what words or sayings really hurt you?

[dancingintherain]

I'm a really sensitive person so there's a lot of sayings that hurt. One I really can't stand hearing is, "It's all your fault." My cousin, when she lived here, used to blame me for everything, both jokingly and during times when she was angry and something went wrong. It basically brings back all these flashbacks and I can't stand it. Leaves me feeling awful every time.

That's terrible.. I wish people would think before they speak. Sometimes I'm glad to have SA because I would never dare say such things to a person - or maybe I'm just too nice

 

[laure15]

If the words describe a fault in me then i feel hurt but if there just being nasty or thick im not bothered. If someone said to me "no one likes you" it hurts really bad..

Same here. When people tell me "no one likes you" or "everybody hates you" or something along those lines, I get hurt but I also want to tell them, "Actually, you are wrong. I have some family members and friends who love/like me so shut up and stop lying. I don't need people like you to like me." I don't need the whole world to like me, but at the same time, I don't want 99.9% of the population to hate me.

Being called "stupid" also hurts because I work so hard to get the grades I get and to have those people call me "stupid" just makes me question whether my efforts were worth it.

 

[Chess]

I think actions (standing me up for a date) or silence (not seeming to pay attention when I'm trying to talk about something important) are the worst for me.

 

[Etbow23]

When someone calls someone crazy or insane. I mean, I say things like, "that's crazy" and stuff, but I try to avoid labeling somebody crazy or especially insane.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

"F*ck you" would probably be one of them, plus anything that insults my intelligence or looks. Actually, pretty much anything that is even vaguely insulting hurts me deeply. I'm way too sensitive.

 

[A Many Splendored Thing]

"Get a life" annoys the hell out of me.

 

[Opaline]

"is it in all the way?"

Oh dear...

 

[kristina303]

Hahahaha.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I got called slow when i was having a minor panic attack when looking for a parking spot

 

[oddOne]

The few people I actually interact with treat me better than I usually deserve (I couldn’t find a way to say I’m attractive w/o sounding like a narcissistic @$$). Anyway, it’s sad but humans are essentially programmed to be superficial…

Getting back to what words/phrases bother me, questioning my effort usually causes me to get defensive . . . very defensive… Even when whoever is justified in questioning my effort, I can’t help but get at least a bit upset. It’s almost automatic . . . and it’s something I’m working on.