trouble holding down a job

[Richey]

I am have trouble holding down technical jobs because my concentration levels arn't all that flash where i work because i'm a bit self conscious it effects my performance quite a bit and my colleagues are very talented and sort of show off with their knowledge and confidence, so i dont expect to last a long time in the job, but i am happy to be gaining valuable experience and will go as far as i can, i am hoping to make at least six months to a year.

 

[scoobycrawler]

I hate work, work hate me, we are one big family do do do do dod od oddodododo
Little song I wrote to express how I feel about work.

 

[fitftw]

^ awesome song, can I have the mp3?

I hate work with a passion, it's more depressing than rain on a gray winter day. It's just UGH. This life is retarded. If you don't find a job you like, you'll end up hating your entire life. That's the sucky part, there's nothing I enjoy doing besides sitting at home, eating and playing videogames. Hell, I don't even enjoy that half the time. I just am comfortable doing it.

 

[skins]

That's all right - I won a disability discrimination complaint in the Human Rights Commission against a Federal Government department about social phobia. The Human Rights Commission will tell you that it is accepted as a disability.

I also won a workers' compensation claim, which was helped by having won the complaint before the Human Rights Commission. This is it:

Randall and Comcare [2006] AATA 433 (28 April 2006)

^^^damn what a big circus they made of of the fact that you were just uncomfortable socialising with other workers...it needed not have come to that, and ended up costing them in the long run haha idiots....what difference does it make as long as you can do you job well hey? which you clearly did...

unless you communicate with customers on a daily basis then communication in your job shouldn't have been the big issue like it was made out to be....i mean sending you off to psychiatrists and such, what a load of B.S they should of just left you to do your job...that Ms Hare sounds a real *******.

 

[JamesSmith]

^ awesome song, can I have the mp3?

I hate work with a passion, it's more depressing than rain on a gray winter day. It's just UGH. This life is retarded. If you don't find a job you like, you'll end up hating your entire life. That's the sucky part, there's nothing I enjoy doing besides sitting at home, eating and playing videogames. Hell, I don't even enjoy that half the time. I just am comfortable doing it.

I don't know if this helps, but millions of people have this same problem, not just people with SAD. Most people get jobs that are just "good enough" or that they can "last through." It's so sad because so many of us had dreams when we were kids, but most of us get stuck doing something that we can survive through so we can get a paycheck. Either that or someone winds up like me and have these long unemployment times where I can't get work which is even worse. I thought the movie Office Space is one of the best movies ever made because it shows what real life is like for a lot of people, of course in that movie Peter had some serious issues but the movie is accurate on the level that work is hell for most people.

 

[fitftw]

that's one of my favorite movies. Life is just one big bowl of suffering, and I have no motivation.

 

[Chriiss]

Yee I hate work.. Hate my job... But in this day and age I consider myself lucky to have a job. It took me a year but I got a job somehow. It's such a struggle to get up in the morning but somehow we keep trudging on!

 

[skins]

^^ so so true

 

[Kat]

You may benefit from looking into this

workplace.gov.au - National Mental Health and Disability Employment Strategy

 

[skins]

You may benefit from looking into this

workplace.gov.au - National Mental Health and Disability Employment Strategy

interesting read..bless the labour govt, this country's been long overdue for reform in mental health. thanks for the link

 

[babegolden20]

what about being a cdl truck driver there is good money in it and it would get you out your parents house.

 

[saturnalia]

I've struggled with holding jobs for 30 years. I've never really been able to hold down a fulltime job for more than a few months my entire life. Then about 10 years ago, I decided to learn web design on my own. Now I do very well designing, marketing and selling advertising online. I make more than I ever could working for anyone else. I work out of my home and correspond with people by email which works very well for me.

The internet has been my godsend for my social anxiety. I honestly don''t know where I would have ended up had the net not come along. I would not hesitate to recommend to someone with debilitating social anxiety to start some kind of a business online. It turned my life around and maybe it can for you, too.

 

[skins]

I've struggled with holding jobs for 30 years. I've never really been able to hold down a fulltime job for more than a few months my entire life. Then about 10 years ago, I decided to learn web design on my own. Now I do very well designing, marketing and selling advertising online. I make more than I ever could working for anyone else. I work out of my home and correspond with people by email which works very well for me.

The internet has been my godsend for my social anxiety. I honestly don''t know where I would have ended up had the net not come along. I would not hesitate to recommend to someone with debilitating social anxiety to start some kind of a business online. It turned my life around and maybe it can for you, too.

that's what i like to hear...you must be extremely lucky. a question for you though, do you find dealing with people by email only that your social life sufferes? or do you have social contacts outside of work that you can rely on? i found i only had what resembled any sort of social life was when i was working in my office job. now i wasn't that much into going out everyweekend or anything but i do believe that atleast some human interaction is important for our own wellbeing


after i lost the office job i did start to feel isolated a lot more once again. i guess thats why i've never really looked into work from home businesses, i feel the only way i'm going to get out there into society to meet people and improve is with the conventional style of job.

on another note i'm still managing to stay in this swim instructor job, its been ok but yesterday was a shocker and i felt like quiting. the only way i will leave it is if they fire me though...after finding it a daily struggle to make ends meet for about a year now, its a case of try and hold down a job, or die trying. if i could do what you do right now, i would drop it in a second though.

