My body issues kick started that,now its just who I am/part of my personality.
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My body issues kick started that,now its just who I am/part of my personality.
1BlackSheep
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Me too, Drummer (except a guy not a girl)! I think it's just not in the cards for me. :
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Falkor
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I seriously don't know how I could be able to write that yesterday in this topic, that I actually laughed, that I was positive. Right now, i'm totally miserable.
I feel like I'm dreading the time I'm in class right now.
I think a depression mood is kicking it extremely, I feel like i'm self destructive and I need to go to a school-psychologist, I hope that helps any to talk to her.
I feel like I'm dreading the time I'm in class right now.
I think a depression mood is kicking it extremely, I feel like i'm self destructive and I need to go to a school-psychologist, I hope that helps any to talk to her.
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
I'm sick, fed-up being condesend to by my family, treated like I'm stupid, getting smart-arse replies to most of my questions, like everything I say is joke, apparently. Ha-f***in'-ha!
I think I'll keep myself to myself in future, cause it clear I'll never be taken serious. So what's point in trying, anyway?
I think I'll keep myself to myself in future, cause it clear I'll never be taken serious. So what's point in trying, anyway?
Agent_Violet
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Srijita52
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I'm sorry Graeme, I wish I knew what to say.
Gaucho
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my life sucks very much, I'm scared of new things, but have to fight my fears or i will stay like this forever. I'm even too scared to get my drivers license, sitting in that small room with strangers, were the teacher could ask me something, and i as usually wouldn't know the answer.
lonely_drummer
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Me too, Drummer (except a guy not a girl)! I think it's just not in the cards for me. :
I'm sorry blacksheep, some of us just aren't meant for it :
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Falkor
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That must be really pissing you, it's really mean to laugh about what you have to say, You have a voice to raise, so raise it, and don't give up on telling what YOU think, its'your words, clear!!! whatever, you know what you think!!!!
Rely on yourself, an individual is itselves best friend to trust
Graeme1988
Hie yer hence from me heath!
That must be really pissing you, it's really mean to laugh about what you have to say, You have a voice to raise, so raise it, and don't give up on telling what YOU think, its'your words, clear!!! whatever, you know what you think!!!!
Rely on yourself, an individual is itselves best friend to trust
Thanks for the good advice, Falkor. Aye, you're right, it does piss me off that everything I say, when I'm serious, seems to be unintentionally funny, especially to my mum and 2 older half sisters - even though I'm no trying to get laughs. I'm just being honest, truthful, - too honest for my own good at times - even if I do put things rather bluntly. The blessing and cure of having a Scottish accent, I guess. For some weird reason, nearly everything said in a Scottish accent is funnier.
KiaKaha
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I make people feel uncomfortable with my presence. It's a problem I have had my whole life. People see me - and it is visibly noticeable that people feel awkward. Smiles drop, eyes are averted. - obvious contempt towards me is often displayed.
I don't really know what it is. I cant figure it out.... but it makes me feel lonely, insecure and unhappy.... my mind starts to wander and I come to all kinds of conclusions of what it might be.
I find it interesting why people are so unfriendly towards people they dont know very well - when they themselves may be in that same position. You would think that a friendly gesture would be extended to people - because everyone at some point doesnt fit in... so why not show some warmth to strangers? It might be them on the other end of the stick one day.
I don't really know what it is. I cant figure it out.... but it makes me feel lonely, insecure and unhappy.... my mind starts to wander and I come to all kinds of conclusions of what it might be.
I find it interesting why people are so unfriendly towards people they dont know very well - when they themselves may be in that same position. You would think that a friendly gesture would be extended to people - because everyone at some point doesnt fit in... so why not show some warmth to strangers? It might be them on the other end of the stick one day.
coyote
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i know you don't want to hear this, but have you considered that maybe you just THINK that is the reaction that other people have towards you?
please don't misunderstand - i'm not saying you are stupid, and can't tell the difference - i believe you are very bright and introspective... but, perhaps you've thought about it too much
i'm suggesting that perhaps your depressed emotional state has led you to perceive things inaccurately (or at least from a biased perspective), or to make assumptions about other people's thoughts and feelings that might NOT be valid
either that, or there's something you're not telling us about your appearance, hygiene, manners, or demeanor (or perhaps something you're not even aware of) - that turns people off
but since i'm not there to see it happen for my own eyes - i really can't say for sure
i'm sorry that this is happening to you - even if it is all in your head - i'm sure it's a horrible way to live
that's why i keep trying to encourage you to look at other possibilities for a cause - like your own thinking
anecdote time - i was married to woman who suffers from depression and anxiety. on many occasions, i have been in the same room with her, having the exact same conversation with the same people - later, upon recounting the event, her version of what happened has been completely different from what i witnessed myself - what was said, the tone in which it was conveyed, the reactions of the other people, their mood, etc. - as though she were experiencing a completely alternative reality. try as i might to convince her that the conversation didn't go that way, or that the other people didn't react or display the emotions she thought they did, she is always adamant that her version is the correct one (and always a very negative version, too, i might add)
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alwayssunnyinphiladelphia
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Understanding Social Anxiety: Fear of Rejection | Psych Central News
Yea man look at this study people are put off by awkwardness and to be fair I don't blame them this is why I struggle so much also
coyote
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let's look at it another way....
a bright red shiny rubber ball could be sitting there in the street, minding it's own business
red is red - but what you perceive as red, and what i perceive as red, may take on entirely different aspects in our respective minds
to you it may evoke a negative response - to me, a positive response
this could be due to all sorts of things - environmental, inherited, who knows
that doesn't matter
what matters is that we both see the exact same shiny red rubber ball, sitting there doing nothing
but you see it as something bad, and i see it as something good
no one is wrong - no one is right
least of all the rubber ball - so it doesn't do any good to blame it
but if you can understand and accept that the difference is in your own perception and the emotions you attach to it, then you can work toward changing those perceptions or those attachments - if you choose to do so - to something different
that either...
1. doesn't cause you so much distress
or
2. conforms to the same perceptions and/or attachments that the rest of the world has
personally, i pick number one - the rest of the world be damned - i just want my own peace of mind
a bright red shiny rubber ball could be sitting there in the street, minding it's own business
red is red - but what you perceive as red, and what i perceive as red, may take on entirely different aspects in our respective minds
to you it may evoke a negative response - to me, a positive response
this could be due to all sorts of things - environmental, inherited, who knows
that doesn't matter
what matters is that we both see the exact same shiny red rubber ball, sitting there doing nothing
but you see it as something bad, and i see it as something good
no one is wrong - no one is right
least of all the rubber ball - so it doesn't do any good to blame it
but if you can understand and accept that the difference is in your own perception and the emotions you attach to it, then you can work toward changing those perceptions or those attachments - if you choose to do so - to something different
that either...
1. doesn't cause you so much distress
or
2. conforms to the same perceptions and/or attachments that the rest of the world has
personally, i pick number one - the rest of the world be damned - i just want my own peace of mind
MikeyC
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It hates you and wants you dead.
I flew out from Australia to see you, so there.
Invisibleman
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This thread reminds me of a friend and me hanging out the hotel window in paris screaming such hilariously pessimistic things:: oh right this is the negative thread uhm....theres no cinnamon rolls left and im really bored.
: oh right this is the negative thread uhm....theres no cinnamon rolls left and im really bored.