What do females think of males who....

[coyote]

....are older, and have slept with a number of women and have been married & divorced a couple of times, and have a girlfriend but aren't in a strictly committed relationship?

Are we still desirable?

I feel like no one will ever want me.

 

[Beatrice]

I'd overlook it if the guy wasn't a total dou***bag.

Then again, I'm only 20, so why am I even replying to this thread?

Lol.

 

[thegunners21]

I think you constantly switching partners and having been divorced a couple of times might show that you are not stable and won't stay committed in a relationship.

If you will stay committed or not is something i don't want to accuse you with.

 

[Kinetik]

Well I think you're a sexy beast, but being a straight guy I'm definitely not the one to ask.

Now I want a thread for guys like me who are about halfway between virgin and washed up/over the hill.

 

[coyote]

I think you constantly switching partners and having been divorced a couple of times might show that you are not stable and won't stay committed in a relationship.

If you will stay committed or not is something i don't want to accuse you with.

committed relationship?

I've had my fill of those

I just want to have fun now

 

[IGotSeoul]

I can't help but imagine a much younger Clint Eastwood whenever Coyote comes to mind. What woman wouldn't want that?

 

[thegunners21]

Well then go get 'em tiger.

 

[userremoved]

 

[Nanita]

....are older, and have slept with a number of women and have been married & divorced a couple of times, and have a girlfriend but aren't in a strictly committed relationship?

Are we still desirable?

I feel like no one will ever want me.

Well I like older, and I like sleeping with numbers.

 

[Vampayah88]

You say u feel like no one will ever want you, yet u have a gf...ok.

 

[lurknomore]

It's definitely a joke, in response to all of the other threads that start with "what do females think of..." etc. I wonder whether the people posing these threads think they'll get an accurate answer here... perhaps if they want to know what girls with SA would think about them...

 

[MsBuzzkillington]

Everyone has their prefrences

however, as a girl I am quite turned off by people who post mocking threads in response to other threads that have been posted in a forum dedicated to depression and anxiety.

 

[lurknomore]

Everyone has their prefrences

however, as a girl I am quite turned off by people who post mocking threads in response to other threads that have been posted in a forum dedicated to depression and anxiety.

I can see your point, but I don't think he was really intending to "mock," just to use humor to point out the futility of posing such a thread. As you've said, everyone has their own preferences, and the real answer to those posing these kinds of questions is that there is hope for them, and that there are females out there who would like them regardless of their experience (or lack thereof)- they just have to find them... which is easier said than done, but worth the work if you're willing to try.

 

[Kiwong]

Sounds like a plot from an episode of the Young and the Restless.

....and seriously I think you would be highly desirable to women, Coyote.

We are both entering an age when all respective partners will be looking for is a heart beat.

 

[kihira]

It's definitely a joke, in response to all of the other threads that start with "what do females think of..." etc. I wonder whether the people posing these threads think they'll get an accurate answer here... perhaps if they want to know what girls with SA would think about them...

Everyone has their prefrences

however, as a girl I am quite turned off by people who post mocking threads in response to other threads that have been posted in a forum dedicated to depression and anxiety.

This may be a genuine question from the OP, rather than a joke, so perhaps ask for clarification from him before going up this path further?

 

[userremoved]

Hence the reason I was confused. I don't know when to take the OP seriously. But if it is a joke however, its not a funny one.

 

[kihira]

....are older, and have slept with a number of women and have been married & divorced a couple of times, and have a girlfriend but aren't in a strictly committed relationship?

Are we still desirable?

I feel like no one will ever want me.

We can be desirable for many reasons, the right people will overlook the past and seek your potential. Its good to feel wanted, but its best kept as a want, not a need.

 

[lurknomore]

Hence the reason I was confused. I don't know when to take the OP seriously. But if it is a joke however, its not a funny one.

My apologies if this was not a joke, however, I stand by my answer that there are women out there who will like you for you and not just judge you based on your history if you're willing to look for them- again, not an easy task.

 

[coyote]

it's not a joke - and I'm not mocking anyone

I do wonder if I'm desirable - it's something that I've always been anxious about

I felt the same way when i was a virgin 30 years ago

and I feel the same way, now, after having had sex 3,576 times

whether or not you've had sex or a relationship doesn't necessarily change the way you view yourself

why should my feelings of self worth be any less valid than someone else's?

so a few women have found me to be desirable on occasion

does that mean they always will?

does that mean the women whom I desire will find me desirable?

am I to impose limits on whom I seek as a prospective partner based upon whether my past has made me worthy of their acceptance?

what if I felt the need for all women to desire me?

is any of this rational thinking?

is it any more or less rational than worrying whether it was acceptable to be a virgin?

 

[userremoved]

Sorry then. Considering the content of recent threads and a lot of the responses I can understand you feeling put on the spot then.