 

[saturnalia]

that's what i like to hear...you must be extremely lucky. a question for you though, do you find dealing with people by email only that your social life sufferes? or do you have social contacts outside of work that you can rely on? i found i only had what resembled any sort of social life was when i was working in my office job. now i wasn't that much into going out everyweekend or anything but i do believe that atleast some human interaction is important for our own wellbeing


after i lost the office job i did start to feel isolated a lot more once again. i guess thats why i've never really looked into work from home businesses, i feel the only way i'm going to get out there into society to meet people and improve is with the conventional style of job.

on another note i'm still managing to stay in this swim instructor job, its been ok but yesterday was a shocker and i felt like quiting. the only way i will leave it is if they fire me though...after finding it a daily struggle to make ends meet for about a year now, its a case of try and hold down a job, or die trying. if i could do what you do right now, i would drop it in a second though.

Lucky? As Trump says, "the harder I work, the luckier I get".

I'm not exaggerating when I say that I worked 80 - 90 hours per week for the first 5 years to build this business, and I still work 7 days per week.

Social life? What social life? I would rather not have to worry about money than have a social life. If there must be a trade-off, then so be it. To me, it's worth it. I've had plenty of social life before this business. I guess there is a time for everything. Now is the time to work for me and make hay while the sun shines, as they say.

You may not enjoy being a swim instructor, but for what it's worth, there are far worse jobs out there. I've taken jobs I won't even mention just for the sake of survival. But, those days are over. Keep up with your search for fulfillment, work hard and be the best you can be at all you do, even if you don't enjoy it, or it seems meaningless, and they can be over some day for you, too.

 

[skins]

Lucky? As Trump says, "the harder I work, the luckier I get".

I'm not exaggerating when I say that I worked 80 - 90 hours per week for the first 5 years to build this business, and I still work 7 days per week.

Social life? What social life? I would rather not have to worry about money than have a social life. If there must be a trade-off, then so be it. To me, it's worth it. I've had plenty of social life before this business. I guess there is a time for everything. Now is the time to work for me and make hay while the sun shines, as they say.

You may not enjoy being a swim instructor, but for what it's worth, there are far worse jobs out there. I've taken jobs I won't even mention just for the sake of survival. But, those days are over. Keep up with your search for fulfillment, work hard and be the best you can be at all you do, even if you don't enjoy it, or it seems meaningless, and they can be over some day for you, too.

thanks for your reply, you gave some good insight...

i'm never one to give up on somthing without first giving it a fair go, and thats what i'll do with this job...i realise most new jobs are difficult at first, but yeh i didn't realise just how hard it would be to deal with kids parents when they have had their eye on you the whole time, while you work..but none the less i will press on and hope the days get easier. because at the end of the day i know how much added stress a lack of funds can cause when not in paid work.

intersting how you talk about a social life not being a big prioity to you at the present. and it does seem many self empolyed people who are starting out with a new business venture will say the same. a few times i have heard of examples where for the first few years of their business they worked upwards of like 14hr days/7 days a week to get it off the ground...but in the end it pays off and these people have not just one but many houses to call their own.

for me i don't think i am self motivated enough to do somthing like that..but for you i'm sure there will come a time when you could possibly have many employees working for you, and thus more time on your hands to allow for a social life and/or hobbies.

to say you did some odd jobs that you won't even mention, i will just leave it to the imagination and assume you sold your body ...or you could have simply been doing a paper run, or dish pig job haha

 

[Fighter86]

Skins, what job were you working at for 4 yrs before you were made redundant? Was the company in financial difficulty? Because it makes no sense to make you redundant only after 4 years if it was because you weren't doing a good job. I had worked an entire year at a job before switching from job to job for the past year. The first job I worked at after the one 1 year at my previous job was paying me too lowly for the no. of hours put in. I then had a second job, which was pretty good actually, little work for the pretty good pay, and in a big company too with good prospects. Only thing, SA got in the way, the company was too big for for my SA to cope, they had regular events whereby hundred over people would attend, it was a nightmare. And the third one I held, the manager was a sadistic who enjoyed bullying new staff for sport so I left after close to 4 months. And the 5th, I was there for 3 days, the surroundings made me really uncomfortable, the people weren't nice, I was having difficulty talking to my boss etc. I am now at the 6th job with a highly demanding and emotional boss, work really long hours too. Normal work hours are about 9 here, but I work up to 11 half hours a day sometimes, even normally, I at at the office till 10 half hours a day. Even on weekends, I work an extra 2 over hours and so. Just like you though, I still hope to hold onto this job since this is my 6th in a year, I just don't have the energy to keep re-adapting. I just hope for a good increment now when confirmed, I deserve this much for the lengthy hours and demanding boss I have to deal with, she makes me do all these impossible stuff.

