Are you positive?i guess it shouldn't be surprising that negative people tend to view positive encouragement as a negative thing
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Are you positive?i guess it shouldn't be surprising that negative people tend to view positive encouragement as a negative thing
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yes, I agree I just want to help plus I love writing positive now. I feeling a weight left off of me as I write this thing to you guys.i guess it shouldn't be surprising that negative people tend to view positive encouragement as a negative thing
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But you're not really being positive-- you're being negative about negativity.
i guess it shouldn't be surprising that negative people tend to view positive encouragement as a negative thing
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There's a difference between saying 'you can get over this' and saying 'you're an annoying loser who can't get over their negativity'. There's also a difference between saying 'it's okay that you're being negative right now and I completely understand, vent away if it makes you feel better' and 'I'm not going to listen to your negative bullshit because it's irritating and it's bringing me down and I think you're a selfish twit for expecting me to listen to it'.
Positive encouragement involves helping someone to get over something, this is more like 'please don't bother anyone else with that shit'.
There's a difference between saying 'you can get over this' and saying 'you're an annoying loser who can't get over their negativity'. There's also a difference between saying 'it's okay that you're being negative right now and I completely understand, vent away if it makes you feel better' and 'I'm not going to listen to your negative bullshit because it's irritating and it's bringing me down and I think you're a selfish twit for expecting me to listen to it'.
Positive encouragement involves helping someone to get over something, this is more like 'please don't bother anyone else with that shit'.
but might not your mindset might influence how you interpret what is being said in the first place?
I have been hammered on by quite a few just because of a positive thread or posts. Misery loves company and positivity is usually not welcome in that realm.
Are you talking about the thread where you were taking such delight in hunting? People weren't upset because of your positivity... though I don't suppose it helps when you can be so enthusiastic about something that so many people are opposed to.
I highly doubt that your problem is positivity.
That's what the internet is like. If someone isn't getting what you're saying, then maybe you should explain yourself better.
All I'm saying is that attacking and ostracizing negative people isn't the same as being positive.
The physiology of mood disorders is complicated, and not particularly well understood. What we do know comes from brain imaging and looking at the levels of different chemicals in the brain. There may be some long, confusing words you've never heard of here, but stick with it, because what this stuff tells us is important.
In unipolar depression, the physical problem is believed to be an imbalance of either serotonin, noradrenaline or dopamine in the brain; or two or all three of those. Exactly how we don't know, and the exact imbalance is probably different for everybody, but generally speaking, most people with depression have less serotonin, or noradrenaline in their brain than healthy people do. The pathophysiology of Bipolar Disorder is poorly understood, but it is probably linked to the same three neurotransmitters as well as some structural abnormalities in the amygdala, basal ganglia and prefrontal cortex.1
PET (Positron Emission Topography) and SPECT (Single Proton Emission Computed Topography) scans are two types of brain scans which show how active or inactive the different areas of the brain are. PET scans of depressed brains compared to normal ones show a significant reduction in overall brain activity. This is why everything seems ten times harder when you're depressed and why it's much harder to concentrate and remember things. People with depression are like cars running on half a tank of gas, or in some cases hardly any gas at all. You can barely get out of the driveway, let alone make it around the block. In other words, if you're depressed, you can't expect yourself to carry on with your normal life while you are ill. So give yourself a break!
In people with Bipolar Disorder, PET and SPECT imaging usually shows decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex, which is involved in emotion and planning, the amygdala, which is associated with mood regulation, and the hippocampus2. This may explain the intense highs and lows bipolar sufferers experience. Patients in the depressed phased of a cycle show very similar scan results to patients with unipolar depression. In the manic phase, imaging shows both left-right and dorso-ventral asymmetry in the basal temporal cortex. I have absolutely no idea what that means.
But whether you have any idea of what a basal temporal cortex is or not, the important thing to understand is that...
[in serious mental illness] Your brain is physically injured, and like any other part of the body that has received a physical injury, it needs the proper care to heal... The problem that far too many people have is that they can't see the injury, therefore it is not a real injury... - Jerod Poore, Crazy Meds 3
Whether you suffer from a mood disorder or not, you should know that they are genuine medical conditions with physical manifestations in the brain. Just because you can't see the physical problem, it doesn't mean that it's not there. If you could have one of those fancy brain scans yourself, you would see it. Use this information to accept the fact that you're ill, and you need rest and medical treatment. You're not weak or selfish or any of the other things people may accuse you of. You're not well. Got it? Good.
i agree
what i'm saying is that negative people might see attacks where they don't always exist - due to their predisposition to see everything in a negative light to begin with
I have seen numerous threads suggesting that an entire forum should think or act a certain way. Not just this on this forum, either. Regardless of whether the advice is good or bad, I have never seen such a thread achieve anything like the desired effect.
It's especially unlikely to work if you suggest that people do something difficult, or that they don't want to do already. A thread suggesting that people eat more pie might actually have some small effect. Maybe.
A less ambitious approach is something like http://www.socialphobiaworld.com/the-positive-thread-23626/page-69/ , where at least people contribute when they decide to, rather than being advised that they should.
Attempts at positive thinking are of course much less popular.
This. Optimists don't seem to understand why pessimists don't just want to be positive like they do. Kinda like how extraverts don't get why introverts don't just want to be social like they are.i guess it shouldn't be surprising that negative people tend to view positive encouragement as a negative thing
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There's also a difference between complaining in a forum where people can choose whether or not they want to listen, and having a personal conversation with someone in particular and expecting them to listen to your complaining.There's a difference between saying 'you can get over this' and saying 'you're an annoying loser who can't get over their negativity'. There's also a difference between saying 'it's okay that you're being negative right now and I completely understand, vent away if it makes you feel better' and 'I'm not going to listen to your negative bullshit because it's irritating and it's bringing me down and I think you're a selfish twit for expecting me to listen to it'.
Positive encouragement involves helping someone to get over something, this is more like 'please don't bother anyone else with that shit'.