Ugliness

[sweetloli<3]

Lots of pretty people have social phobia... I don't think ugliness really matters that much. In my case, people call me pretty but I inherited my condition from my dad. I don't think there would be any difference if I was ugly.

 

[deleted user 1]

Lots of pretty people have social phobia... I don't think ugliness really matters that much. In my case, people call me pretty but I inherited my condition from my dad. I don't think there would be any difference if I was ugly.

Oh believe me, you'd be singing a very different tune if the shoe was on the other foot. The only people who ever talk of appearance not being important are attractive people who never have to deal with the converse set of circumstances. The vast majority of these people are the same who judge everyone else by their appearance. That does very little to quell my fury >:S

 

[Drew M]

The only people who ever talk of appearance not being important are attractive people who never have to deal with the converse set of circumstances.

^This.....

 

[coyote]

Oh believe me, you'd be singing a very different tune if the shoe was on the other foot. The only people who ever talk of appearance not being important are attractive people who never have to deal with the converse set of circumstances. The vast majority of these people are the same who judge everyone else by their appearance. That does very little to quell my fury >:S

^This.....

seriously - neither one of you guys are ugly, either

I've seen your pictures - you're both good looking guys

 

[inconspicuous name]

anyone who says looks don't matter is kidding themself, 95% of guys are nicer to hot girls than they are to girls they don't find attractive. the other 5% of guys are gay.

it's pretty hard not to be accidentally nicer to people you find attractive so it is a bit of an advantage in life, it definitly makes you feel more confident as well.

 

[Felgen]

anyone who says looks don't matter is kidding themself, 95% of guys are nicer to hot girls than they are to girls they don't find attractive. the other 5% of guys are gay.

it's pretty hard not to be accidentally nicer to people you find attractive so it is a bit of an advantage in life, it definitly makes you feel more confident as well.

I'm much nicer to an unattractive girl who respects me than an attractive girl who acts like a bitch to me.

 

[inconspicuous name]

I'm much nicer to an unattractive girl who respects me than an attractive girl who acts like a bitch to me.

that goes without saying, i was talking about first impressions. to me if someone is a bitch they lose all attractiveness and other people can become more attractive by having a nicer personality, i was simply talking about face values.

 

[DanFC]

I'm much nicer to an unattractive girl who respects me than an attractive girl who acts like a bitch to me.

Yeah, I think it's more about the attractive girl who's nice to you vs the unattractive girl who's nice to you.

 

[X-Rated]

Yeah, I think it's more about the attractive girl who's nice to you vs the unattractive girl who's nice to you.

well, i think we know who the winner would be in that situation..

 

[Isola]

Hmmm well...
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

 

[Cynicalloner]

I was called ugly by my classmates all while I was growing up eventually I started believing it that was the ugliest part of it all...

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I was called ugly by my classmates all while I was growing up eventually I started believing it that was the ugliest part of it all...

That is exactly why I believe it,too.
My first interactions with someone other than my parents and sister were in pre-school and were *all* negative. I was called ugly and stupid constantly- had no friends- got beat up-- and that continued for a long time. Through most of my school career.
Kids don't seem to understand how damaging that is to a person's self esteem.

I've found it impossible to 'un-believe' everything that I was told about myself and no matter what I'm told now, I don't hear compliments- only lies.

 

[Cynicalloner]

Same here McGee except I'm convinced now that they just said these kind of things because they were immature children...

 

[JamesSmith]

There have been times when i literally wished I was ugly. There have been times when women notice that I'm somewhat attractive, and then they notice that I'm shy. That is the worst feeling, to have a girl notice you and then just laugh at you and reject you before you and her even have a conversation. This is part of the reason I avoid eye contact with strangers, especially women. I got sick of them seeing what I look like and then seeing that I have anxiety and insult me, or saying something like, "Oh, but of course there is something wrong with him, he's a p----." I've noticed by avoiding eye contact people tend to not care as much about you, which makes me more comfortable. I'd rather have women not even notice me than have them think I'm attractive and then think I'm shy and say something about it or think something negative about my shyness. You see, when you make eye contact, you grab their attention and have to look at their face when they make that disgusted look that people make when they see your shyness. I'm not saying you should avoid eye contact w/ strangers, I'm just saying it works for me.