 

[Feathers]

I've had troubles finding a job where I'd WANT to stay more than a few months or a year... Some of them proved to be jobs and companies without vision that later collapsed (so I'm grateful I had the wisdom to not wanna stay there in the first place). But it's difficult finding a place where I WOULD like to work...
and sometimes they need people with additional/different knowledge..

It's like, I have this 'bull**** detector' and I can analyze flaws soo easily.. and decide 'this is a no-good company' or 'it's not sustainable'/not eco-friendly enough.. partly it's good, partly it's scary..
It's like everywhere I see things that could be improved... I may not have the courage & focus & drive or self-discipline to be a consultant or a full-scale entrepreneur or something like that... (?)
Some people do start a biz because they've been unemployable or such though...

I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to hold a job or have a career... But then again when I was a teenager I thought I'd never have friends or would never have anyone to fall in love with me or such.. So, things can happen even if you don't believe it...

 

[skins]

Skins, what job were you working at for 4 yrs before you were made redundant? Was the company in financial difficulty? Because it makes no sense to make you redundant only after 4 years if it was because you weren't doing a good job. I had worked an entire year at a job before switching from job to job for the past year. The first job I worked at after the one 1 year at my previous job was paying me too lowly for the no. of hours put in. I then had a second job, which was pretty good actually, little work for the pretty good pay, and in a big company too with good prospects. Only thing, SA got in the way, the company was too big for for my SA to cope, they had regular events whereby hundred over people would attend, it was a nightmare. And the third one I held, the manager was a sadistic who enjoyed bullying new staff for sport so I left after close to 4 months. And the 5th, I was there for 3 days, the surroundings made me really uncomfortable, the people weren't nice, I was having difficulty talking to my boss etc. I am now at the 6th job with a highly demanding and emotional boss, work really long hours too. Normal work hours are about 9 here, but I work up to 11 half hours a day sometimes, even normally, I at at the office till 10 half hours a day. Even on weekends, I work an extra 2 over hours and so. Just like you though, I still hope to hold onto this job since this is my 6th in a year, I just don't have the energy to keep re-adapting. I just hope for a good increment now when confirmed, I deserve this much for the lengthy hours and demanding boss I have to deal with, she makes me do all these impossible stuff.

the company wasn't in difficuty at all no, and i was doing a good job...i won't give too much away other then to say my department was being fased out, and 2 other people got the chop aswell as me.

your second job sounded like it had all things going for it..these don't come along that often and you should have made the most of it....its a shame your SA got the better of you...i felt like that at first in the job which i had for 4 years..but you know what, if i had of let it get the better of me and resign in the first year, my SA would be just as bad now as it was back then. 4 years of that job was more then any meds or CBT could have done to improve my SA, yes it took a while, but after a while i was so comforatble going to that job everyday, all the while practicing my social skills on a daily basis..it was soo good now i can make calls and answer the phone without difficulty, meet new people without fear and sound confident when talking etc. so yeh my advice if you find a job like that again, hang on to it for dear life, push through the pain barrier and come out the other side a better person.

 

[skins]

I've had troubles finding a job where I'd WANT to stay more than a few months or a year... Some of them proved to be jobs and companies without vision that later collapsed (so I'm grateful I had the wisdom to not wanna stay there in the first place). But it's difficult finding a place where I WOULD like to work...
and sometimes they need people with additional/different knowledge..

It's like, I have this 'bull**** detector' and I can analyze flaws soo easily.. and decide 'this is a no-good company' or 'it's not sustainable'/not eco-friendly enough.. partly it's good, partly it's scary..
It's like everywhere I see things that could be improved... I may not have the courage & focus & drive or self-discipline to be a consultant or a full-scale entrepreneur or something like that... (?)
Some people do start a biz because they've been unemployable or such though...

I'm not sure if I'll ever be able to hold a job or have a career... But then again when I was a teenager I thought I'd never have friends or would never have anyone to fall in love with me or such.. So, things can happen even if you don't believe it...

i'd love to be able to pick and choose jobs like that, but the reality for me is thats its just not wise...you see here if you arn't sacked and turned down a job or even a job ofter, then you are refused unemployment benefits for X amount of time. so you have to live out of your own pocket till either the time runs out or you get another job. for me i have nothing so i would have to cancel my internet connection and gym membership etc..that alone is enough to make me go insane. in hindsight i think **** i should have thought a lot more about how this job would be before i applied, but dang its too late now...i'm also relying on keeping this job to get my driver licence reinstated, so yeh im stuck pretty much.

 

[Dronee]

I've struggled with holding jobs for 30 years. I've never really been able to hold down a fulltime job for more than a few months my entire life. Then about 10 years ago, I decided to learn web design on my own. Now I do very well designing, marketing and selling advertising online. I make more than I ever could working for anyone else. I work out of my home and correspond with people by email which works very well for me.

The internet has been my godsend for my social anxiety. I honestly don''t know where I would have ended up had the net not come along. I would not hesitate to recommend to someone with debilitating social anxiety to start some kind of a business online. It turned my life around and maybe it can for you, too.

How did you motivate yourself when first starting out?