R3K
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so i was at work cashiering and there was a lull in the flow of business (finally) and decided to see what new magazines were on the rack in front of the checkstands, and what's the first thing i see?
Time Magazine:
The Power of Shyness
with a shy looking little boy standing in a white-walled corner in his sunday fineries holding something. my first thought is oh great here goes another socio-scientific "study" about social phobics being paraded by the world's eyes... how are they going to misinterpret us now?
i struggled with my angst through the first few dismaying sentences of the article before i got to a part where it mentioned that shy people and introverts aren't exactly the same, but that there is some overlap. so i thought, ok this article's not too bad i guess. but i couldn't get over the boldness of the article title...
then i had customers run up to the register and i had to go back to work.
anyway, it got me thinking, and i've delved a little into articles online going over the same concept but, generally speaking i'm still quite disappointed in these so-called studies that continue using outdated and archaic terms and standards for the whole social-phobic/high-sensitivity-person/introvert genre.
i get it... there are advantages to being shy and introvertive but, ultimately, utilizing and bearing those advantages upon the world requires many measures that would fall into the extrovertive category. enough so that you actually become an extrovert in the delivery process. i wish ppl would stop writing books and having these elaborate ego-boosting seminars about their introvertive nature and how it supposedly helps them succeed in an extrovert world. to me it sounds like they're really just clever extroverts, with little to no introvertive nature to begin with...?
but then, who am i to draw the line between true hardcore introverts and extroverts?
i'm so confused... am i supposed to use silence and thoughtful, intuitive gestures to convice my manager to promote me over the "loudmouth" who's more communicably efficient than I?
/rant.
p.s. is "communicably" even a word or did i just make it up? also, this is like my 2nd or 3rd time starting a post so plz be gentle on me
Time Magazine:
The Power of Shyness
with a shy looking little boy standing in a white-walled corner in his sunday fineries holding something. my first thought is oh great here goes another socio-scientific "study" about social phobics being paraded by the world's eyes... how are they going to misinterpret us now?
i struggled with my angst through the first few dismaying sentences of the article before i got to a part where it mentioned that shy people and introverts aren't exactly the same, but that there is some overlap. so i thought, ok this article's not too bad i guess. but i couldn't get over the boldness of the article title...
then i had customers run up to the register and i had to go back to work.
anyway, it got me thinking, and i've delved a little into articles online going over the same concept but, generally speaking i'm still quite disappointed in these so-called studies that continue using outdated and archaic terms and standards for the whole social-phobic/high-sensitivity-person/introvert genre.
i get it... there are advantages to being shy and introvertive but, ultimately, utilizing and bearing those advantages upon the world requires many measures that would fall into the extrovertive category. enough so that you actually become an extrovert in the delivery process. i wish ppl would stop writing books and having these elaborate ego-boosting seminars about their introvertive nature and how it supposedly helps them succeed in an extrovert world. to me it sounds like they're really just clever extroverts, with little to no introvertive nature to begin with...?
but then, who am i to draw the line between true hardcore introverts and extroverts?
i'm so confused... am i supposed to use silence and thoughtful, intuitive gestures to convice my manager to promote me over the "loudmouth" who's more communicably efficient than I?
/rant.
p.s. is "communicably" even a word or did i just make it up? also, this is like my 2nd or 3rd time starting a post so plz be gentle on me