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[coyote]

Sorry then. Considering the content of recent threads and a lot of the responses I can understand you feeling put on the spot then.

no worries - i tend to get needy when I haven't had any in a while

although my post may seem humorous, I suppose i was trying to make a point

a lot of people seem to think that their self-worth and social-anxiety will be miraculously cured once they successfully ask a woman out or have sex

as if the reason for their low self-esteem was caused by their lack of experience

and they seem to think that someone who has managed to have an intimate or physical relationship with the opposite sex can't possibly have any troubles of their own

but that's not the case

losing your virginity or getting a date is not going to automatically solve your self-esteem issues

it might help you feel a little better or more confident in the short term, but if you haven't addressed the root cause, it will eventually creep back in

and it could very well destroy the relationship you had hoped would save you

 

[userremoved]

I never considered any of that. But I don't anything on the subject of relationships. All I can do is take wild guesses and have people tell me how silly I am for thinking like that. But I guess you do have a point. A very depressing and sobering point, but a point none the less.

 

[silent k]

This may be a genuine question from the OP, rather than a joke, so perhaps ask for clarification from him before going up this path further?

then again, in the end, u believe what u want to believe.

 

[silent k]

no worries - i tend to get needy when I haven't had any in a while

although my post may seem humorous, I suppose i was trying to make a point

a lot of people seem to think that their self-worth and social-anxiety will be miraculously cured once they successfully ask a woman out or have sex

as if the reason for their low self-esteem was caused by their lack of experience

and they seem to think that someone who has managed to have an intimate or physical relationship with the opposite sex can't possibly have any troubles of their own

but that's not the case

losing your virginity or getting a date is not going to automatically solve your self-esteem issues

it might help you feel a little better or more confident in the short term, but if you haven't addressed the root cause, it will eventually creep back in

and it could very well destroy the relationship you had hoped would save you

i've realized that sometimes i catch myself turn a serious question into a joke, just to see how people react before i admit that i'm serious.

 

[coyote]

i've realized that sometimes i catch myself turn a serious question into a joke, just to see how people react before i admit that i'm serious.

humor is often one of the easiest ways for me to deal with the most serious subjects

everything i posted here is true

the most tragic events can be funny if looked at in the right way

 

[kihira]

then again, in the end, u believe what u want to believe.

Sorry silent k, I'm not sure what you are saying here?

 

[silent k]

because of this though, i often have trouble getting people to take me seriously, which can be very frustrating.

 

[silent k]

Sorry silent k, I'm not sure what you are saying here?

i try to read between the lines. just because someone tells u there joking, doesn't mean they are

 

[Waybuloo]

On first impressions it might seem like you fall in love easily or get bored with women, or that you pick the wrong ones and commit to them multiple times.

It takes a woman who understands multiple possiblities and gives you the benefit of the doubt to spend more time with you, with your friends and family, and to gleam more information and clues as to which of the above applies.

 

[silent k]

i try to read between the lines. just because someone tells u there joking, doesn't mean they are

what do u think phocas

 

[silent k]

sorry didn't mean to upset anyone

 

[coyote]

On first impressions it might seem like you fall in love easily or get bored with women, or that you pick the wrong ones and commit to them multiple times.

It takes a woman who understands multiple possiblities and gives you the benefit of the doubt to spend more time with you, with your friends and family, and to gleam more information and clues as to which of the above applies.

I will admit to having done both of those

 

[coyote]

You hurt just like everyone else here. I think all the maniacal pro virgin talk and people calling people who are not virgins "used stuff" and so on...well, it's not normal and it shows a certain amount of immaturity that is rolling around on here. This forum is not a good representation of how you will be judged out there in the real world, but you know that. At your age it is expected that you would have had relationships. I can't imagine any woman in her right mind turning you down just because you've had relationships in the past.

You are desirable. You are cute and from what I've seen you have a great sense of humor. Don't worry bout that. Now will you be still pulling in hotties at age 70, well I don't know about that, but the right cologne mixed with confidence works magic,

Your need for all woman to desire you....well not sure what that stems from, but do you REALLY want all woman to desire you or are you just an incurable flirt? And don't we all wish that the people that we desire found us desirable, but it just doesn't work that way. It would totally eliminate unrequited love which I find to be one of the most painful experiences a human can experience. Life would be freaking great if every man I wanted desired me too.

what about Old Spice?

 

[userremoved]

what about Old Spice?

I sometimes wonder, at what age should I start wearing the old spice?

 

[coyote]

I sometimes wonder, at what age should I start wearing the old spice?

dude, i've been wearing it for 20 years

i'll be bummed if they ever stop making it

 

[MollyBeGood]

....are older, and have slept with a number of women and have been married & divorced a couple of times, and have a girlfriend but aren't in a strictly committed relationship?

Are we still desirable?

I feel like no one will ever want me.

awee that's not true. But I do think most women desire to be in a monogamous relationship- but my views on all of this are changing....

i think it's kinda intimidating to be with someone who has been with a lot of partners personally. Like you're always worried will you measure up and why didn't any of the others stick. Also are they thinking of me during sex or someone else. this hits kinda close to home actually.

 

[kihira]

i've realized that sometimes i catch myself turn a serious question into a joke, just to see how people react before i admit that i'm serious.

Good point, I haven't considered this before. I also think its good to try to read between the lines - I'm not sure I'm any good at doing this - but, I suppose, be careful not to read what's not there as you may end up feeling as though you have offended people? - which you haven't

 

[JamesSmith]

I don't see how women would turn you down because you've been in relationships in the past. 99% of people in their 40s have been is relationships in the past, so it sounds like you're just like everyone else in that aspect.

Btw, Old Spice is the most underrated cologne on the market.

 

[MollyBeGood]

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[silent k]

Good point, I haven't considered this before. I also think its good to try to read between the lines - I'm not sure I'm any good at doing this - but, I suppose, be careful not to read what's not there as you may end up feeling as though you have offended people? - which you haven't

ya, i got a little impatient there. I wasn't sure if I did offend anyone, it's just that upsetting anyone is the last thing I want to do, so i'm glad I didn't. Your wright, I tend to take things to far. Thank you for helping me see my mistake. I'll work on it.