidal the whole time so I didn't care."

You got out of bed, went to class, did the work successfully and have a degree to show for it, all while going through a really tough time. That should impress an employer.

"I've figured out ways to make money on my own. Its not consistent but better than nothing."

That should be included in your resume. You have said, in another post, you worked for family members. Don't forget to include that also. You stated you have the desire to start your own business. That information should NOT be disclosed at a job interview.
Good luck.

 

[jryden]

"I have a bachelors degree. Completely useless. I didn't learn anything that I can apply in the real world. There were some things I should have learned but hey..I was depressed and suicidal the whole time so I didn't care."

You got out of bed, went to class, did the work successfully and have a degree to show for it, all while going through a really tough time. That should impress an employer.

"I've figured out ways to make money on my own. Its not consistent but better than nothing."

That should be included in your resume. You have said, in another post, you worked for family members. Don't forget to include that also. You stated you have the desire to start your own business. That information should NOT be disclosed at a job interview.
Good luck.

"That information should NOT be disclosed at a job interview." lol yes. I'm just here to steal your ideas lmao.

Yes, I was in a bad mental state while going to school and managed to finish but I can't let an employer know that.

The family members I worked for probably wouldn't refer me. lol I didn't do much for them and stopped going there to work--b/c they didn't pay me so I had a good reason.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

you have a bachelors degree so use that to get a job. if you need some skills just take a few classes that will lead to a job like computers. i don't have a degree and it's taking me so long to do it.

 

[Lea]

find a resort area, like the one i live in

show up prior to the start of their "season" - and apply everywhere

if you truly WANT to work and demonstrate that, you will get employment - there's always someone looking for workers

it may only be for the season, it may only be part time, it may only be washing dishes or waiting tables, or folding sweaters (shudder), but if you really bust your ass, it might turn into some other opportunities

at least you'll get some experience and have something to put on your resume

Only... waiting tables.. yeah.

 

[mikebird]

I'm an Atheist with a BSc

It's this website I found in 2010 which finally showed me the cold fact that we have to be part of the fortunate outgoing, warm set of social sector of society to be happy.

Every day is different. About six years from graduation, I was rejected by employer to the next. It showed me a downward spiral I tried to build on. Sketchy. I just never really saw how important the sparkling, energetic power you need to emphasise to build rapport. I thought doing what I did would be what's required to thrive. As a freaky unsocial pupil at school, I felt fine. It seems everyone NEEDS to dress up in a MacDonalds clownsuit and be bubbly, giggling, screaming entertainer and make a deep impact on society. It doesn't suit me.

Maybe this is prerequisite to function in human society. Animal (cattle) don't do this. Mammals do breed, by default.

I spend every minute of every working day from early to past midnight putting all my time into jobhunting, because we have automated tools for this. Not lazy or stupid. Too much personal getting-on with recruiters...

Their call today (not one word clear): now I can see, by callerID thst they live near Brighouse, Yorkshire. This is the first time I'm able to admit that phone conversations in English with strangers is impossible with any accent: Manchester, Yorkshire, Scottish, Irish, Indian, London Cockney, etc.

Hybrid Indian / Yorkshire?

This is the next level of seperation caused; a reason why hearing mumbling nonsense. I blame the ancient POTS telephony infrastructure and magic luxury of mobile

I attempt to reign my fury. It's a surprise that not going to school in north England, Scotland, Ireland, India or London makes life so impossible... hail reading and writing!! We have email!!!

this comment is going right on my CV, admitting my difficulty. Do you believe that would be fruitful? I'm so glad I've woken up to this fact

 

[mikebird]

I'm in the same boat.
Same age and have never had a real job.
Due to anxiety aswell.

But it's not entirely uncommon for people our age who DON'T have anxiety to be in the same situation.
If they've been doing only college since they finished highschool.
I have a couple friends who did just that.

I love this. I wish I could have made this statement so long ago to summarise life so perfectly

 

[mikebird]

"I have a bachelors degree. Completely useless. I didn't learn anything that I can apply in the real world. There were some things I should have learned but hey..I was depressed and suicidal the whole time so I didn't care."

You got out of bed, went to class, did the work successfully and have a degree to show for it, all while going through a really tough time. That should impress an employer.

