What do you see in the mirror?

[Skog]

Well, between the mirror and a photo, I will usually take the mirror. I don't see anyone attractive in the mirror, and I don't spend much time looking at mirrors anyway, but I guess the ability to turn and see different angles lets me see some better views and think I'm plain, but ordinary looking. Photos, though, yech. There is an occasional one where I look OK, but mostly photos make me feel very unattractive and unlikable. I seem to always be caught looking bad.

 

[OneOh1]

all I see is a loner loser

 

[IamThisOne]

I know what you mean. When I look into the mirror, I see bad memories, past embarrassments, and the person who I hate the most.

 

[fitftw]

I keep moving my body in and out of the light to get the best lighting to show off my abs and arms. I think I'm becoming obsessed with working out. Not too happy about that. But in a way I am. But it prevents me from being equal to women. When I was overweight I would like all women, but now I have standards and I don't like that very much. I'm a mess. I feel like I look scared all the time. Scared of what? Fear of unknown. Fear of future. Where am I going? Ugh.

 

[theslowesthand]

I've given up trying to understand that "thing" in the mirror. Whatever "it" is, i feel only strong negative feelings such disgust/weakness/discrepancy... when in that "negative world". Basically my mirror image (& my actual body) are/feel EXTREMELY INCONSISTENT with who i feel on the inside, hence the part of the deep unexplicable pain i suffer whenever i come face-to-face with "my other half" (not my better half - maybe my "evil twin"!). I couldn't have a body that is more out-of-tune with my personality/mind than what i have; it's just a basic, functional bits'n'pieces body thrown together by God out of the pile of reject parts, as he was desperate to squeeze-out a last few humans bodies made up of reject parts.

I think i hate fairly equally the physical & emotional (& maybe social/personality, but not mental) aspects of my mirror image.

For much of my life, my body/looks were been the bane of it, reflected in my body & mirror issues.

I used to have all my house mirrors covered-up. Nowadays i just avoid my reflection, unless i feel in the mood to feel self-disgust/etc. The time i've wasted in front of that damn thing. One time i even smashed the mirror in frustration!!.

 

[agoraphobickatie]

i apparently don't see anything that resembles what other people see... people compliment me, and i smile and say thank you politely, but that's all that happens.. i don't like what i see in the mirror. i'm going to keep this physical/literal, because i do happen to like who i am, just not what i look like.. i just dyed my hair back brown and i hate it, i feel like it makes my face look fatter and washes out my skin. my eyebrows are too thin and too light. my eyes are too small and boring. my cheeks are too big, when i smile it makes my eyes squint real bad, haha. my nose has a bump in it and i hate it. my skin isn't clear. my lips aren't full enough. and that's just my face i could go on and on... blahhhhhhhh

edit: <<<as i look at my avatar.. i even like that picture. my hair is lighter and my skin looks nice.. i feel like that doesn't look like me at all! even though it's a freakin' picture of me! lol.. wtf

 

[fitftw]

"it's no surprise to me, I am my own worst enemy. Cuz every now and then, I kick the living **** out of me" - a band called Lit

 

[agoraphobickatie]

^^ fantastic fukking song!!!

 

[Damaged]

I see a very lonely troubled girl, who has the biggest disgusting hips ever.

 

[Aussie_Lad]

I see an attractive man with nice pecs, but then I look down at my chest at realise that it was just an illusion.

 

[be_noticed]

i hate camera's so much. and even worse is that my friends are photogenic ::

 

[Katha]

I never look in mirrors, never ever ever ever.

 

[mrb]

i see a hole in my new jumper , and look at charlie my dog knowing it was one of his claws that did it he looks back as if to say prove it human its a battle of wills .... with him usually being the winner

 

[fitftw]

a loser, a failure, with no strengths and a whole mess of weaknesses.

 

[Mr.Moon]

I notice my hairs to....plain & ordinary. Other then that I reckon I look alright when I see a mirror.

 

[vj288]

This is going to sound weird, but when i look in the mirror i always seem to see a different person, depending on what mood im in. Like some days i look ugly and some days i just look totally different.

That made no sense.

No, I get what you were saying. Like you see the same person but different, but not really different. I mean for me some days I'll look in the and I'll think "Oh my god I'm one of least attractive looking people in the world with my gap teeth and stupid face. Doesn't help that I can't talk, looks like I have no personality either!" Other days though I'll look and think "Man, you look good, all handsome and mysterious! If I wasn't so quiet I'd be quite a catch!" Like I see the same person but he looks so different.

 

[tinyOctopus]

If I look into the mirror too long, all I will notice is the flaws. Too big of pores, horrible square-shaped face, and a hook nose.
If I see pictures, most of the time I do not look good (as expected). The few times I do look good, I feel like it's not the real 'me' in the picture. It feels like a lie; that it's only somehow a perfect angle, position, etc.

 

[Cotton]

I see fat.

 

[Dave1989]

I was wondering if anyone has this problem. When I look at myself in the mirror, all I see are flaws, nothing else. Yet in photographs I'm a completely different person. I don't recognize myself. Sometimes I wonder what's real and what's not. I have a really hard time accepting compliments, because what I see in the mirror is not what they describe. I usually try to avoid mirrors as much as I can. They only make me feel like putting a bag over my head ::

I can completely relate to this, I think I look ok in a lot of photos but n the mirror it is a completely different story.

 

[EscapeArtist]

a loser, a failure, with no strengths and a whole mess of weaknesses.

How! Why! I know you're a great person just by reading your posts! Not a failure at all! Wth?

I think it's less of that you are a failure, and more that you, even right there, are telling yourself you are. Sometimes faking it isn't a bad thing... We only are what we tell ourselves we are. And I KNOW somewhere in there you realize this is not what you are, because I can see that you take care of yourself in some ways (working out, etc) wanting to feel good, must mean that you care about yourself in at least a slight way!