Sorta dating question...Don't know what to think ?

[Agent_Violet]

Honestly, it sickens me that so many people want to try to make the OP feel like she still might be interested just because you want to think that there is no unfairness in the world.

I hear ya on things that are sickening. It's completely sickening when someone is practically drowning in their own bitterness and negativity so they try to drag as many people down with them as they possibly can.

Another thing that's sickening,while we're on the subject, is someone who has such a tainted,skewed view of women when deep down the person knows absolutely NOTHING about women and how the minds and hearts of women work. It's sickening when these types of people try to speak about a woman's motives as though they're experts while everyone else,including the women themselves,are completely clueless on the subject.

 

[truffleshuffle]

Look on the bright side, at least she didn't one-date you without any kind of sex or intimate acts and then say she's not intersted in you. That's the worst.

That was the worst for me. I've had multiple women date me one time and then either say they just want to be friends or ignore my messages completely. That's the worst. It's just one big tease, and the guy doesn't even get sex out of it.

I'd much rather have a woman use me for a one night stand of sex.

From you posts about women you seem to be very bitter. You might want to look into that. It could be the reason you don;t seem to find women that want more than one date with you. I mean I don;t have all that much success with the opposite sex but I know not all women are like the ones I have run into and know there are good women out there. You on the other hand seem to just hold onto the bitterness or atleast thats the way you come off.

 

[laure15]

I actually had one time where a woman told me she was talking to me online just to be nice. That kind of stuff happens all the time. She was just honest about it, which is rare with stuff like that because it's actually rude to tell someone you are just talking to them to be nice.

There are some women who can be blunt and straightforward with men, but many women are very subtle and indirect with their behavior so they keep you guessing at their intentions. I guess it's the way women are raised in society. On the other hand, many men can be straight up blunt and "in your face". For example, men are not afraid to admit that they are attracted to a woman because of her looks. This also reminds me of gender differences in bullying; when guys bully, they get more physical with each other, but when girls "fight", they do verbal name calling and spread malicious gossips.

 

[teandtoast]

To the people trying to say she was "scared," you do realize she moved from a dating site to a friends site to talk to him.

I'll put it this way, if she really was interested in him, she would have immediately explained her reason for deleting a dating profile. Either that or sent him her digits.

Btw, just because she's sending a friend request on facebook doesn't mean she even wants to be real friends. There are people with thousands of friends on facebook and they don't want to talk to many of those people, and yes, even people they friend requested.

Is it so hard for you to believe that she was just trying to nicely tell him she's not interested? Women do reject guys you know. I think this woman is trying to be nice about it, which believe me, that happens all the time.

I actually had one time where a woman told me she was talking to me online just to be nice. That kind of stuff happens all the time. She was just honest about it, which is rare with stuff like that because it's actually rude to tell someone you are just talking to them to be nice.

Honestly, it sickens me that so many people want to try to make the OP feel like she still might be interested just because you want to think that there is no unfairness in the world.

Oceanmist - I totally hear what you're saying to be fair, which is why it kind of confuses me. I'm not getting my hopes up but if she was nicely telling me she was not interested why add me on facebook.
Funny thing is she used to be friends with me on facebook about 6 years ago but then deleted me around them, the online dating saga was about 2 months ago and she only has about 300 facebook friends (so it's not like she's one of these people who add anyone and everyone with thousands of friends)....which is why I find it weird as if I was her why would she even bother making friends with me as she knows I showed interest in her in terms of dating previously and could give wrong impression and Im sure she woouldnt want the fuss with that type of thing of someone bothering her if she has no interest.
who knows

 

[gummybear22]

i feel like i'd ask someone what their motive is in adding me after deleting stuff, but then they'd be scared off cuz they don't want to talk about it.

 

[MikeyC]

Another thing that's sickening,while we're on the subject, is someone who has such a tainted,skewed view of women when deep down the person knows absolutely NOTHING about women and how the minds and hearts of women work. It's sickening when these types of people try to speak about a woman's motives as though they're experts while everyone else,including the women themselves,are completely clueless on the subject.

