Sweet Marie's Thread
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:Hey Marie! Great to see you've got your own thread now!
Some interesting insights and posts already...
As for feeling the 'winter blues', I read that walking on fresh air at least half an hour every day (no matter what the weather is) should help. Personally I feel it helps, but I really have to wrap myself and get myself out there!
Dreams can also be affected by certain meds (personal experience), maybe read the small print of yours or check with your doctor or online?
((Hugz to the little kitties!!))
Some interesting insights and posts already...
As for feeling the 'winter blues', I read that walking on fresh air at least half an hour every day (no matter what the weather is) should help. Personally I feel it helps, but I really have to wrap myself and get myself out there!
Dreams can also be affected by certain meds (personal experience), maybe read the small print of yours or check with your doctor or online?
((Hugz to the little kitties!!))
Thanks Feathers! I've been having crazy dreams my whole life, so I can't blame it on the meds, haha.
I have been making an effort to get outside more every day, and yeah I definitely think it helps. When I'm inside looking out on the cold I feel completely unmotivated to do anything, but if I just bundle up and get out and be active for even just ten minutes, then I realize the cold is not so bad and I shouldn't let it stop me from getting things done. Today got up to 30F or so, and it felt like a heat wave. I keep daydreaming about warm days when I get to sit out on the lawn with a book and all my animals frolicking about. Can't wait...
I have been making an effort to get outside more every day, and yeah I definitely think it helps. When I'm inside looking out on the cold I feel completely unmotivated to do anything, but if I just bundle up and get out and be active for even just ten minutes, then I realize the cold is not so bad and I shouldn't let it stop me from getting things done. Today got up to 30F or so, and it felt like a heat wave. I keep daydreaming about warm days when I get to sit out on the lawn with a book and all my animals frolicking about. Can't wait...
Feeling a little bummed today. There's been more discussions in my household about putting our house up on the market. I don't want to sell the house, but I'm trying to be reasonable and open to good arguments for it.
It's just that, growing up so poor, my family was always moving along from house to house every couple of years, trying to find a new place we could afford, or a new house that some charitable soul would let us stay in. I grew up thinking that owning a house was some sort of Holy Grail, some unattainable desire or ultimate life goal that would make me complete if I ever managed to do it.
Now, having gone through the house-buying process with my partner and living here happily for over two years now, I kind of want to stay here forever. Granted, there are certain unforeseen circumstances that are creating compelling financial reasons to move, but I can't shake the emotional reasons that I want to stay. This feels like my first real home. This house is the perfect size for us. Our animals like it here and I feel that they are safe here. I'm attached to the neighborhood, even if the neighbors end up moving away because of the circumstances. Why not stay here and make the best of it? I just feel like selling the house and moving is just giving up on everything we thought we could have here. I don't want to live anywhere else. I don't want to move again. I don't want to have to learn how to live in yet another unfamiliar house. I feel like this permanence is good for me.
It's just that, growing up so poor, my family was always moving along from house to house every couple of years, trying to find a new place we could afford, or a new house that some charitable soul would let us stay in. I grew up thinking that owning a house was some sort of Holy Grail, some unattainable desire or ultimate life goal that would make me complete if I ever managed to do it.
Now, having gone through the house-buying process with my partner and living here happily for over two years now, I kind of want to stay here forever. Granted, there are certain unforeseen circumstances that are creating compelling financial reasons to move, but I can't shake the emotional reasons that I want to stay. This feels like my first real home. This house is the perfect size for us. Our animals like it here and I feel that they are safe here. I'm attached to the neighborhood, even if the neighbors end up moving away because of the circumstances. Why not stay here and make the best of it? I just feel like selling the house and moving is just giving up on everything we thought we could have here. I don't want to live anywhere else. I don't want to move again. I don't want to have to learn how to live in yet another unfamiliar house. I feel like this permanence is good for me.
A coworker posted this on facebook today. I love it. Sometimes I tend to get a little self-righteous, and I criticize that way that other people choose to enjoy their lives and their time and money. This is a good reminder to just do your own thing and not worry about whether or not other people approve or disapprove, or whether or not you approve of others. Those just aren't things worth worrying about.
Odo
Banned
^Well, just to be the devil's advocate, I would say that the annoying thing about people taking pictures of everything is the intrusion of technology into every single facet of life... like people who bring their radios on hiking trails, or spend your entire dinner together checking their phone.
