When a girl flips on you.

[AtTheGates]

has this ever happened to anyone?...like when you've been talking to a girl for a long period of time (months of even over a year) and then she finally decides she doesnt want to talk to you anymore for whatever reason and then just starts being really b!tchy.....all of a sudden everything you say is seen in the worst possible light....after a whole YEAR her demeanor toward you just changes at the drop of a hat....guys dont generally do this to eachother because there's an understanding amoung guys that you can only be so much of an ******* before it escalates to "fighting words"....but GIRLS on the other hand, can talk shit to a guy and then tell him to basically take a hike and there's really not a whole lot he can do about it..

 

[theoutsider]

I've had this happen to me before. The best thing to do is to drop them like a hot potato. It's a lot less stressful than trying to figure out what's wrong with her. Some people just have issues. It's up to you if you want to stick around and be their doormat. Leave them without uttering another word and 9 times out of 10 they will seek you out later once they realize you won't play their game.

 

[AtTheGates]

yeah you're probably right

 

[MotherWolff]

has this ever happened to anyone?...like when you've been talking to a girl for a long period of time (months of even over a year) and then she finally decides she doesnt want to talk to you anymore for whatever reason and then just starts being really b!tchy.....all of a sudden everything you say is seen in the worst possible light....after a whole YEAR her demeanor toward you just changes at the drop of a hat....guys dont generally do this to eachother because there's an understanding amoung guys that you can only be so much of an ******* before it escalates to "fighting words"....but GIRLS on the other hand, can talk shit to a guy and then tell him to basically take a hike and there's really not a whole lot he can do about it..

Maybe because the girl never really liked you in the first place.

Some females literally do not know what they want.

But even that can be a dangerous assumption because controlling guys use that as an excuse to take advantage of a woman.


She probably was in another relationship and felt she had to get defensive. It could have been a number of things. Did you try to ask her why she was upset?:thinking:

 

[AtTheGates]

im pretty sure she was just using me for entertainment value and also as an emotional tampon...and apparently after about a year I guess I had served my purpose.


fvck it...

 

[AtTheGates]

im pretty sure she was just using me for entertainment value and also as an emotional tampon...and apparently after about a year I guess I had served my purpose...thats not the first time thats happened...she's one of those "im bored" kinds of people but then when she's not bored I didnt ever hear from her.

fvck it...thank god it was just over the phone and internet though...im glad I never actually met her in real life.

 

[mismeek]

ouch sorry to hear that dude.

 

[AtTheGates]

yeah its messed up..

 

[MotherWolff]

im pretty sure she was just using me for entertainment value and also as an emotional tampon...and apparently after about a year I guess I had served my purpose.


fvck it...

Aaawww, I'm sorry you feel this way. No one deserves to feel used.

She didn't deserve you anyway.

You'll find a good woman, or maybe she will find you.

 

[Argentum]

People are fickle and you have to think about how much is a friendship miscommunication and how much is bull. Sometimes they're just "testing" you to see how much you care by whether or not you'll be upset, chase after them, try to save the friendship, etc. I don't think it's really worth it past the age of 15 or so, but there's not a lot of context here.

I'm a woman and have never had women do this to me, only men, but it's not like I'm a social butterfly or anything and have many people to compare to each other.

 

[MotherWolff]

People are fickle and you have to think about how much is a friendship miscommunication and how much is bull. Sometimes they're just "testing" you to see how much you care by whether or not you'll be upset, chase after them, try to save the friendship, etc. I don't think it's really worth it past the age of 15 or so, but there's not a lot of context here.

I'm a woman and have never had women do this to me, only men, but it's not like I'm a social butterfly or anything and have many people to compare to each other.

I totally agree. Its kinda sad though, how hard it is to even build a true friendly bond with people, especially as we become adult....:sad:

 

[Megaten]

Oh yeah Ive had this happen quite a few times lol. Like others said its best to just abandon ship ASAP. Last time this happened to me I tried to reason with her and find out what I did wrong, so she sent a white knight my way to straighten me out. Almost got in a fight with a guy I didnt even know. NOT worth your time dude.

 

[AtTheGates]

Oh yeah Ive had this happen quite a few times lol. Like others said its best to just abandon ship ASAP. Last time this happened to me I tried to reason with her and find out what I did wrong, so she sent a white knight my way to straighten me out. Almost got in a fight with a guy I didnt even know. NOT worth your time dude.

yeah i cant stand that shit...half the time , the white night doesnt even know the whole story.


the idea that someone can yank your chain for over a year and then when they dont want to talk to you anymore they can just basically have you removed from their life is completely ridiculous...no redeeming yourself...no explaining yourself..they just drop you and if you dont leave them alone they get vicious...then your just sitting there thinking "what did I REALLY do?..I mean REALLY?..was I THAT bad?"

 

[Kiwong]

I wouldn't mind to date an acrobat.

 

[theoutsider]

yeah i cant stand that shit...half the time , the white night doesnt even know the whole story.


the idea that someone can yank your chain for over a year and then when they dont want to talk to you anymore they can just basically have you removed from their life is completely ridiculous...no redeeming yourself...no explaining yourself..they just drop you and if you dont leave them alone they get vicious...then your just sitting there thinking "what did I REALLY do?..I mean REALLY?..was I THAT bad?"

The problem is her, not you. Why waste a minute of your day wondering what YOU did wrong? The only thing you did wrong was put up with her BS up until now. Definitely cut your losses. That's how you redeem yourself because guaranteed, she's going to think about what she did wrong in your absence.

 

[MotherWolff]

Guys flip out too. They get angry in the most violent ways more than most women. So......

Not that I am justifying a woman not being able to control her temper or anything.....

 

[Argentum]

I totally agree. Its kinda sad though, how hard it is to even build a true friendly bond with people, especially as we become adult....:sad:

I've had everything from threats on dating websites to cold shoulders to guys who bolt when they realize I'm not going to do anything sexy for them long-distance. People are crazy and it would be better for everyone to just stop. We have a rich language and rich communication mediums, and yet so few people can communicate honestly and efficiently.

It almost seems like it should be the opposite, that people are more able to hold onto friendships and have an easier time finding them as they mature. I watched Twilight ironically on Valentine's Day. I remember when someone looking at you funny during class seemed like a legitimate concern, and trying to find them later to figure out what their problem was seemed like a legitimate response. I got a lot of Schadenfreude out of that high school awkwardness.

 

[dannyboy65]

This just happened to me last year. This girl I was hanging out and talking to a lot, one day decided to just kick me out of her life. The reason was she got back with her ex boyfriend who cheated on her numerous times. She got her friend and her to threaten me and then kick me away. I was so confused, angry and depressed. It just felt like that's how all girls ended up treating me.

But now that I went and got help I can now tell who is worth the time to spend with and this girl does not sound right for you. I think you'll move on and make better friends. Best of luck!

 

[Bronson99]

Oh yeah Ive had this happen quite a few times lol. Like others said its best to just abandon ship ASAP. Last time this happened to me I tried to reason with her and find out what I did wrong, so she sent a white knight my way to straighten me out. Almost got in a fight with a guy I didnt even know. NOT worth your time dude.

Was this an electronic white knight, or did this happen in real life?

In either case, unless you were knowingly causing her distress, this kind of behavior ("why, I'll just summon 'tough guy' to take care of it!") is wildly immature, and shows you that the woman you were talking to is not ready to be in *any* relationship.

 

[Deco]

I've been through the same thing. But it is a harsh lesson we must learn. We can't make ourselves available all the time.