Oh, golden post. erfect:

It's okay, everyone. OceanMist's views should not be taken with any truth. He has a history of misogyny that he chooses not to acknowledge.

To the OP, there could be 100 reasons why she deleted her profile, but the fact remains that she still wants to talk to you. I say don't analyse it and take it for what it is.

 

[truffleshuffle]

Oh, golden post. erfect:

It's okay, everyone. OceanMist's views should not be taken with any truth. He has a history of misogyny that he chooses not to acknowledge.

To the OP, there could be 100 reasons why she deleted her profile, but the fact remains that she still wants to talk to you. I say don't analyse it and take it for what it is.

I got to agree with mikey., don;t over think it and just take it for what it is. she wants to talk to you atleast.

 

[gummybear22]

well i'd rather take what someone says in truth than think there is no truth to what they say (unless i knOw they're lieing)

 

[teandtoast]

cheers for your comments, taken onboard.
she was on the chat earlier and almost said hi but saw post she made about being busy finishing work project for tomorrow so thought prob not best time.
I just realised too it was back in March I messaged her (only seemed few months back) so probs nothing to it now but may just say hey anyway.

 

[jc82789]

i have kinda had this experience before...ive seen guys that i know and i delete my account before they see mine because it is kinda embarrassing to see someone you know on a dating website...but if she took the time to find you on facebook then she must be somewhat interested in talking to you...maybe shes shy too and posted on your wall to see if you would say something back...just comment back saying thanks how've you been..or something like that

 

[bleach]

for God's sake just don't apoligize for messaging her, you're going to sound like a pussy. especially since it was 9 months ago!

 

[teandtoast]

could say hey hows it going, found the man of your dreams on that dating website yet lol

 

[gazelle]

^ I wouldn't say that, she might think you're being sarcastic.

 

[teandtoast]

yeh was a joke

 

[gazelle]

oops! My bad then lol.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

You wanted to contact her and then when she contacted you back you were going to deny her? Where's the logic in that lol? Anyway i'm sure she's interested so if you are interested back then talk to her and then ask to hangout.

 

[teandtoast]

You wanted to contact her and then when she contacted you back you were going to deny her? Where's the logic in that lol? Anyway i'm sure she's interested so if you are interested back then talk to her and then ask to hangout.

When I said that (about denying her) I hadn't really thought she might want to get in contact, I just thought oh now she wants to be friends on FB after kind of giving me cold shoulder on dating site which bit rude.

But anyway I've realised it was actually 9months ago I contacted her on dating site (time has flown this year thought was only while back) so I don't think her adding me on FB after all this time is her giving indication she maybe interested or even chatting, I'm sure if she was she'd say hi, which why I kinda don't wana make myself look like idiot and start messaging her if she kinda gave me indication on dating site or didn't contact back sooner and now just being friendly on FB.

 

[truffleshuffle]

When I said that (about denying her) I hadn't really thought she might want to get in contact, I just thought oh now she wants to be friends on FB after kind of giving me cold shoulder on dating site which bit rude.

But anyway I've realised it was actually 9months ago I contacted her on dating site (time has flown this year thought was only while back) so I don't think her adding me on FB after all this time is her giving indication she maybe interested or even chatting, I'm sure if she was she'd say hi, which why I kinda don't wana make myself look like idiot and start messaging her if she kinda gave me indication on dating site or didn't contact back sooner and now just being friendly on FB.

I would still messanger her and see whats up you never know. She would not fb friend you if she atleast didn't want to talk to you

 

[teandtoast]

I would still messanger her and see whats up you never know. She would not fb friend you if she atleast didn't want to talk to you

yeh guess you right, will do that and see what happens. She can always defriend me again lol.

 

[InvisaLady]

I would say just do it. What's worse, The inner turmoil of not knowing or knowing?