Sometimes you just want a zen moment and it's pretty hard to get that when people are constantly clicking their phones, taking you out of your timelessness.
Sometimes you just want a zen moment and it's pretty hard to get that when people are constantly clicking their phones, taking you out of your timelessness.
Steiner
Well-known member
Don't really know the circumstances but I found from having moved recently was that it was hard at first but I came to love my new home more. My new home is smaller but I like it. I grew up in my old house and it made me feel melancholic leaving it behind. Though I like starting anew in a new environment. It helped me purge the bad memories I had because I am not constantly reminded of them by living in my old house.
You are right, and I know that I would be able to adjust to any new situation. I just tend to get really attached to places where I live, and I get sad having to leave them behind. I'd really like to find the perfect place to settle down for a good ten or twenty years at least. If it's not here in my current home, then so be it.
I'm also dreading the logistics of moving. The paperwork, the waiting, the hoping someone will buy, the searching for a new home in the meantime, the process of buying, the complicating matter of having a house full of animals...etc. It's so much stress when staying here would be so much simpler.
Then again, there's a lot of development going on in this area, so I'm not sure that my beloved neighborhood is going to be so charming in ten years as it is now.
Ugh.
Odo
Banned
I wouldn't expect any less from you.
And you bring up a good point. It's always good to be considerate of others, no matter how you choose to enjoy things.
I guess I do that a lot... glad you aren't taking it personally, Marie.
:thumbup:
GraybeardGhost
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I think I understand how you feel, Marie. Leaving a home is never easy. When I was 18, my family was forced to move out of the only home I had ever known. I felt like a tree being torn out by the roots. Unfortunately, staying was not an option. Since then, I have lived in a series of unenviable situations—parents' new house, dorms, apartments—but never a place of my own. In all these years, I've not been home.
I would dearly love to have my own house, my own yard, my own porch, my own place to sit and watch the world go by. I'd love to have a place where I might perhaps begin to live again, a place where I might comfortably grow old and die. If I had a place like that, I wouldn't want to leave it either.
But the idea terrifies me, too. So many decisions, and no room for mistakes. Realtors, lawyers, movers, neighbors: man, that's a lot of people (and we know what they're like). That's a lot for one cowardly little guy to handle on his own. You were very fortunate to have someone to help you through it all.
You've bought yourself a house, and in that house you've built a home, and in that home a life. I get why you don't want to tear it all down and try to rebuild it somewhere else, but when facing a juggernaut, what can you do? It won't be the same in another place, but that doesn't mean it can't be just as good. It could even be better than it is now, and it could be forever. It won't be easy, in any respect, but you have your partner (that's a lot of support, I gather), and you have your animals (that's a lot of love). The rest is dirt and glass and wood. And memories, but those you get to keep wherever you go.
Whatever happens, and whatever you decide to do, I wish you well. May your home always be a happy one, wherever it stands. I'll be watching this space with interest.
I found out last night that I've lost five pounds in the past month. :sad: This is a bad thing for me. Last year I had managed to gain a little weight for the first time probably since high school. And three stressful holiday weeks have taken it all away. I don't feel like I've been doing anything differently these past few weeks; if anything I've been eating more junk food and sugary stuff than I normally do. I'll just have to redouble my efforts to eat more healthy foods. Avocadoes, sweet potatoes, chocolate milk, nuts and seeds galore. Other than that, if anyone has any good suggestions, I'm all ears!
Steiner
Well-known member
I'd think the junk food would add pounds. =X
Hmm. Maybe exercise more and get your appetite up.
I do need to stay more active, especially in these winter months. I tend to go into hibernation mode, sleeping all day and being so lazy that I don't even want to get up to eat. That's no good! I've spent a lot of time cleaning up the house this weekend, and I've noticed that my appetite has been substantially better. I don't know why, but even just doing yoga in the living room seems like such a hassle during the winter.
Nanita
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I´m very thin and I never gain weight really. For years I tried gaining weight by eating lots of junk food, but I did not gain weight or look bigger, it just made me unhealthy really.. So now I more or less accepted that I will probably always be very thin, but I stopped eating so much junk food.. Now I eat mainly vegetables (lots) and fruit and also excercise (not a lot though).
Yeah, I had pretty much accepted it after desperately trying to gain weight in my early twenties. But when I gained five pounds in 2013, I loved how it made me look and feel. I'm just really disappointed that it went away so suddenly, and it makes me worry why.