"I've figured out ways to make money on my own. Its not consistent but better than nothing."

That should be included in your resume. You have said, in another post, you worked for family members. Don't forget to include that also. You stated you have the desire to start your own business. That information should NOT be disclosed at a job interview.
Good luck.

Wow! My degree was the ultimate moneygrabbing tactic of salespeople to pull students into a course, with tasteful, appealing advertising, impossible to say 'no' to. I adored my entire degree - every type of scientist's dream to end up as a millionnaire engineer. No place in the world for such - no opportunity. It made profit for uni course fees. Businesses thrive. No individual means anything to our planet. What a crime

 

[GhastlyCC]

I love this. I wish I could have made this statement so long ago to summarise life so perfectly

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[OceanMist]

Apply first to jobs you feel like you want to do the most, then if that doesn't work out, lower your standards and go for the jobs that are tougher for you to work.

Applying for jobs can come down to how many applications you turn in. It took 30 apps just to get the part time job I have now.

Yes, it's hell out there. There are people with college degrees who are working at mcdonald's (no offense to anyone there, it's a job that pays money).

When I last was applying for jobs I felt like there were 1000 starving people in a field with one piece of bread in the middle of that field and everyone was fighting for that piece for survival.

 

[coyote]

Only... waiting tables.. yeah.

where anyone got the idea that just because they went to college they still don't have to start out at the bottom is beyond me

college may qualify to move up the ladder faster than someone who doesn't have the degree, but you still generally have to start out in entry level positions

work experience of any kind will only help you more

waiting tables in some places pays a lot more than my job does, and there is much less responsibility

it's a good way to make a living unless you're hung up on titles and prestige

 

[twiggle]

where anyone got the idea that just because they went to college they still don't have to start out at the bottom is beyond me

I agree.

I'm a graduate too, and when I came out of University... yes I had proof that I had an academic brain, but all the people my age who didn't had something else important - much more work experience. That's what all employers are after these days, they don't care about your degree - they just want to know what you have done and can do.

The degree may give you the advantage later down the line when you're applying to the jobs that request you have one, but you have to work your way along that line. You will have a lot of difficulty getting hired if you if you reach a certain age - say, early 20s - and have zero work experience, regardless of what you've studied. Even if you've only ever done waitressing, or cleaning, or any of the other kind of jobs people seem to avoid - the point is, you've done it, you've shown you have a work ethic, and they'll respect that. It WILL lead to better things.

Unless you benefit from some kind of nepotism, then 9 times out of 10 you're going to have to work your way up from the very bottom. If jobs are sparse in your area - volunteer.

 

[Lea]

where anyone got the idea that just because they went to college they still don't have to start out at the bottom is beyond me

college may qualify to move up the ladder faster than someone who doesn't have the degree, but you still generally have to start out in entry level positions

work experience of any kind will only help you more

waiting tables in some places pays a lot more than my job does, and there is much less responsibility

it's a good way to make a living unless you're hung up on titles and prestige

Ah, now I accidentally see your reply. You didn´t get me right, what I wanted to say is - waiting tables is beyond my capabilities. I am not a suitable personality for that, be it only for the fact that I am not able to smile.. I am very quiet, awkward, eye contact problems etc. - besides I doubt I would be able to remember so many things, who ordered what, who is going to pay and how much, how much do I give back etc., especially if it´s too many things to do at once - that would do my head in. I was thrown even from dishwashing and kitchen helper for being awkward, so go imagine.
Yes I am ridiculous, free to laugh everybody.

I forgot being ugly is no help either.

 

[OceanMist]

Ah, now I accidentally see your reply. You didn´t get me right, what I wanted to say is - waiting tables is beyond my capabilities. I am not a suitable personality for that, be it only for the fact that I am not able to smile.. I am very quiet, awkwardQUOTE]

Oh that's not weird at all. I would assume that many many people on this site feel the same way that you do.

I have already decided that being a waiter is just something I shouldn't even try. A waiter has to lay on the charm, ie smile, be a people person, remember everything, make people feel comfortable.

All that stuff is stuff i either can't do or would hate doing over and over again. We shouldn't put ourselves in a job that we can't do or hate.

What really sucks is it's jobs like these that we have to cancel out and that leaves us with a lot less options in finding a job. It's harder for us than outgoing people.