 

[krs2snow]

Ugliness comes in many shapes and forms. It's not only found on the external. Some of the most beautiful souls I've met have been conventionally "unattractive" pple. But their thrill for Life, their love and acceptance of others make them beautiful. Many pple who are attractive on the outside have ugliness w/in. Maybe its like a payback system, U know? Like Life hands u the things u need to work on and deal with. So, those born attractive have issues inside that they need to work on and those born not-so attractive have issues w/confidence and apperances that they need to work on.

 

[JamesSmith]

Max Reede: My teacher tells me beauty is on the inside.

Fletcher: That's just something ugly people say.

-From the movie, Liar Liar

 

[eek]

definitely a penalty, but at least you still get to play

 

[DanFC]

It really depends on the scenario.

If you're looking to hire a new sales person at your BMW dealership, and you have a choice between a hot, young coed with zero car sales experience versus a slightly less attractive woman with lots of experience, you're probably going to choose the coed. Why? Because the buyers of higher-end, performance-oriented BMWs are typically older alpha males desperately trying to retain their youth, and a young, attractive, flirty female can part them from their money better than anyone.

On the other hand, if you're trying to fill a position for a NASA engineer, you're going to pick the smartest, most skilled applicant, and looks will have zero impact on the decision.

Similarly, when you need a doctor, you couldn't care less what they look like (unless you're insane or a racist). If someone has a choice between a hot doctor who graduated from a state college with a 3.0 GPA, versus an ugly doctor who graduated from an Ivy League school with a 4.0 GPA, what sane person would choose the first doctor? "Oooo... if I choose the hot, but average-skilled doctor, there's a chance I might get some sexing!" I mean, come on. lol. ::

I agree, but what I was saying is that if the only difference between two applicants or whatever is attractiveness, than the more attractive person would be picked. There's no situation I can think of where attractiveness, and strictly attractiveness, is a negative, outside of a mugging or something XD

Ugliness comes in many shapes and forms. It's not only found on the external. Some of the most beautiful souls I've met have been conventionally "unattractive" pple. But their thrill for Life, their love and acceptance of others make them beautiful. Many pple who are attractive on the outside have ugliness w/in. Maybe its like a payback system, U know? Like Life hands u the things u need to work on and deal with. So, those born attractive have issues inside that they need to work on and those born not-so attractive have issues w/confidence and apperances that they need to work on.

I've met plenty of drop-dead gorgeous people who were also some of the nicest people I've ever met. And I've known ugly people who were fairly "mean", and not in a way that I don't think resulted from their physical status.

 

[JamesSmith]

I've met plenty of drop-dead gorgeous people who were also some of the nicest people I've ever met. And I've known ugly people who were fairly "mean", and not in a way that I don't think resulted from their physical status.

This is a great point. People can be rude no matter what they look like or nice no matter what they look like. The notion that good-looking people are stuck up is untrue and prejudiced. Also, the thought that ugly people are nicer in general than good-looking people is also untrue and prejudiced. I think whether someone is mean or nice is totally random and has nothing to do with looks.

 

[Richey]

anyone who says looks don't matter is kidding themself, 95% of guys are nicer to hot girls than they are to girls they don't find attractive. the other 5% of guys are gay.

it's pretty hard not to be accidentally nicer to people you find attractive so it is a bit of an advantage in life, it definitly makes you feel more confident as well.

in many situations this is true, but i think finding someone you get on really well with tends to make them look happy and sexy in a way even if they were considered average looking, if they are radiating personality for whatever reason then that can be just as powerful.

being average looking can be difficult because you don't know if you are considered ugly or good looking, but i think if you are happy and you are alive then that can be a good substitute for looks.